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ORIGINAL: raiken

Last night while in the supermarket, i was behind a young couple in the snack isle.  i watched her put something in the cart.  The guy with her, walked up, looked in the cart, pointed to the item she just put in, and said "put it back".  She immediately reached in and placed the item back on the shelf.  In the next second she picked up another item and asked " can i get this one?" to which he immediately replied, "no".  She placed the item back on the shelf without another word.  As i left that isle and moved to the next, i let my imagination run a bit, and found myself wondering about their relationship to one another, and if they are possibly enjoying a D/s or M/s dynamic, etc. Or, if they simply are nilla with a twist.
 
i looked for an outward symbol of the obvious but found nothing about that couple that would give me a hint, except the girl's behavior.  Some folks don't use outward symbols that many are familiar with.  Some folks are very private and don't like to advertise their dynamic if they have it.  Some folks just naturally interact like that in a relationship and don't even know that a lifestyle exists.  All these different thoughts went through my mind in that one instant.
 
When i arrived at the cash register, they happened to be in the next line over.  i watched her put all the groceries on the counter while he stood by and told her which to put first, i heard him say to put the refrigerated items first, and then proceeded to point to what he wanted up there next.  He didn't help her, and she didn't seem to mind. Now i know that many folks shop like this and usually the woman handles the groceries, etc., but this felt so different, or it could be that i was projecting. *grin  But not one time while i was watching them, did she not comply with his directives or even question them.  As they walked out of the store, he took the lead, and she followed behind him while pushing the cart.  As i left the store, i found myself wondering as usual.  In fact this morning while sitting here, i began wondering about them again! *grin
 
i imagine i will see this couple again while shopping at some point.  
 
i guess what left an impression upon me, was her quiet compliance, and her pleasant expression.
 
What attributes or behaviors have you observed in others, that left an impression and caused you to wonder?

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ORIGINAL: raiken

i am curous too, for she seemed content, her facial expressions and the way she moved, did not indicate she was unhappy.  i guess i find myself observing for it would be nice to have more folks in my area that i could associate with from time to time in the lifestyle.  Most of whom i know in the lifestyle live out of town.
 
Your perspective of him being a bully is something i didn't consider, interesting though.
 
Have you observed such behaviors from others around you and wondered the same?

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ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

i wouldn't think of him being a bully in any case..  direct, to the point, no intimidation, what's to not like about the guy?

Well, except that he didn't push the cart.  tsk,tsk.

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but aren't there any behaviors that you yourself have observed in others that caused you to take a second glance and wonder?

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ORIGINAL: toservez

Could be two people happy in a D/s type relationship but they have no idea that there is a category for how they interact.

Exactly how i believe about many folks who display certain atitudes and behavioral tendencies toward one antoher in their relationships.
 
i was one of those type folks before i got indoctrinated into this realm. LOL!

I often find myself seeing a behavior and start to wonder and observe more. The one that seems to get me the most curious is when I see somone going out of there way for their significant other without any reaction from either of them. Something like a person leaving something in their car and the other goes out and gets it and there is no complaining or debating who is going to get it.

Now that is just plain lovely to see. 

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ORIGINAL: toservez

The one that seems to get me the most curious is when I see somone going out of there way for their significant other without any reaction from either of them. Something like a person leaving something in their car and the other goes out and gets it and there is no complaining or debating who is going to get it.

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

Ok, i'm lost on that.   Would that be considered an unusual behavior for any couple, nilla or not?  It seems fairly standard to me, most couples know whose role it is to do what between them.  

W/we didn't need to "discover" D/s to know, i finish a beer, He pours.  i drive car, He pumps gas.  i'll go in to pay.  i'll bring back a cookie.  He'll get coffee on in the morning.  i'll pour His cup.  He makes His sandwiches for lunch.  i will remind Him to take the damn things this time.  He locked up before bed.  i bring dessert.  etc.  That's all pretty neutral relationship stuff. 

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

If you really watch people, there isn't any human to human interaction i have seen without some element of power exchange or consentual authority/ aquiescence. W/we just have distinctive wording and labels for it. 

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ORIGINAL: toservez

Lets say you are with a couple at dinner and get all situated and the one spouse realizes he cannot read the menu because he forgot his glasses. Now it is normal for both him and her to roll their eyes, make a good natured dig or the inevitable "do you want me to go get them for you comment". But when I see the other spouse just get up without any of those reactions and go get them, it would make me wonder.