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LadyHugs -> RE: sub becoming a Domme (10/17/2006 6:31:30 PM)
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Dear wanta247, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my mind's eye, dominants do give up control in many ways, to those who serve them. Although I can get my own cup of tea, biscuit and such, to allow the slave to do so, fills their needs to serve and take great pleasure in doing so. It is giving up my control to the slave to give me service. So, "total control" is micro-management, more like a prison guard rather than allowing freedom and control to the slave, in order to give them tools, as to serve.
That said, it really would serve you both well, to sit down and discuss the risks of the D/s relationship as is now, to change into a D=S relationship and to change the roles that brought you both together in the first place.
What words haunt my mind's memory; of a few slaves that were in my care as their owners were submitting to another individual; and that is how upsetting it was and not what the slaves had in mind in the relationship that they entered with--to see their owners switch. Witnessing such strained the relationship terribly so. This should be communicated and get an understanding. Though these slaves couldn't say no, their hearts said NO!!!!! Their relationships didn't last, as these slaves wanted a Master/Mistress--not a SWITCH.
What is most important, is what works for you as a couple; to talk about all the 'what ifs' that may happen. Perhaps, she will remain submissive to you yet, dominant another. Perhaps you might do a complete role reversal. Just communicate to each other what the risks may be to the relationship.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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