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RE: aging slaves - 4/2/2005 9:26:29 PM

autumnMyste

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Hi seasonedslave...interesting question/topic. I can only answer for myself...so here it is. Take it for what it's worth....

I am 50. At my local club a while ago I saw a very handsome gentleman who looked like he might be Dominant. I have trouble finding Dominants (unattached) my age, so I slipped over to introduce myself and perhaps talk with him a bit--see what his kink was and if he was interested in talking to me. He looked about my same age--I thought if he was unattached we might hit it off. You never know.

WELL...all I did was introduce myself--just my name. He looked at me quite crossly and told me "you are too young--I am looking for an older slave. It would be a waste of my time to talk to you."

HUMMMPPPHHHHH. I just turned my little tail around and walked away. How OLD a sub/slave was he looking for? How old did he think I was???? I don't look THAT young....I don't think. I have been hesitant to approach any Doms at all ever since.

My friends have just laughed about it and told me he probably took me for much younger...and why didn't I tell him how old I really was? Well...the guy just dimissed me. He didn't even ask how old I am. My friends tell me that most people take me for 35 to 38. I am 50!!

So as far as I can tell, the only problem with being an "older" submissive is that you are either too young or too old, and it is difficult to find someone that thinks you are "just right". So how do I do? I end up dating, for the most part, Dominants that are 8 to 20 years younger than me. I am having a great time. I am meeting a lot of very nice people. I don't hit it off with all of them, but with some I do. I don't want to marry again--once was enough. I don't even have the urge to live with anyone, although if the right one asked me it could happen.

I love a good flogging!!! Caning is bliss. HOT WAX RULES!!! The sex is great (I have ONE partner I trust for that--I am a MAJOR safety girl and I don't sleep with more than one person at a time...and only with one I know is as clean as me). There may come a day when I can't take heavy play, but it isn't here yet and I have far too much living to do yet. Women in my family tend to live well into their 90s--our biggest problem is the menfolk pass away long before we women-folk are ready to go. My mother is 73 and her hair is still a natural chestnut brown. Mom and I have both considered dying our hair gray so we'll look our age--then we look at each other, laugh, and say naaahhhhh.

It's all genetics in my case, and I'll enjoy life as long as I possibly can. It's just too darn short to do anything else. So if you are concerned about your own future as a submissive? I would offer to you that it is exactly the same as any woman married to a man--will he still be faithful to you when you are old and gray? Will anyone else want him when HE is old and gray?

It's the small stuff, sister. Don't sweat it at all. If anything, the younger submissives should be worrying about why all the younger Doms are out there chasing the older submissives around...... *evil/wicked old subbie grin*....

Cheers and best wishes

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RE: aging slaves - 4/2/2005 10:14:48 PM

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Aging is a fact of life. That so many think a few wrinkles or a loss of hair make them undesireable is sad. Those that have a fantasy in mind instead of real people make THEIR lives miserable. No one, not even the slaves to exercise and healthnuts can keep up the pace when arthritis and normal aging processes take over. If all the dominant or submissive is looking for is the package why bother with a person? They can get themselves a nice plastic ken or barbie and look at it. Yes, I do want someone with me who is reasonably fit, that means not morbidly obese or rail thin. Other than that as I am "over fifty" I seek males around my age and do not think of them as elderly or of little use, as I am not either of those things. Remember beauty is skin deep, everything fades with time. But the emotions and the drive to be what you were meant to be lasts a lifetime. Be safe and enjoy life you only get one ticket. Sundew

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RE: aging slaves - 5/14/2005 11:28:12 PM

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Growing up and growing old are my biggest fears.

I'm not sure how I'll handle it when it happens.

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RE: aging slaves - 5/15/2005 12:03:56 PM

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RE: aging slaves - 5/15/2005 11:27:19 PM

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OK, finally a chance to get back to this thread.

I believe a mature sub is the greatest gift a dom can find. (And I don't mean that in the cliched sense of "submission is a gift.") I am much more interested in older subs than younger subs--for several reasons. Mainly, it takes a great deal of introspection and courage to have an honest d/s relationship, and most young people just haven't had the time to learn about who they are, nor the experience of seeing how things fall apart when you're not honest with yourself. The main reason why relationships fall apart is not lack of communication, or abuse, or whatever: it's a failure of one or both parties to be honest with themselves. If you're not honest with yourself, you can't possibly be honest with anyone else.

To me, all this more than makes up for the little flaws and blemishes that gravity causes. What's important about a woman's body, anyway, is not how it looks--it's how you use it.

Of course there are exceptions to what I'm saying: not ALL older subs have the self-awareness I'm talking about, and not ALL younger subs lack it. But as a rule, it just takes a certain amount of life experience, of being through some wars and heartache, before you realize who you are and what you need.

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RE: aging slaves - 5/16/2005 7:18:28 AM

cellogrrlMK

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ORIGINAL: domtimothy46176

I would hope that when my girl is too decrepit to serve physically, she would take pride in helping a new girl learn the mysteries of how to serve me properly and remain in my service providing intellectual companionship. I personally value much more than the physical acts of serving so I don't truly see my girl losing her usefulness to me as long as she still has her mind.
Timothy

And what would you do if your girl begins to lose her mind due to dementia or Alzheimer's? While it is never something we want to think about it is unfortunately a fact of life.

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RE: aging slaves - 5/18/2005 5:53:15 PM

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I'm not as good as I once was.........but I'm as good once as I ever was.

As an ageing Dom I appreciate maturity in a good subby. I also take into account the physical abilities of any submissive, weather young or older. Submission as well as Domination is 90 percent mental... as long as the mind functions, it'll all work out.

Jay

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RE: aging slaves - 5/19/2005 7:24:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jay179

I'm not as good as I once was.........but I'm as good once as I ever was.

As an ageing Dom I appreciate maturity in a good subby. I also take into account the physical abilities of any submissive, weather young or older. Submission as well as Domination is 90 percent mental... as long as the mind functions, it'll all work out.

Jay

Well, since domtimothy didn't answer my question and you mention the mind too I'll ask you... what about when the mind begins to stop functioning, through no fault of anyone but the natural aging process or from Alzheimer's? What does one do, abandon their sub/slave? This is the implication I perceive from both your and domtimothy's posts.

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RE: aging slaves - 6/14/2005 4:02:42 PM

biflover327

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Female slaves never worked, no SS! never married to there master, coller means shit, master dies, no insurance, no benifactor, no money, no where to live, end up in the knacker yard!

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