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Aggression as a going away present - 10/16/2006 10:36:58 PM   
MLskajira


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Status: offline 		 this girl has realized that any time she has to be out of town, and away from her Master for any length of time, before she leaves, He visits, to whip and humiliate her. He is sweet to her when He first shows up and before He leaves (after care) but the body of His visit is very aggressive.
 this girl is not a pain slut, she is a pleasure slave and she is a well trained pet that rarely misbehaves. so wtf?
 is He upset that she has to leave town?
 is He trying to ensure that she behaves?
 He tells her that she must go ( her son is in a mental hospital out of town, so it's not like she is resisting going) and that He knows she will behave.
 she understands if there is no way to answer this question, she knows it has her stumped.


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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/16/2006 10:45:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Have you asked him?

Typically if I am not going to see my Master for awhile, he will be very aggressive with me as well - I will feel him and see marks on my body from him for some time to come.  He does this so I can find comfort in physically feeling him while absent from him.  I do find comfort in that.  I do not particularly like pain at all, yet I love the deep soreness afterwards.  Perhaps this is a gift from him to you - his way of being with you in your separation.

But if you're confused by it, you should ask him.

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/16/2006 10:53:35 PM   
MLskajira


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Status: offline 		this girl feels the same way about the ach afterward, ownedgirlie, and she only recently (today) became aware that He does it.
 you may very well have hit the nail on the head, and she will ask Him when she returns.


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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 12:26:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Himself is going out of town for 2 days and will be leaving at 5 AM. He whipped me tonight and I'll probably be sore for the two days he's gone. He often does this before he goes away and has told me it's so I'll have something to remember him by until he returns home. Somewhat similar to a husband kissing his wife good-bye as he leaves for work.. only, with weapons of ass destruction.  (can't remember who I stole that from, but I still love it!)

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 12:32:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		My Daddy does have the habit of marking me before I leave on any trips. This has lead to a few uncomfortable plane trips.
 
Maybe if He would travel some, I would find this much more entertaining...I guess I'll have to remain the wiggly passenger until He does, though.

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 7:05:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

with weapons of ass destruction.  (can't remember who I stole that from, but I still love it!)

Celeste


OMG.. I LOVE THIS!  can I steal it from you??

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 8:23:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		My impression is that he doesn't normally use you this way, so that makes me think that not only does it leave you with some sensations to savor while you are apart, but it is also a release of that aggessive energy for him so he doesn't mind being apart from you so much as well.

I think of such releases of aggression as a psychological orgasm, so it would make sense to have one before you go away.

Just my $0.02


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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 8:23:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		He probably is just making sure you dont forget about him. It is just their way of showing how much they care. Though you cant sit right for your trip.

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 9:11:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I with most here, I think a dominant does it more as a way for the submissive to remember them by in the proper fashion. A way to keep discipline up. Kind of like getting an immunization shot before going abroad. Make sure that ass is red, check. I also think it is part psychological like many couples tend to have sex the night before someone goes out of town when it is unusual. Got to do it tonight because it will not be an option for the next few days kind of thing.



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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 10:41:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just think of it as a very long, painful good bye kiss or spank.

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 12:15:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		See maybe i am the other side of the coin my Master is always on my mind i don't need anything to "remember "him by.  When i had to go away i called him every day so i could hear his voie and even if i did not there is no doubt i would have remembered him.  Or is it how owned said you feel him with you when you fell the soreness from his whipping? 

Matt's littleone 

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 12:49:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

with weapons of ass destruction.  (can't remember who I stole that from, but I still love it!)

Celeste


OMG.. I LOVE THIS!  can I steal it from you??


Well, I stole it from someone else, and wish I could give credit to that person (a CM poster), but I don't remember who it was that first said it. I should do a search and find out, but I'm sure the person wouldn't mind because I believe they did give me permission to use it as well. :)

Celeste

::edited to give credit to MistressLorelei for the phrase::

< Message edited by BitaTruble -- 10/17/2006 12:55:42 PM >

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 1:19:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd much prefer being left little surprises and notes in my luggage to remember him by, but to each his own.

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/17/2006 8:41:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		The people here make great sence, however if it is something that bothers you beeing that you arent a pain slave and you didnt deserve punishment (I know the mental thing here is like well I have been good why am I beeing punished, aspecially if you dont normally get pain unless it is punishment) Talk to him tell him how it is makeing you feel see if you can reach a compramise, he is Master and will still do as he pleases, though every master wants their slave to be taken care of emotionaly as well as physicaly so if its really a problem for you I dont see why a compramise or something cant be reached. Ultametly you need to comunicate with him and him with you. Though Everyone here seems to have hit the nail on the head only your Master really knows why he is doing it, and he may not even consciancely relise he is doing it and by bringing it up you are forsing him to find the reason and deal with his emotions as well, and that will lead to more comunication and a greater bond!!! Just my thoughts

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/18/2006 3:58:57 AM   
MLskajira


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Status: offline 		this girl cannot say that it is a problem, and it is true that she is not a pain slut, but what is being said makes a lot sense to her.
 the entire time she is away, she knows He will constantly be on her mind ( as well as other places).
this girl cannot call Him and must wait for Him to call her.
 He is a work-a-holic and married (His wife not only knows about this girl but likes her as well), so it is not always prudent for Him to recieve calls from His pet, and a sore ass last like the energizer bunny.


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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/18/2006 4:33:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

The people here make great sence, however if it is something that bothers you beeing that you arent a pain slave and you didnt deserve punishment (I know the mental thing here is like well I have been good why am I beeing punished, aspecially if you dont normally get pain unless it is punishment) Talk to him tell him how it is makeing you feel see if you can reach a compramise, he is Master and will still do as he pleases, though every master wants their slave to be taken care of emotionaly as well as physicaly so if its really a problem for you I dont see why a compramise or something cant be reached. Ultametly you need to comunicate with him and him with you. Though Everyone here seems to have hit the nail on the head only your Master really knows why he is doing it, and he may not even consciancely relise he is doing it and by bringing it up you are forsing him to find the reason and deal with his emotions as well, and that will lead to more comunication and a greater bond!!! Just my thoughts

Magik's slave


this girl is agree with MagiksSlave. this girl also thinks that if your Master want to hurt yoy, you must agree to that. Maybe your Master don't like it when you are gone? Maybe He can't deal with his emotions? That its something else then only mark you then to remember Him. Its fully understandeble that He like it that you are marked as His property but not only because He can't deal with his emotions. Thats even dangerous. Never the less, this girls hope you like your marks as an owned slave.



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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/18/2006 4:42:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		It seems, to me, from that disscription that your Master wants something diffrent then you do when you are toghether.
 
He is obvously not trying be abusive or anything, usually abuse doen't involve after care.
 
Does he know that you don't nessacerly want the agressiveness so offten? 
 
Have you tried comunicatting your feelings to him? (in a respectful way of course.)
 
Shylah

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/18/2006 4:54:07 PM   
lesbiangirlslave


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It seems, to me, from that disscription that your Master wants something diffrent then you do when you are toghether.
 
He is obvously not trying be abusive or anything, usually abuse doen't involve after care.
 
Does he know that you don't nessacerly want the agressiveness so offten? 
 
Have you tried comunicatting your feelings to him? (in a respectful way of course.)
 
Shylah


Dear Shylahgirl, don't misunderstand this girl. This girl like to be agressive, to receive or/and give. She like pain, just as her Mistress. But all the time this girl want to say that there also is love. Without love (on the long therms) there cant be satisfaction. And to be carefull and to speak only for myself, at least for this girl.

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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/18/2006 5:46:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think that if he is doing it, so you will have a memory of him to take with you.. it is kind of sweet in a way. 
 
I have been on the end of it though, where it wasn't so sweet.  My ex-Sir.. he beat me senseless the last week we were together.  He all the time told me he still loved me and all of that, but in essence he was taking his frustration and anger out on me.  When it is done in that way, it's wrong and you shouldn't put up with it.
 
Really on this though, no one can tell you which it is.  You know your Dom better than us, and only you can judge his intentions.  If I were you, I would just talk to him in a respectful way about it.  If you can't communicate with him in an open way, you all have far bigger problems than this.
 
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RE: Aggression as a going away present - 10/18/2006 6:13:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lesbiangirlslave

quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

The people here make great sence, however if it is something that bothers you beeing that you arent a pain slave and you didnt deserve punishment (I know the mental thing here is like well I have been good why am I beeing punished, aspecially if you dont normally get pain unless it is punishment) Talk to him tell him how it is makeing you feel see if you can reach a compramise, he is Master and will still do as he pleases, though every master wants their slave to be taken care of emotionaly as well as physicaly so if its really a problem for you I dont see why a compramise or something cant be reached. Ultametly you need to comunicate with him and him with you. Though Everyone here seems to have hit the nail on the head only your Master really knows why he is doing it, and he may not even consciancely relise he is doing it and by bringing it up you are forsing him to find the reason and deal with his emotions as well, and that will lead to more comunication and a greater bond!!! Just my thoughts

Magik's slave


this girl is agree with MagiksSlave. this girl also thinks that if your Master want to hurt yoy, you must agree to that. Maybe your Master don't like it when you are gone? Maybe He can't deal with his emotions? That its something else then only mark you then to remember Him. Its fully understandeble that He like it that you are marked as His property but not only because He can't deal with his emotions. Thats even dangerous. Never the less, this girls hope you like your marks as an owned slave.




I've read a few of your posts and I have to ask... what if Master wanted to beat you with leather studded with glass?

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