So much for taking things slowly?

So much for taking things slowly? (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion

Message

warmwoman29 -> So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 10:40:22 PM)
Oh my gawd! has a stunned look on my face I cannot believe the conversation I just had. This man tells me that he's willing to take things slowly, that sex isn't all there is to a D/s relationship and that he is looking for long term. After more detailed conversation, I discover that he's only here to find someone for sex. What a joke.

juliaoceania -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 10:44:56 PM)
I am sorry you had such a bad experience... at least you discovered it quickly enough to save yourself actually having sex with him... better luck next time

truesub4u -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 10:48:44 PM)
always nice to get the sex finders outta the way .....so YOUR time isn't wasted to much...and the ones that here for the real... can enjoy your company more.

warmwoman29 -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 10:54:46 PM)
But it's so sad. This happens ALL the time. I've yet to meet anyone here who is genuine -- meaning they say what they mean and mean what they say.

truesub4u -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 10:58:22 PM)
true...and understandable....so best to turn off pc... go to local munches... community gatherings.... meet real people there that are honest about whom they are.. what they seek. (Yeah like there's a difference sometimes....lol).. but it beats on line games and bullshit. Go with off line... you'll enjoy yourself more...

warmwoman29 -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 11:00:31 PM)
chuckles sadly, I've tried that path over the last 2 years. I had less success than I've had online. The people at munches and parties already have someone and those who do play with me, do so once and never again, not because of lack of enjoyment, just lack of continuing interest.

juliaoceania -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 11:04:56 PM)
deleted because jessica said it first...ooops

diamonddreamlove -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 11:15:09 PM)
I have met some wonderful Doms here and some skunks too. Just because some smell bad doesn't mean you should give up on them all. Sometimes i wish i could just share the names of the truly wonderful Doms i have met and become friends with but guess that is against the rules. Anyway just like job hunting one receives more nos than yes and it only takes one really good yes to make the hunt worth while. Keep looking and it will happen.

warmwoman29 -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/15/2006 11:22:15 PM)
Yes! Just as I wish I could tell you all the name of the sex fiend I talked with this evening! But again, not allowed to slander people, and I suppose there is no law against looking for sex online.

julietsierra -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 12:22:53 AM)
It took me five years to find someone who genuinely lives by the code of "say what you mean; mean what you say. Good people are out there. And it definitely is something to behold. You know what's funny though? (And more than a little sad?) Throughout the years we've been together now, he's had to pay the price for all the liars that came before him because it was so extraordinarily different to actually find someone who lives his life that way, that often (even still), I find myself wondering "does he really mean that?" But each and every time, I am astounded all over again, because he really does. juliet

gypsylee -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 12:23:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: warmwoman29 But it's so sad. This happens ALL the time. I've yet to meet anyone here who is genuine -- meaning they say what they mean and mean what they say. hugs warmwoman. it is sad and very disappointing. makes you feel like joining a nunnery.

AngelfaceDallas -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 12:23:47 AM)
To find out the sooner, the better.

becca333 -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 6:11:27 AM)
Assume they're all cheats and liars, it saves time. And when you do meet the lovely, genuine ones, it's an even greater joy.

gypsylee -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 6:51:58 AM)
then you find out they're gay ;)

MisPandora -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 6:53:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: warmwoman29 Oh my gawd! has a stunned look on my face I cannot believe the conversation I just had. This man tells me that he's willing to take things slowly, that sex isn't all there is to a D/s relationship and that he is looking for long term. After more detailed conversation, I discover that he's only here to find someone for sex. What a joke. Um, ok. And you're telling us all this why? It's not like we've all not been in the same boat......right?

toservez -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 6:53:41 AM)
People are often able to string together a few messages, phone calls and even live face to face conversations by saying what they think you the other person wants to hear. Most reveal their true selves over time by getting too comfortable and letting their guard down. It is unfortunate but it happens and is not exclusive to cyber world. It happens plenty in real life as well and there is not one magical place that prevents people from hiding their true selves and motives. Like a lot of advice on most everything, patience, keeping the eyes and ears open and moving at not too fast of a pace works to eliminate these types.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 7:03:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: warmwoman29 Oh my gawd! has a stunned look on my face I cannot believe the conversation I just had. This man tells me that he's willing to take things slowly, that sex isn't all there is to a D/s relationship and that he is looking for long term. After more detailed conversation, I discover that he's only here to find someone for sex. What a joke. The moral (s) of the story are that the internet is open to anyone at all, that you can't everyone on here you meet, many people drift onto sites like this just looking for kinky cyber, that you should take your time to get to know people and you should be very careful before you agree to meet "face to face" if it ever gets that far, which it probably wont once the person on the other end knows they are talking to a real person who has a brain-since they're looking for an easy time. HalloweenWhite.

sublizzie -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 7:26:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: warmwoman29 But it's so sad. This happens ALL the time. I've yet to meet anyone here who is genuine -- meaning they say what they mean and mean what they say. I understand what you mean because I've gone through the same thing countless times. But there are also some very wonderful Dom/mes on this site as well. You just have to pick through the dross to find the pure gold.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 8:43:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: warmwoman29 But it's so sad. This happens ALL the time. I've yet to meet anyone here who is genuine -- meaning they say what they mean and mean what they say. Have you ever dated online? Finding these kinds of people is tough even in the every day online dating world is tough. Don't expect anything much different in the kink world. People are people no matter where you go...both good and bad. Master Fire

SlaveAkasha -> RE: So much for taking things slowly? (10/16/2006 9:10:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: becca333 Assume they're all cheats and liars, it saves time. And when you do meet the lovely, genuine ones, it's an even greater joy. Lol, I have to agree with becca to a degree. I have went through tons of those people, in the real world, and on here. That's all just part of weeding through the coal to get to the diamond. You will find someone, just don't give up, and keep your bullshit meter turned all the way up, you will be fine. Akasha

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

3.100586E-02