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Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:30:37 PM   
subbieblueeyes


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Status: offline 		I have been keeping my eye on someone and have noticed that they keep bouncing from switch to sub and was wondering what everyone's opinion/thoughts are on this and why someone would keep bouncing back and forth and/or around.
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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:32:24 PM   
Kalira


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ORIGINAL: subbieblueeyes

I have been keeping my eye on someone and have noticed that they keep bouncing from switch to sub and was wondering what everyone's opinion/thoughts are on this and why someone would keep bouncing back and forth and/or around.

Perhaps they are unsure themselves?

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:32:32 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		My guess would be they're not sure whether they're switch or sub?

Just sayin'...

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:33:19 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		they may be unsure themselves or trolling in deeper waters...............

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:37:00 PM   
wouldlike2


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Status: offline 		i can tell You some profiles - same pic - same person one as Dom/ Master other one as sub/ slave..

i once asked this person if He is sure about what He is..

i got the answer thats my twin brother

ok...

but i see that often... a couple of weeks Dom.. a couple of weeks sub

i don't understand - but may thats a new way of being switch?? who knows??

pet


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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:37:26 PM   
WickedlyDevine


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Status: offline 		I did that for a while, and it was because I was told I was a sub, and still am told often, however finding who I am took time and a lot of questions.  Coming into my own, I now fully understand I am Dom with Masochistic tendacies.  I think this person is finding themselves, and might need to look out of the "normal" definitions of BDSM.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 1:41:05 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Or maybe they are trying to attract different people, giving them what they want so to speak. 

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 2:14:30 PM   
subjected2006


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Status: offline 		Speaking for myself..I call myself a switch.
I  am submissive to only one Master.
He is too far away to be hands on with me.
But I am gaining experience and learning the ropes,(yuk yuk)
using stuff Master has taught me,by playing with subs.
So I geuss I could call myself exclusivly a Domme here,
because for all practical purposes that is the only
way anyone from here will ever get to see/meet  me.
But the truth is I am all about being directed by Master.
I have never had less credibility because a sub knows I am Owned.
We all answer to someone.
It seems pretty simple to me.





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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 3:42:57 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Many are still searching for their own identify.  I think it is wonderful that we have the opportunity to watch their self growth.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 3:51:01 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		sometimes i wish i had stayed a Dom, which is what i started out 10 years ago, i think that, maybe...just maybe...i might have a subbie by now. i'm not doing so well as a subbie.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 4:21:25 PM   
givemyall


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Status: offline 		Each to their own I guess.

Maybe they keep getting told that they arent sub enough, so they are experimenting with the mail to their profile..... dont suppose its hurting anyone aslong as they arent playing games with other peoples emotions.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 5:54:02 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		i like to switch back and forth between bi and straight.  Someeeeeeeeeetimes i get sick of being bi and all the god damn women running around and yadda yadda yadda.  So i tells my self, thats it!  You're are going to be straight again!

And then i get bored of being straight and i keep envisioning myself molesting my female friends (or i do) and then i decided i'll be bi for awhile. 

Personality and D/s wise.. (other then being a collared slave)  i sorta bounce between being submissive and dominant.  One minute i have every one running to my beck and call and the next i'm on my knees infront of him!  And then sometimes i'm verra sweet and other times i'm on a war path and sometimes i'm indifferent and other times i care about everyone.. sometimes i love everyone and other times i wish they'd all fucking go walk off the nile bridge and feed the damn crocidiles.  I picked the nile as if they walked off say, the detriot bridge, the rivers would get clogged.  Course then we have to worry about over fed alligators.... 

point is - there is no constant.  People are people and they are ever changing! 

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 6:09:03 PM   
orfunboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

sometimes i wish i had stayed a Dom, which is what i started out 10 years ago, i think that, maybe...just maybe...i might have a subbie by now. i'm not doing so well as a subbie.


What motivated you to switch? If its something you don't feel comfortable with, maybe thats why you feel your not doing so well.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 7:06:48 PM   
TheShadows


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Status: offline 		I see nothing wrong with experimenting with what works for you and what doesn't, but....as someone else said, as long as they're not misleading people by saying they've always been Dom, sub, or switch, or been one or the other exclusively for "X" amount of years, no harm, no foul.

If you want to know the why of it, your best bet is to ask the person directly.

As always, YMMV...

MrsShadows



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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 7:15:09 PM   
Caitriona


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Status: offline 		I would agree with the other posts - perhaps this person is unsure and trying to figure that out.  My Dom and I were recently talking the addition of slaves to our household (in a few years) and what would come along with that...and he said that he honestly felt that I was more a switch than a sub due to the fact that I have no issues being dominant with a slave but submissive with him.  But we are both very aware that my submission is because of my relationship with him - I cannot see myself being submissive with any other partner.  So I've been thinking about this recently...and I think that sometimes we "change" as we grow.  This person might be in that part of their journey and unsure how to express and/or label these feelings.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 7:38:12 PM   
subbieblueeyes


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Status: offline 		After reading the couple of posts saying, that no harm has been done just as long they havent led anyone on, well this person has.  And also, I would think that it would be harming himself mentall to be doing such thing....dunno, what do you think?

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 7:45:14 PM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		Probably that they are unsure of themselves like most have said here. The cynic in me wonders though that if they get a message from a person who is not interested in a switch or they are a sub and have written a few subs that they are playing the field a little bit.

When I see this I usually read the profile and see how that is worded. That should let you know.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 7:46:45 PM   
subbieblueeyes


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Status: offline 		Not only do they do this online, but they do it irl as well.

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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 7:55:00 PM   
michaelGA2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: orfunboi

quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

sometimes i wish i had stayed a Dom, which is what i started out 10 years ago, i think that, maybe...just maybe...i might have a subbie by now. i'm not doing so well as a subbie.


What motivated you to switch? If its something you don't feel comfortable with, maybe thats why you feel your not doing so well.


i wasn't able to bring myself to hurt another person, so i gave it up...not to mention that i've seen alot of mean, cruel and overly sadistic Dominants in the past 10 years


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RE: Changing Status.... - 10/22/2006 8:02:25 PM   
ellecid


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Status: offline 		I can totally understand this (assuming and giving this person the benefit of the doubt that they are not purposely playing with people's minds and emotions). I am new to all of this, and it is absolutely amazing to me that I have such strong submissive desires, as everyone who knows me in rl will tell you that I am far from submissive!! I live a very vanilla,dominant lifestyle... yet, as I dig deeper into myself, I see that perhaps this is why true happiness eludes me. Not that I am suicidal ;)   I have a good life.. but.. as the song says.... I have become comfortably numb. As I continue down the path of self discovery, I am beginning to understand how complex this all is. I think, and some may disagree, that it is rare to find a person who is 100 percent of anything.... be it Dom, sub, or slave. Sure... at the end of the day, when the discovery is over, we find out our true inclinations. For me? I still seem to want or need to hold on to the dominance... but I wonder if when the time is right, I  might feel ready to let that part go. Hope that all makes sense.

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