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slavegirl1969 -> RE: embarrassed by orgasms (10/23/2006 1:59:21 AM)
Thank you A/all for your input. It is good to know I'm not alone in this. I have to say though that my past lack of orgasms has never been a problem for me. I have always thoroughly enjoyed the act of sex itself and in some ways it was liberating to not have to work to an "end result" and also it meant I could keep going for hours!! It was my partners who had the problem with it - twas an ego thing methinks. I've never been self-conscious about my body - I've always had lumps and bumps in places I shouldn't have (I'll blame the huuge unmentionable I had 17 years ago). I do have a fat ass and wobbly bits in the middle and my boobs are most definitely on a collision course with my ankles but for me sexuality is more mental, if I feel sexy I am sexy and my sexiness has never been dependent on someone elses opinion of me naked. My Master is wonderful and never denies me orgasm, in fact positively encourages them. I ask because I want to. He doesn't understand my embarrassment because he loves it when it's so intense and my wanton disregard of his permission gives him an additional tick on his future punishment list - so I win all round hehehe. .

shadevarr -> RE: embarrassed by orgasms (10/23/2006 2:28:02 AM)
I prefer my girl to come as often as possible from what I am doing to her, sometimes in the middle of the scene I will force her to delay it a few minutes to let it build up even more and watch her explode in pleasure as I tell her she may come now. For the most part though, I want her to gain pleasure from what I do because it pleases me.

Mavis -> RE: embarrassed by orgasms (10/23/2006 2:35:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 A few things: quote: Mavis: you know, i think a lot of this "permission to come" thing is something a lot of Dominants do because they hear "the other boys do it".. No, not in My case. There are lots of reasons to practice orgasm delay or denial, but one, for Me, is to reinforce ownership and control. If she is not allowed to cum, it reinforces that everything -- including her orgasms -- are mine. Of course that delay is a delay...not a permanent denial. i should have qualified that.. "New Dominants" often look around, even post here, asking others "Now that I have one, what do I do with this submissive?" and They pick up things and run with them, until They've matured enough to know what They personally want. As rose points out, "killing the fire one is trying to stoke" (paraphrased) is usually not a mistake an experienced Dominant makes, and as You point out farther on, You deal with the person's unique needs and responses. You're past using others as a guidebook. i offered that possibility to the OP because i wasn't sure where He's coming from. Sounds like the OP has it pretty much sorted, but didn't want to leave this without correcting my oversight.

lesbiangirlslave -> RE: embarrassed by orgasms (10/23/2006 2:57:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shadevarr I prefer my girl to come as often as possible from what I am doing to her, sometimes in the middle of the scene I will force her to delay it a few minutes to let it build up even more and watch her explode in pleasure as I tell her she may come now. For the most part though, I want her to gain pleasure from what I do because it pleases me. Master, this girl think you are a good Master. To build up the tension is so fine. This girl has experienced that it give such a refined pleasure between her Mistress and slave that trust can grow and deepend when a orgasm experience by both. Certainly when the orgasm is delied for pleasure. And You see it well, then its like an explosion.

bandit25 -> RE: embarrassed by orgasms (10/23/2006 3:07:52 AM)
Fast reply to no one in particular. I can't imagine ever being embarassed by an orgasm, but that's just me. I guess I'd just assume my Master loved the response He was getting from me or He wouldn't do it again. As far as orgasm denial or delay is concerned...yeah, sometimes nature simply takes over. Not much you can do about it but just go with it.

Celeste43 -> RE: embarrassed by orgasms (10/23/2006 6:43:51 AM)
Yes, occasionally they are so strong, or a series of them are so strong that I'm of no use directly afterwards. It isn't a problem as long as I don't have to leap out of bed and go someplace. He doesn't institute the kind of play that will bring on this response unless he knows there is sufficient time for me to recover. I find it helps if I'm allowed to sleep a little afterwards, anywhere from ten minutes to an hour and a half depending. But I need that ten minutes minimum.

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