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Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/24/2005 4:21:50 PM   
Darthbetta


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Status: offline 		My collared Kajira recently had to send her 3 kitty cats back to her mothers and one wiht a friend due to her moving here with me because of a bad situation with her living arrangements in her "summer home" ( wood stove and frozen pipes are no fun). I was able to take in her turtle, snakes, 2 loveable rats, and her one cat that gets along with mine, but saddly she had to leave her 4 ferrets with a friend localy ( whom she can visit every week), and her 3 cats that had to go back to Brooklyn.

She was an emotiuonal mess, and we talked and I consoled her ( TLC is very important part of my Toping in our 24/7).

So in the stress, I told her to fix a hot bath, and she did. she added bath salts, and hopped in.

I brought her a glass of nice wine, and heated up a large volume of water on the stove so that it would "super heat" the tub water once it got cooled down a tad ( as it does with time). I had some incense, and the tunes on, so it was very nice and relaxing.

some people never give their subs any of this affection, and I was wondering if I was alone in this sort of thing as I have read in the past that there are very rare occourances of kindness and generosity with some relationships and "slaves".

There are numerous other things that I have done int he past, so I was just wondering what you have done recently tht was "over the top" to being sickningly nice ?
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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/24/2005 5:03:46 PM   
SirTyson


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Status: offline 		Hey Darth,

You are not alone in this type of treatment with a sub. I also believe TLC is a much needed thing for a sub during difficult time, or even times of celebration for something. I have a romantic side to me which makes me enjoy doing nice things for a sub when the time warrants. Being that I dont have a sub at the moment, I haven't done anything recently but I can tell you of something I had done in the past.

My sub's mother had past away and it was an extremely difficult time for her since she was very close with her mother. After she got the news, we layed down for a while and I just held her as she cried through the night. The next day while she was with her father I went through all her pictures and picked out all the ones of her and her mother from when she was younger. I put them all into an album together along with some cards and letters she saved over the years from her mother. Her mother was a wonderful woman and I loved her very much. She was very much the practical joker and always would do anything for a laugh. I brought the photo album with me to the funeral and hide it from my sub. After the funeral, once everyone left, we sat there together and we looked through the photos and letters remembering all the good times we had with her mother and all the jokes she would play on us, and us on her. This started to make her feel very good inside and not so alone and depressed. Once we got home and we were getting ready for bed, I had gotten a blanket her mother had made her from her father and gave it to her when we went to bed. I wrapped it around her and told her, her mother will always be here with us and every time she felt that blanket around her, think of her mother and her arms around her.

For her bday one year I gave her a 9roses, each one had a note attached with a reason as to why I loved her. One note and one rose for the 9 months we had been together. After talking her out for a romantic dinner, I drew a path for her with salt and everything and picked the petals off another dozen roses I bought to put on the floor and in the bath tub with her. While she was taking her bath I then through rose petals on the bed and all over the floor in the bedroom. Her eyes lite up when she walked into the bedroom. Then I gave her a massage with oils and then... well I dont kiss and tell...sorry...lol.

So no, you are not alone. I also enjoy doing nice things for a sub when the time calls for it. Its one of my ways to show her I appreciate her, everything she does does for me, and for the gift of her submission to me.

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/24/2005 5:09:48 PM   
masterLon3446


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Status: offline 		Darth...again your not alone I too believe in TLC, most dominants do not show their soft side but I think they all have a soft side to them once in a while, would like to think so anyway....

MasterLon

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/24/2005 6:28:33 PM   
velvetvixen


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Status: offline 		While I will keep private what Master does to show me that he cares for and loves me, I can say that it is well expressed and perfectly timed.

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/24/2005 7:04:38 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		As I know when to give a spanking, I know when when to give the TLC. Sometimes it's the same thing

Body language is important as I also want to know how a subs day went after they get back home or when I'm talking to them at night.

But yeah I like doing nice things. The good, the bad and the ugly. I do them all in my own twisted ways.






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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/24/2005 9:32:12 PM   
willing2serve


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Status: offline 		I do commend all of you Doms/Masters for taking care of your One. I am certain your submissives care for you deeply and honor you.

Lovely thoughts Darthbetta; however, after reading your mind phuck series would be a little leery of the tub...(smile)

Again, nice to know that TLC and Aftercare is not extinct.

Respectfully,
Willing2serve

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/25/2005 6:41:04 AM   
Darthbetta


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Status: offline 		well "drownding" is not something that I would consider play.
there is a serious risk and uncontrolable element in water play. I for one do not do it.

Dunking in a pool while playing "chicken fights" is one thing, but setting a toaster to " DARK" and dropping it in the tub to "heat the water" is another entire monkey. and NO , I wouldn't do that either, nor would I ever restrain someone while immersed in water. That all is just bad form and calls for "trama".

This is just all about doing nice things, and putting the D/s and games aside.



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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/25/2005 1:19:33 PM   
feline


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Status: offline 		Aaaaaww . . . your subs/slaves are/were very lucky to have all of you. Keep up the great work.


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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/25/2005 3:35:31 PM   
MrThorns


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Status: offline 		One of the nicer things that I do for my slave is to give her a nice, warm, long bath with bubbles, candles, and insense. Taking my time in washing her hair, washing her body...everything nice and relaxed.

Now I enjoy this too...so I can still consider myself to be a selfish and Evil bastard...but I'm okay with that.

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/25/2005 6:36:37 PM   
Bigbossman4u


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Status: offline 		I am a romantic at heart... and I do not find it at odds with my desire for power exchange nor my sadistic streak. Sometimes it requires a little juggling but that can usually be fun too.

Even with family and friends I love to lavish them with attention and sometimes gifts, and I'd never attend a dinner party without something in hand - so why would I ever consider engaging in D/s relationship (either casual nor longterm) without showing my appreciation for their wonderful gift of submission? I have no qualms about being a nice guy, bullying is just not my style (though it can be fun at times). Nor do I believe being loving, caring, sensitive and understanding is in any way incompatible with being Dominant in a relationship - in fact, in my limited experience - it's an integral part. As integral as punishment is when deserved - removing that attention and warmth is perhaps the harshest punishment I could ever dish out - espeically if I make her kneel barekneed on uncooked rice while being ignored. <evil grin>

It is heartening to see others feel the same way about their role as a Dom/Master.


Best,
Joshua



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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/25/2005 8:13:57 PM   
domtimothy46176


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Status: offline 		I love my girl for who and what she is, although I vehemently deny being in love with her. I just wish she would quit smirking when I make that distinction. *sigh* Gloating is so not a becoming behavior in a submissive.
As to the topic at hand, I often find myself in a position of nursing my girl when her health isn't what it could be. I feel like it is a natural extension of my responsibility for her well-being and very much in line with my desire to enjoy her prescence here. The better I take care of her, the quicker she returns to health and the quicker she can serve me.
Unfortunately one of the side-effects of my nursing my girl is her guilt. she feels guilty when she can't serve and even guiltier when I'm in a position of serving her because she can't fend for herself. One of the biggest challenges I've had isn't finding ways to show her how much I appreciate her service and respect her for the wonderful woman she is, but in teaching her to accept the gentle, loving aspect of our relationship. She can take a spanking much easier than she can breakfast in bed.
I would love to hear from anyone else who is or has been in a similar situation, from either side of the slash, as well as ways to overcome the girl's feeling of unworthiness. Thus far we've made a great deal of progress but I'm always willing to learn new ideas.
Timothy

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/27/2005 6:45:47 AM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		when i feel uncomfortable with being pampered, to be reminded that if its his pleasure to do so, i should have no problem with that, this makes it easier somehow.

to be reminded that this is a relationship, be it D/s or whatever, a relationship is give and take.

on days that are rotten for me, and i know he's easing off on his demands because of this. being allowed to double my efforts the next day without being accused of fussing, helps me tilt the balance out of the red.

A need to serve can be substituted with the need to submit and visa versa for me, sometimes im in a frame of mind that allows one more so than the other. A indulgent D, on my not so good days, is always appreciated and wise perhaps.

remembering that in order to be the best she can be for you, she must be in top form. A little rest right now, means she'll be fit for a rough ride later, sooner

and sometimes, the style of play can be verbal, intensely so. most of us submissives adore the sound of their Doms voice. That is pampering indeed.

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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/27/2005 7:16:34 AM   
domtimothy46176


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Status: offline 		Thanks, I shared that with her this morning. Much of it is similar to things I've told her myself but perhaps hearing it from another submissive will help reinforce it.
Timothy

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ORIGINAL: pandoravampire

when i feel uncomfortable with being pampered, to be reminded that if its his pleasure to do so, i should have no problem with that, this makes it easier somehow.

to be reminded that this is a relationship, be it D/s or whatever, a relationship is give and take.

on days that are rotten for me, and i know he's easing off on his demands because of this. being allowed to double my efforts the next day without being accused of fussing, helps me tilt the balance out of the red.

A need to serve can be substituted with the need to submit and visa versa for me, sometimes im in a frame of mind that allows one more so than the other. A indulgent D, on my not so good days, is always appreciated and wise perhaps.

remembering that in order to be the best she can be for you, she must be in top form. A little rest right now, means she'll be fit for a rough ride later, sooner

and sometimes, the style of play can be verbal, intensely so. most of us submissives adore the sound of their Doms voice. That is pampering indeed.


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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 1/29/2005 10:28:29 AM   
Interesdom


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Status: offline 		Hey guys, come on now, stop this! We'll have the newbies thinking that us dominants are actually human if we admit that we actually care for the people who do so much for us!

Of course any decent man (read: sucessful dominant) will take care of his girl and look after her but all this talk will never do: we'll lose our image entirely!


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RE: Nice things you do for your subs. - 2/2/2005 9:24:31 AM   
Somnovi


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Status: offline 		Actually I did slip on the tub and bruise myself pretty badly but thats cause im a clutz

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