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newbie'z - 1/28/2005 12:06:04 AM

NaughtyBoy4U

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i am rather new to this lifestyle, and have no real life experience other then things done together with past lovers in vanilla relationships. i am rather curious what some ideas, and suggestions the Top Females would like to share with me if any on how to best perform, and show that i am very eager, and sincere in my desires to serve and become a fully owned slave. Please over look my choice of words if they are confusing to anyone, i am not the best person with worlds, but i am very sincere in my desire, and goals in life.

i guess the best way to get the sort of answers that will be most useful is to give an example of what it is that i seek..

for starters being new and all, i would very much like to find a Female top that is open and willing to train someone who is new in this lifestyle. being as i have no prior training, i am ready to be broken in and learn what ever i need to to perform the best ways possible for my Trainer/Owner. i am very open minded to just about everything possible, and willing to try anything at least once so long as it isn't placing myself or anyone else life in danger. i am very sane, and i do not have a death wish, or desire to end my life or any other persons life. i love to learn, and i always welcome a good challenge. i also love to teach, but not in a since where i have to be the head, as i feel i would be most comfortable having someone make the choices and decision for me rather then i make them, or point them out. while i am straight, and don't really have gay or bi intentions, i am most willing to do my very best in doing, and becoming the desire, and tool of my Trainer/Owners desires, and needs. while this all sounds great, i also understand that nothing happens over night if it is sincere, yet i will earn the respect, and honor to serve my future Trainer/Owner. i list no personal fetishes as in time i hope to mold to Her fetishes and desires, and make Her needs my needs.

if anyone could shed some light on their thoughts, and words of wisdom here, i would be most grateful. thank you for taking the time to read my post, and be well A/all....

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RE: newbie'z - 1/28/2005 6:35:04 AM

panthergoddess

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*snaps my fingers* Darn....you are just out of my locational reach.

I must admit that I enjoy breaking in newer folks to the lifestyle. And I can tell that you are sincere in your approach but do need to be smoothed around the edges.

Advice: be mindful of your own desires as well. Without you being able to discover and state them, how will your Mistress be able to exploit and enhance them for and with you. I'd say check out the fetish check lists that are available to see what you may or may not be interested in to begin with. Be honest with yourself. Then, you can look up information and ask questions on the fetishes.

I've often found that while we all discuss fetishes as a part of this lifestyle that we all tend to agree it's only a portion of it. You seem to have the right attitude and heart for being submissive.

Good Luck on your journey.

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RE: newbie'z - 1/29/2005 8:41:31 AM

NaughtyBoy4U

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Thank You very much for Your reply Panther Goddess.

About what my interests are, i really don't at this point desire just any one thing other then being owned. i know that may seam off the wall, but im pretty perverted and open minded. while there are many things that i may not like or agree with, i am hoping that whom ever becomes my Trainer will push me far and beyond those things. Of course in real life and in the presents of my Domme i would not hold anything back, and would be open with my feelings if that was Her desire.

Again, thank You Panther Goddess, for Your reply..

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RE: newbie'z - 1/29/2005 9:03:13 AM

ProtagonistLily

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*snaps my fingers* Darn....you are just out of my locational reach.

Ditto, I had the same reaction LOL.

Well, you sound like you have your head on straight, and that's a good thing. Read all you can, here on the boards and the good web resources.

You may be surprised, but I'm sure there's a BDSM organization somewhere within driving distance of you. If you are sincere about finding people real time, that may be your best bet. Memphis Power Exchange http://www.clpw.net/MPE/main.html or Smoky Mountain Power Exchange http://www.magenta.com/~smpex/ may be what you are looking for. They may have monthly munches (Don't know what a munch is, Jay Wiesman's document is wonderful and very comprehensive http://www.soj.org/articles/A%20Beginners%20Guide%20to%20BDSM%20Munches.htm)

I wish you the best of luck in your search and growth in the Lifestyle.

Lily

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