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quieter side of bdsm - 1/27/2005 4:37:25 AM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		I live with my son, he lives with housemate.
The sort of play we like tends to create a bit of a racket.
my question is: what if any can you think of are a quieter form of sensation/corporal play?

how do you cope with noise?

are some tools quieter than others? if so, which?

noise as in vocal or contact sound.
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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/27/2005 5:33:09 AM   
Suleiman


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Status: offline 		I've been in similar situations. Vocal control is pretty difficult with intense sensation play, but I've found (and I know others who concur) that remaining silent seems to increase the intensity of sensation play, so often you get major kick out of moderate play.

As to toys, that can be a little more difficult. Clothes pins, of course (although zippers make this wonderful clickety-clack when they're ripped off). Wortenburg wheels. Hot wax. Cupping. Clamps of various sorts. Most electro stuff (violet wands, etc) are quiet, right? Chemical play (ginger figs et al) makes no noise. Scratching, biting, cutting, piercing, strangling are all silent (in and of themselves). Endurance bondage (kneeling on chains, for instance, or some of the more intense shibari postures). Hmmm... that's all I can think of. I'm sure there's a lot more, but that's all just off the top of my head.

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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/27/2005 1:21:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Suleiman
As to toys, that can be a little more difficult. Clothes pins, of course (although zippers make this wonderful clickety-clack when they're ripped off). Wortenburg wheels. Hot wax. Cupping. Clamps of various sorts. Most electro stuff (violet wands, etc) are quiet, right? Chemical play (ginger figs et al) makes no noise. Scratching, biting, cutting, piercing, strangling are all silent (in and of themselves). Endurance bondage (kneeling on chains, for instance,

LOL, thanks Suleiman...
I'm learning so much in one single post. I'm glad the OP asked, because I have a child, and while I don't do dates at my home, I will eventually be in a long term in the same house, so this is useful info for my future. M

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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/27/2005 2:55:44 PM   
ARoseAndAnEye


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Status: offline 		Master and I have been faced with this little problem since "day 1".

1. Trips to the garage (with ropes, cuffs, gags, toys in tow)

2. Basement during the winter (fortunately Master's home office is in the basement, so its a wonderful excuse/reason to be there)

3. good tight gags with the tv on a wee bit too loud in one room, while we're in the back of the house.

Granted the set up of our home makes the above feasible. My son is 12 and Godblesshim he has NEVER come out of the bedroom after he's sent to bed. I realize that's not a norm... I DO count my blessings! Trying to play with an adult child or others in the home.... hmmm. that could be trickier.

Good luck!

~anna

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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/28/2005 1:08:00 PM   
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How about some soundproofing in the bedroom or playroom? Other than that, send the kid to the movies a lot....

http://alsnetbiz.com/homeimprovement/faq10.html
http://www.uhfmag.com/Issue63/soundproofing.html
http://www.soundproofing.org/


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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/28/2005 1:14:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Rope, Gag, sex on the floor, and using a towl or sheet to pad under the door does help.

Equipment wise: Wax play is quiet. If you like floggers then go with a wire one. The wisking in the air is quiet and the hits or hard yet lite on the noise level. Knife and Chain play is also realitively quiet. Vibrators don't make that much noise either.

That's all I can think of off the top of my head. If anything else comes to mind that hasn't already been said, I'll post a msg.

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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/28/2005 5:05:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Gags work ok...although, they really just make you unintelligible, not any less loud.

Masking music helps wonders. Keeping a clock radio playing in the bedroom covers up some of the play noises.

I never thought canes were too loud... Needles are very quiet...so are blades. Clamps, breast boards, weights..most of which is pretty quiet.

Turn the music up when youre playing, keep the door locked and have fun.

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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/28/2005 6:40:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, gags, bits, bridles, and similar items work more by giving you something to bite down on, rather than muffling noise as is commonly protrayed by hollywood (I look at some of the lame-ass gags you see on TV and think to myself, there is nothing in that that would keep me from yelling for help in her situation)

by the way - am I alone in finding it annoying that it's almost always women who are portrayed as these brainless idiots who scream their heads off when they could be fighting or running, then can't make a noise when help is right there looking for them.

(What were those words I was supposed to say? Klatuu, verada, nicto. Right. let's try it) "AIEEEEEE!" (Damn. Didn't work. Maybe I should try again) "AIEEEEEEE!" (Oh shit, here comes that big-ass robot, and he looks ticked. Maybe if I play dead he'll leave me alone)

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RE: quieter side of bdsm - 1/29/2005 3:22:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmmmm....clamps, some rope bondage, chemical play....all fabulous ideas. My suggestion would be to pack up your toys for a night, boook a room at a m/hotel of some sort, hire a baby-sitter, and experiment to see what would work for you at home in a setting that removes you from your child.

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