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A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 10:28:32 AM   
rascallymisty


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Status: offline 		Hi my name is misty and i have a question, i have never posted before so bare with me please. A Dom wrote and ask my breast size...so i wrote back.

"LMAO....hun thats not showing You even a quarter of them.....and size doesn't matter, is that not what You guys tell us all the time.... its how You use it? Seem a few like my new pics.......so i guess i used what i had well ~winks~, even if that was not my intent.  i was just putting up dated pics up cause i have meet to many that their pics are old when they had perk breast and guys from a few years gone by. i am real and just was making sure the friends i have made and hope to make see that. Hope Your day is a good one.........be well Sir and may life be all that You wish. ~ misty ~

He wrote back and said i did not answer His question, and that i am not submissive because i did not tell Him what He wished to know. So my question is, since this is not the first Sir to ask such a question, What makes a Sir think He can ask any question even if its a rude one and that we should have to answer it just because we are a submissive?  This man also wrote me i did not write Him to chat. Oh then the clincher is.....He sends me another e-mail calling me names and then blocks me....whats up with that? My last question is.... how is a sub supposed to learn to trust anyone on here if so many " so call Sirs " pull this? Do You real time Sir/Master find it hard to find real subs because of guys like this one?

Thank for Your time and any answers i may recieve. May You all be well and find that which You seek.
~misty~
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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 10:34:31 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the world of internet wankers and HNG.

Only you can decide if you are real or not, what others think doesn't really matter. I'm sure La could give you 30 or 40 links to threads asking exactly the same question.

Some "Dominants" think if they tell someone that they are not a true submissive it will convince said sub to do as they ask.

You have to use your own judgement on who to trust and who not to. There are no guarantees in life. Take the risk or don't are the only choices you have.

So far i've been lucky. I rarely hear from the cyber dorks and i've met a few really nice ppl on here that moved to actual r/t meetings. It just takes learning what to look for.

good luck

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 10:42:12 AM   
ToGiveDivine


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Status: offline 		First, he's not a "Sir" until you both agree to a relationship and are willing to call him that - until then, he's just some guy.

Second, he's just the latest in a string of guys you aren't going to be interested in.  You may want to be a slave, but with his attitude he is beneath you.

Third, never forget you are a strong, self-assured woman - giving yourself to another takes strength, not weakness - don't let anyone tell you different

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 10:44:36 AM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		Men like that are a constant problem for us Doms who walk in the digital world. You have good insticts in realizing that something was wrong with that. His attitude was...childish and do not be discouraged by this for it will happen several times before you find someone that you can connect with.  What happened to you is like the CM equivalent of going to a bar and some guy buys you a couple drinks and then asks for a bj under the table. Quite crass and deserves a slap to the face at the very least.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 10:52:35 AM   
ToGiveDivine


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ORIGINAL: shadevarr

Men like that are a constant problem for us Doms who walk in the digital world. You have good insticts in realizing that something was wrong with that. His attitude was...childish and do not be discouraged by this for it will happen several times before you find someone that you can connect with.  What happened to you is like the CM equivalent of going to a bar and some guy buys you a couple drinks and then asks for a bj under the table. Quite crass and deserves a slap to the face at the very least.


What if the guy is at the bar to get a slap in the face and asks for the bj in order to get said slap!?!?  (Never underestimate a pervert with a plan)  ROFL

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 11:00:15 AM   
SweetSarijane


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Status: offline 		that i am not submissive because i did not tell Him what He wished to know.
 
There are all too many that use that line on subs to try and push or guilt them into revealing the info they want. Some stranger who wants to know your breast size right away or whether or not you shave the southern hemisphere is usually a wanker, HNG, not worth messing with. Just my view.

Whether you are sub or slave until you agree to submit and give him control then you are not HIS sub/slave and therefore not answerable to him for anything.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 11:05:35 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		One of the most common (and most successful) tactics of asshole doms is to try and instill doubt, shame and need in a clueless novice sub in order to get them to do what the dom wants.

Confronting you with a direct question, calling into question your "true submissiveness" and then insulting you are all classic stages of that process.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 11:59:55 AM   
DomIndyCpl4pet


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Status: offline 		sub rascallymisty  Yes it very hard to find a sub or slave on here because of the ones we call wannbes Masters they think they know it all but they dont . Just remember they dont own you unless they put that collar around a subs or slaves neck . SO they frist have to ask they sub or slave if they can ask you anything about the sub or slave . Been in the lifestyle way to long and have seen so many of the wannbes Masters and Mistress theink they know it all but we all never stop learning . So just be carful when you do talk to the Masters or Mistress on here and if they start right off telling sub or slave you will do as I say then they are the wannbes .

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 1:12:13 PM   
Kaledorus


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Status: offline 		The only advice I would offer is be very careful who you agree to have a relationship with, learn how the person reacts over long periods of time. If you just want kinky sex the BDSM world is a fine place but if you have genuine submissive needs it is a difficult path that lies before you.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 2:47:49 PM   
SexyBlackMan2


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Status: offline 		you have to be discerning in who is a real Dominant and who only fantasizes about this

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 3:28:45 PM   
BR1


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Status: offline 		I would like to first express to you that I am sorry that you had to run into someone that really has no concept of what it means to understand a submissive.  This lifestyle is plagued by many that really have no clue as to what this is all about.  It reinforces the concept that you are either born into being a Dom or submissive or you are not. The problem is that there are so many that think they may be a Dom or submissive and play at this concept.  The product is always someone getting hurt.  Please always, always remember that we are people that are due respect.  I am not sure where losing respect has been equated to being a submissive but it seems that the wannabe's have gotten that notion.  You are always due the respect that a woman deserves.  I truly hope that you will find the one that you seek.  That you will fill the emptiness that I know is in your heart. Stay true to your heart always.

BR

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 4:56:51 PM   
DarkSideisXTC


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Status: offline 		First off your instincts served you well. First off, you have to develop trust before the power dynamic kicks in at all. A real Dom will never try to use the old your not submissive enough right of the bat. That's a wannabe vanilla thinking he can score at your expense. The best indication of a Real Master is when he wants to get to know you first before any chat of a power dynamic talk. My 2 cents on D's is I want a submissive's surrender to come to me, not forcing or taking it from you. You will find most of the wankers will try to force it from you... Good luck

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 5:20:46 PM   
Najakcharmer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: rascallymisty

He wrote back and said i did not answer His question, and that i am not submissive because i did not tell Him what He wished to know.


I R TEH DOMINATE.  U WILL OBAY ME.  IF U DO NOT THEN U R NOT REEL SUBMISIV.  SEND ME ALL UR MONEYS RITE NOW. REEL SLAVES NOT ALLOWID 2 OWN NE THING.  THEN GO STAND ON UR HEAD IN TEH CORNER.  4 THE NEXT WEEK.  & U WILL TATTOO MY NAME ON UR FORE HEAD ALSO.  IF U DO NOT DO ALL THESE THINGS RITE NOW THEN U R NOT REEL SLAV.  AND IT IS NOT TRUE THAT I AM USING MY MOMMYS COMPUTUR W/OUT HER PERMISHUN.  REELY ITS NOT.  I AM A REEL DOMINATE MASTUR.  U B REEL 2 AND OBAY ME NOW.

So, need I continue in this vein? 





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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 5:27:25 PM   
Ava82


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

quote:

ORIGINAL: rascallymisty

He wrote back and said i did not answer His question, and that i am not submissive because i did not tell Him what He wished to know.


I R TEH DOMINATE.  U WILL OBAY ME.  IF U DO NOT THEN U R NOT REEL SUBMISIV.  SEND ME ALL UR MONEYS RITE NOW. REEL SLAVES NOT ALLOWID 2 OWN NE THING.  THEN GO STAND ON UR HEAD IN TEH CORNER.  4 THE NEXT WEEK.  & U WILL TATTOO MY NAME ON UR FORE HEAD ALSO.  IF U DO NOT DO ALL THESE THINGS RITE NOW THEN U R NOT REEL SLAV.  AND IT IS NOT TRUE THAT I AM USING MY MOMMYS COMPUTUR W/OUT HER PERMISHUN.  REELY ITS NOT.  I AM A REEL DOMINATE MASTUR.  U B REEL 2 AND OBAY ME NOW.

So, need I continue in this vein? 







beautiful!  lol

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 7:25:31 PM   
rascallymisty


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Status: offline 		Thank You all for Your advice and well wishes.

LOL i wonder if He has wrote You also Najakcharmer.....as he did use U and 2 and 4 and so on.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 7:40:12 PM   
RedSavageSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ToGiveDivine

First, he's not a "Sir" until you both agree to a relationship and are willing to call him that - until then, he's just some guy.

Second, he's just the latest in a string of guys you aren't going to be interested in.  You may want to be a slave, but with his attitude he is beneath you.

Third, never forget you are a strong, self-assured woman - giving yourself to another takes strength, not weakness - don't let anyone tell you different


I was going to say this myself but glad I waited till I read a few more posts.. so I will just give you a hand


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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 8:43:31 PM   
SirStephan55


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Status: offline 		I agree - you must develop a relationship before anyone deserves to be called sir.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 9:35:42 PM   
ChaOz


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Status: offline 		Yup, no slavery til its approved of, but that dont mean a sub shouldnt show a submissive side. Dont judge someone til you have thrown a few fully formed emails around. He might just be poking you with a stick, though in a pretty lame way to go about it.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 9:42:33 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSideisXTC

First off your instincts served you well. First off, you have to develop trust before the power dynamic kicks in at all. A real Dom will never try to use the old your not submissive enough right of the bat. That's a wannabe vanilla thinking he can score at your expense. The best indication of a Real Master is when he wants to get to know you first before any chat of a power dynamic talk. My 2 cents on D's is I want a submissive's surrender to come to me, not forcing or taking it from you. You will find most of the wankers will try to force it from you... Good luck

Plenty of real masters, plenty of Very Popular, Well Liked and Respected, Been in the Scene Forever Masters are also total assholes.

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RE: A Question if You please - 10/16/2006 9:44:36 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: rascallymisty

Thank You all for Your advice and well wishes.

LOL i wonder if He has wrote You also Najakcharmer.....as he did use U and 2 and 4 and so on.


Most of these types do.  It's very hard to type complete two and three letter words when typing with one hand.

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