mstrjx
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Different people do different things. It would seem as if in your relationship you don't have any protocols, because you don't know much about them or what other people perceive them to be. If you were never to be in another room with doms and subs, it wouldn't matter. You could even set up your own protocols that might never come into play. So, face it, the other dom is going to set the tone for the encounter. Now, it is possible that 'he' doesn't have protocols either. Or, he might have fairly structured ones. But, if he does, it doesn't mean they are universal. I have seen it where subs/slaves were not to speak openly, but to answer questions if asked. I have seen it where a dom was not to speak to someone else's 'property' without permission from the sub's dom. I have seen it where the dom(s) directed the traffic for all of the evening's events. This is only problematic if you haven't negotiated with your own partner what can/can't/should/shouldn't occur. In a situation like this, the dom's usually negotiate amongst themselves, with each dom 'protecting' his/her own sub by knowing what 'their' limits are relative to group play. This should give you something to think about. Jeff
< Message edited by mstrjx -- 10/20/2006 6:08:09 PM >
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