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Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is going ... - 10/21/2006 9:31:13 PM   
sweetnsasse


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Status: offline 		my online master is clearly going sub on me. wears my nick with an _sns in his nick. begs me for favors. i have asked for release over and over. h refuses to release. he is very knowledgeable about computers so knows when i logon with another nick too. i had posted some in the other topic too. but his subbie ways are increasing. next he might start calling me mistress. i have tried all ways of getting release emailed him countless time, told him on phone in chat. he will not release. any suggestiosn welcome
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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 9:37:00 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		It's on-line, just tell him it's over and block any way he has of communicating with you.
On a curious (very curious) note, care to expound on the favors he begs?


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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 9:38:12 PM   
SweetSarijane


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Status: offline 		put him on ignore, block his emails, totally change your online names and only give it to those you want to keep in contact with and then totally erase and delete the accounts he knows about, beyond that maybe telling him you don't want further contact with him and any further attempts to contact you will be considered stalking and dealt with as such.

If you want it over then don't respond to him period no matter what even if he figures out a new id of yours and contacts you on it. Maybe he will eventually stop if you simply never respond to him again.

Just my thoughts and I wish you good luck in moving on with your life.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 9:44:17 PM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		Most wierd. My first instinct is to get rid of them, my second instict is to ask why is he being a wuss and my third is to leave him behind.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 9:54:18 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		So you are in an internet/phone LDR that you are not satisfied with. What are you asking to be released from? I don't see any rope, chain, or leather keeping you attached to him. Just hang up, stop talking and chatting with him. Change your profile discription to "Looking for a REAL DOM." After blocking about 8 of his newly created profiles in trying to talk, he'll get the point and move on.

You know what you want and he's not it. There's nothing wrong with releasing yourself. After all, how much longer do you see yourself being stuck with this boy? 

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 9:55:16 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetnsasse

my online master is clearly going sub on me. wears my nick with an _sns in his nick. begs me for favors. i have asked for release over and over. h refuses to release. he is very knowledgeable about computers so knows when i logon with another nick too. i had posted some in the other topic too. but his subbie ways are increasing. next he might start calling me mistress. i have tried all ways of getting release emailed him countless time, told him on phone in chat. he will not release. any suggestiosn welcome


Release yourself... if he does not respect that discontinue all contact with him, block emails and phone calls. If he harasses you over the phone you can possibly get him on online stalker laws.

I do not know about the rest of your story of him "going sub" on you, or what he does with his chat nick has to do with it, but you can release yourself. In my mind release is about closure, it is probably proper to ask the dominant one to do it because it gives the sub a way to walk off into the sunset and find another dominant person, but either party can end a relationship.

Edited to add, you might want to change your IP number, reload windows to get rid of keyloggers on your computer if he is that savvy, been through this with a psycho that stalked me... change you chatnicks/screen names ... if he is a hacker he may have played the confidence game to get you to download software that gives him access into your pc... not fun

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 10/21/2006 10:00:24 PM >

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 9:56:46 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

It's on-line, just tell him it's over and block any way he has of communicating with you.
On a curious (very curious) note, care to expound on the favors he begs?



Katy, are you still writing that D/s erotica novel and needing new ideas?

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 10:00:19 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I was ABOUT to say turn him into a cuck and make him watch you do extremely nasty things with a new master ... but then I realized that this is now the second thread you've started about this, so I'm starting to wonder, unfortunately, whether a new master would really want to get involved in this situation.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/21/2006 11:59:32 PM   
sweetnsasse


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Status: offline 		best way might be now to call his home when he is out and tell his wife the whole story

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 12:15:47 AM   
tade


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Status: offline 		That would just about do it...lol

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 12:16:52 AM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: sweetnsasse

best way might be now to call his home when he is out and tell his wife the whole story


Yes, I think that shows me just how sympathetic I should be to your plight. I find I could give a rat's ass one way or another how this internet drama plays itself out.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 1:11:26 AM   
LAMPedge


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Status: offline 		He's going sub on you?

You are already released by default.

Sorry, but he forfeited you when he changed the nature of your relationship.

Sorry to be blunt, but this is a time it is necessary, walk away.

*offers a hug if it means anything


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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 2:07:34 AM   
SirDaniel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetnsasse

best way might be now to call his home when he is out and tell his wife the whole story


Yes, I think that shows me just how sympathetic I should be to your plight. I find I could give a rat's ass one way or another how this internet drama plays itself out.


What she said.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 4:45:21 AM   
Aileen68


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetnsasse

my online master is clearly going sub on me. wears my nick with an _sns in his nick. begs me for favors. i have asked for release over and over. h refuses to release. he is very knowledgeable about computers so knows when i logon with another nick too. i had posted some in the other topic too. but his subbie ways are increasing. next he might start calling me mistress. i have tried all ways of getting release emailed him countless time, told him on phone in chat. he will not release. any suggestiosn welcome


You are kidding, right?  Try this...turn off your computer.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 4:50:05 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		What they both said!

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 4:57:33 AM   
mugwump


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Status: offline 		couple of things spring to mind - firstly stop posting the same question in new threads and playing, even jokingly, with the idea of telling his wife - the same wife he was presumably married to when you decided to get into this online 'relationship'- and use that same time to calmly explain to him this relationship is not what you wanted and you're releasing yourself - full stop.

the multiple posting and threatening to mess up his life rather than just making a clean break smacks of the worst kind of attention seeking.

the people on here, however wise and experienced they might be, can only offer you advice - you make the decision and you make the changes then come back and tell us how it went.

jmho

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 5:47:17 AM   
happypervert


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best way might be now to call his home when he is out and tell his wife the whole story

Don't be such a pussy! Show up on their doorstep, barge into the house and make a real scene, and then be sure to come back and tell us all how it worked. We're bored.


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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 6:02:14 AM   
ChaOz


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Status: offline 		Yeah hate to tell you this but you were both getting something you needed from this relationship, and now its over. Learn from it and move on, you'll be a lot happier in the long run.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 6:23:51 AM   
Kalira


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Status: offline 		Try turing off the computer.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to handle a master who is go... - 10/22/2006 8:46:33 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: happypervert

quote:

best way might be now to call his home when he is out and tell his wife the whole story

Don't be such a pussy! Show up on their doorstep, barge into the house and make a real scene, and then be sure to come back and tell us all how it worked. We're bored.



Im glad I was not drinking my coffee when I read this

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