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Kalira -> RE: Psychological masochism? (10/20/2006 8:46:04 AM)
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ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz
I am an inexperienced Trainee Dom how is trying to learn about the skills required to responsibly use the gifts offered to me by a sub. I have a friend who is a natural sub and tells Me many of her feelings on the subject. There is an aspect that I don't understand though...
I fully understand some peoples propensity towards pain and others aversion to it. she tells Me that although she accepts pain as a suitable punishment, it does not arouse her. she tells Me though that she is very, very masochistic on a pyschological level.
she is a friend of Mine and we do not share a D/s dynamic. I can sense that this is a sensative subject for her and therefore I do not want to explore this deeper until she is ready to disclose to Me.
So...can anyone enlighten Me on the concept of a pychological masochist and how this can be nurtured/protected/explored?
Hmmm. I am in no way masochistic, I absolutly cringe whenever I think of him taking a belt, clamps, crop, whip to me. Pain itself does not in no way arouse me. What does arouse me though is the look on his face and in his eyes, when I am accepting whatever he feels the need for at that moment.
An example: he is very fond of using a flogger on me to the point that I am literally incoherent from the pain. And yet, the minute I look at his face, and see the intensity, the pride, and the extreme pleasure that HE is getting from it, the pain becomes exciting.
If I am told to keep my eyes down during the whole thing, it is nothing but pain. But when allowed to see his face...it is the most intense feeling of pleasure that I ever get.
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