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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/26/2005 5:56:57 PM

MadameDahlia

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ORIGINAL: Suleiman

Does anyone ever call masturbation "self abuse" any more?

I do - quite often! Or I refer to it as a menage a moi!

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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/26/2005 7:39:46 PM

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As long as we're talking about masturbation...if one can masturbate with either hand, does that make them bimanual?

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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/27/2005 5:06:53 PM

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ambidextrous I believe is the term...

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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/28/2005 1:15:34 AM

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Ah....If only I received "It's a shame you aren't emails." Too often, I'm bombarded with e-mails from straight men asking me if I want to be enslaved by them. My profile states fairly clearly that a hetero-male is not what I am looking for. In fact, the profile also specifies that I do not want to be a slave. Sometimes they call me "little one." I may be a physically small woman, but I am not little one. That someone would meet with you for dinner knowing that you do not want to be submissive and then asking/stating? that you might enjoy being submissive to them (Oh, bless the ego.), is inCREDably arrogant.

I suppose this post is pointless, but sometimes it feels fabulous to vent.

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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/28/2005 5:04:52 AM

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Midear Mariposa-

welcome to the boards, and please do vent all you like<g>.

Everytime your profile pops up on my main page I think of the jackass emails you must get from the HNG contingent. the whole 'little one' thing galls me as much as 'subbie'- and I tend towards physically smaller women. I really can't imagine being so patronising.

(As I write this, it occurs to me that I do throw 'girl' around sometimes, which is likely as bad, but somehow doesn't seem the same to me...)

No real point to this post, either- just wanted to sympathise<g>.

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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/28/2005 6:39:01 AM

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yes - heard a lot times and was treating like that for a long time

covered by the expression of D/s .....

but finally an abusive relation !!

at least its really hard to get out of that "mind-fucking" - and even "mind-fucking" can be fun , as long its consensual and safe

let your emotions get in - you will definitly on the way to hell

and the hell has two sides too - smile -

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RE: It's A Shame You Aren't.... - 1/28/2005 1:43:04 PM

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Yes, welcome Mariposa. Feel free to pull up a couch and stay a while.

Turning to the slightly off topic topic, I'll admit, I do occasionally use "child" "young man" or "young lady", but generally only in an established relationship, unless the person is acting in an immature fashion. I've never understood "subbie", and I consider "little one" either too personal, or else not personal enough. While I do use "my dear" or "darling" in emails to people I don't know very well, so long as the conversation has turned casual, I would never be so gauche as to use a familiar form of address with a person I had contacted for the first time.

Then again, I actually read profiles and even journals prior to Emailing a person on this site, if only to find some basis for conversation other than various conjugations of my ugly bits to theirs.

I suppose this does actually tie in to the main topic at hand, insofar as it is an extension of much the same mentality. It is a truism that if you simply make the offer often enough, it will eventually be answered. Of course, in an online situation, if a person claims to be a lesbian and then answers a vulgar Email from a guy in a friendly manner, most often it's another guy on the other end of the modem, but hey - they both walk away with spank material, so I guess it's an equitable exchange.

Of course, I keep pondering the recurring admonition, "I'm real, you be real too" (typically not spelled in whole english, but that's a different rant alltogether), and I find myself wondering, "what the hell do you think I am, a hologram"?

I suppose that this simply proves that, for everybody, there's somebody. As repugnant as the HNGs are, they must be getting some kind of results, or else they wouldn't be such a pernicious problem. If, on the other hand, you have actual criteria, the search does become a bit more laborious. Certianly, in my own case, when I have uttered the heartfelt "it's a shame you arent ____", it is as much a commentary on the difficulty of finding the right person for my own needs, and an acknowledgement that, aside from that one trait, the person I had so addressed was in fact a sterling example of the sort of person I would like to be involved with. In that manner of useage, I suppose it does in fact qualify as a compliment from that person's perspective.

Okay, I'm starting to get maudlin. I should probably log off now.

~S

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