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Jealousy - 1/25/2005 7:14:28 AM

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I am curious about your issues with jealousy--you are a devoted slave/sub, but your Master/Mistress either conducts scenes with other play partners ( play only, no sexual involved) or has a very active social or work circle that is large, demanding--are you jealous, do you feel jelaousy, does it drive your behavior? How do you and or your Dom/mes manage this behavior?

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RE: Jealousy - 1/25/2005 8:07:49 AM

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In the situation described I would not be jealous. Now, if he wanted to be poly (since we agreed not to) I would have a problem. Regarding play, as long as no sex was involved (i.e. he didn't get off) I would be okay. Regarding social circles, I am okay with him having nights out with the guys or even weekends away with them.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/25/2005 10:00:51 AM

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i would not be jelous under those circumstances. if i were feeling left out or neglected in some manner i would simply let Him know and i know it would be dealt with.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/25/2005 10:22:18 AM

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quote:

In the situation described I would not be jealous. Now, if he wanted to be poly (since we agreed not to) I would have a problem.

I would agree with sweetpleaser. IMO, jealousy has no place when there is open and honest communication.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/25/2005 10:51:29 AM

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Call me crazy, but i'd be jelous. i've also been told this is something i need to work on.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/25/2005 12:28:29 PM

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quote:

I am curious about your issues with jealousy--you are a devoted slave/sub, but your Master/Mistress either conducts scenes with other play partners ( play only, no sexual involved) or has a very active social or work circle that is large, demanding--are you jealous, do you feel jelaousy, does it drive your behavior? How do you and or your Dom/mes manage this behavior?

It all comes down to how much time is spent on these other things. If all his time was spent doing these other things, and I was left sitting in the background, yes it would bother me.

I don't think it would be a matter of jealousy. More like a feeling of being neglected. At least it would for me. And yes. it would affect my behavior.

Although we really haven't had to deal with this yet, we have discussed it. And he has reassured me that it will not be a problem.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/25/2005 12:31:34 PM

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Well i would have assumed that the possibility of play with "other partners" had been discussed prior to entering into your relationship. If not, then the discussion very obviously needs to be had. If it IS a problem for you, then you need to state your concerns and your beliefs/wishes to your Dom/Master. If His wishes and beliefs do not jive with yours, then IMO, you are setting yourself up for heartache. At the same time, I acknowledge the fact that there are "unfound" jealousies out there... we've all (probably) been in relationships with overly jealous types that see "something" between two people that really isn't there. If that's the case and your jealousy exceeds the boundaries of your bdsm relationship and follows you into your work/social life, then perhaps some introspection is in order to determine why you feel inadequate.

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RE: Jealousy - 1/26/2005 3:19:04 PM

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I have to agree with most. Under the described circumstances I would not be jealous. I do consider myself a jealous person as well.

Communication is the key. Also the amount of time he is giving to these nights out with the guys...or sessions. Whatever they may be.

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