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Supershovel83 -> How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 6:28:14 PM)

Okay, here i go... How Do you make your Master understand how much you love Him? Here is my story! i met my Master 3 years ago, i have never been in this lifestyle. When my Master told me about it, i agreed why not.... When i had met my Master he was still spoken for... Being the small, simple, farmers daughter that i was, i didn't know what to make of it... So everytime my Master said that it was through with the other women, my hopes where up, but it never came to be intill recently.. That had confused His pet and pet had wondered... Now that Loalty and ownership has been established pet has spent many long hours to get Master to forgive his pet for what she did not see soon enough. So if any other sub/slaves have ever tried to show their Master with out a dout of their love for their Master, please tell me.... i love my Master so much, i just want him too see that. Please help. With all my heart goes this letter. Know with out a doudt i love my Master, and i only want him to see that..

Please help me,
Pet



MasterRobsalayna -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 6:49:04 PM)

alayna doesn't quite follow your thread, however, the way to show alayna's Master how much alayna loves Him:  completely obey Him, no matter what.



Supershovel83 -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 6:55:51 PM)

Dear Alayna,
i have tried my best to do everything for my Master, but it has not always been good enough.. i was not brought up to be or have i had the best intellectual upbringings... But my heart and my love is all and only for my Master... How do i reasure Him take this is true? i can't really live very well with out the love i have for my Master. i just need to be able to reasure Him that my love is real....

Thanks,
pet



KatyLied -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 6:59:09 PM)

Why do you have to reassure him?  From what you've posted in this thread, it sounds like you waited around for him to finish his other relationships.  Why do you need to be forgiven?  It's confusing.



MasterRobsalayna -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:06:46 PM)

alayna agrees with katy.  Something seems amiss here.  In alayna's opinion if you are sure of your love and devotion to him and he is not, perhaps the relationship needs to be reevaluated.  If you would like to chat on the otherside, please send an email and alayna will respond as able.  alayna wishes you peace,



goodpet -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:09:37 PM)

 I'm with Katylied on this one.. i am confused as to why you need to do the reassuring. Being there, being loyal, being obedient,.... all those things show your devotion.

What did you so that requires you to "prove" your love?

Sounds more like his love might in question and you are feeling if you prove your love that will guarantee his love of, or for, you




SlaveAkasha -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:12:40 PM)

To be honest, I just tell him that I love him.  If he doesn't believe you or needs reassurance after that, there isn't much you can do.  You can do things for him, little things sometimes mean a lot.  I do wonder why you feel the need to prove it to him so much?  Does he seem to doubt it?  Has he acted as if he doesn't think you are sincere?



DiurnalVampire -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:14:48 PM)

I, too am confused from a Domme point of view.  You love him, and he needs reassurance of this why?  Have you behaved in some manner to make him doubt this? I know I am in a relationship now where my boy loves me unconditionaly, however he has never felt it necessary to reassure me of it. He doesnt tend to say it often at all, which is just fine.  Since you are new to the lifestyle, you are not going to be the perfect pet right away.  Thats expected, you wil make mistakes.  However, your love for him should not be questioned just becasue you might not react to everything correctly in his eyes. 

DV 



LadyHugs -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:18:01 PM)

Dear Supershovel83, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
As a dominant, I tend to be wary of a slave that keeps saying the words they love me, like to reassure me they do.
 
Love is--it cannot be faked, it is in the spirit of intent and that transmits through your body.  Love needs no words--it is said without words by every touch you have on things you give to him; be it his meal, laundry or a gentle hand in his.
 
Perhaps, you distrust the Master that you need to have him speak his words of comfort and his love.
 
If this is so--communicate. 
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



LadyHugs -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:27:45 PM)

Dear Supershovel83, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Lass, I have traveled all over and met many people from fancy well knowns to humble people, that had so very little and indeed impoverished.
 
Please do not put yourself down because of your roots.  The most loyal, honorable individuals I ever met were the poor and struggling in the hills and hollows (hollers) of Virginia and West Virginia.  I've seen them give all to a stranger in need, despite their lack of funds to properly take care of themselves or family.  I wish I can say for some haughty uppity so-in-in-sos.  You'd be lucky if you got a scrap or given the time of day.
 
I rather walk with them, then be in mansions, delivered in limosines and eat at the most formal of dinners. 
 
Be proud of who you are lass--never be ashamed of your past, your present and look to the future at your feet.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



LaMspeach -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 7:36:44 PM)

 I tell Master all the time that I love Him, but I beleive actions speak louder, so I show him in the little things i do for him, by obeying him completely and by letting Him be himself. We dont have to pretend with each other or be anything that we're not.



diamonddreamlove -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 9:34:33 PM)

I am there when He wishes to talk and i listen without being judegemental.  I am just me which shows Him my greatest gift to Him my trust

diamond



darksdesire -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/23/2006 9:58:57 PM)

i have a strong and regular need to actively demonstrate my love to my Master.  Sometimes it is through words, worshipful words, filled with gratitude for everything He has given me, sometimes it is through actions; a long massage, or some other form of service.  i don't know.  Sometimes i think i express my love for Him because if i don't, i will drown in the intensity of the feeling.  Fortunately He loves it, but....oh.  i can't contain it, it just has to spill out regularly. 

i like using service as a form of expression of love...and i'm working on becoming more creative with what i offer Him. 



CrazyC -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 12:04:36 AM)

sweety, stop tearing yourself up about it. we all make mistakes, and hopefully your Master realizes that. i know you care for Him more then anything, but you are there now. Let that and your actions be enough to show your love.



Squeakers -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 3:37:03 AM)

This post was very difficult to understand flipping from 1st person to 3rd person back to 1st person.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 4:51:54 AM)

My obedience , loyalty and service has been enough to show my Master I love him. He never makes me feel as if what I do is not good enough. I did have this happen in a previous relationship and got tired of feeling not good enough and left.



agirl -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 5:16:40 AM)

Hello Supershovel,

quote:

ORIGINAL: Supershovel83

Dear Alayna,
i have tried my best to do everything for my Master, but it has not always been good enough.. i was not brought up to be or have i had the best intellectual upbringings... But my heart and my love is all and only for my Master... How do i reasure Him take this is true? i can't really live very well with out the love i have for my Master. i just need to be able to reasure Him that my love is real....

Thanks,
pet


I don't think you CAN reassure someone that you love them. That is something that they will either *see* or *feel* for themselves. You can only *show* your love and feelings in the way that you do. How other people *show* it, is THEIR way.

If you love him , you love him.......you cannot *prove* it.

If you have tried your best,( and only you can know that)... that is ALL you can do.........and quite frankly, your best SHOULD be good enough.

I certainly would not thrive if I was with someone for whom my very best was not *good enough*.

Regards, agirl



Silvermoon -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 5:48:37 AM)

My first Dom..I wanted to show him just how much I cared, and adored each moment with him. Over the first year of our relationship I collected little tidbits, a swatch of the night gown I wore the night we first made love, a piece of the rope first used for bondage, concert ticket stubs, letters we wrote back and forth, and so forth. I put them into a scrap book and gave it to him for our first anniversary. Of course, he simply set it on the floor and never looked at it but that's cause he was an ass..the idea itself (I feel) showed everything, desire to be with him, attention to detail, sentiment, romance even...

Just a thought.



agirl -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 6:23:53 AM)

That's unfortunate Silvermoon. That's the difficulty with HOW we *show* love. If the effort and intent isn't received, understood and appreciated it can be very hurtful. 

agirl



MsKatHouston -> RE: How do you show your Master that you love Him? (10/24/2006 6:25:10 AM)

To answer the original question without looking at all the other things that have me a bit worried in your post, you show someone you love them by being there, being supportive, by doing all the things required in the relationship and taking it a little further also to do all the little things and by telling him.

Now, I would like to address, if I may, some of the issues I see in this and ask for some clarification. 

You met a man 3 years ago who was in a relationship and did...what, exactly?  Were you together?  Did the other person know?  Was he trying to leave her and continued to give empty promises?  If this is the case, it seems there are some real problems.  Trust is an essential element in any D/s relationship and if he has lied, not kept his word or cheated, you may want to tread carefully here.

I would suggest you learn a bit about D/s independently and not just take what this is based on what any one person, including your Master, me or anyone in this thread, says.  Figure out first if you want this (D/s) or just want him any way you can get him.  Then, figure out your needs.  Do you need monogamy, then make sure you get it (and do not let anyone say you are not a real/true slave if you can not accept poly).  What do you need?

You want your Master to fogive you for not seeing what soon enough, exactly?  From what little you have said, I am led to believe he is the one who needs to be bending over backwards to you in order establish (or reestablish) your trust.  Some red flags are here for me on first inspection but you were vague in your post and I could be completely misunderstanding and off base.  So, some further clarification would be welcomed.



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