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Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub / S... - 10/24/2006 12:13:58 AM

Phrixus

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So there I am, profile out there, picture included. I am curious as to what Sub / Slave('s) look for in their search for a Dom / Master. What style of pics is appealing or preferred? What is the immediate information that is wanted? Does it come down to literary licks or is there specific info that will aide in the search for a match. I don't want to come across as any less dominant or any more arrogant. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
The more you know, the more you grow!

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 10/24/2006 12:51:16 AM

LuckySub1977

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i have found through experience that the best way to find what you are looking for is to not worry about projecting a certain image that you think will attract people and just by being yourself. show yourself in your best light, don't dwell on your shortcomings, think about who you really are and what you really want and communicate those things as honestly and openly as you can. It worked for me...

i can only speak for myself because i know everyone is looking for something different, but profiles that seemed optimistic and friendly always catch my attention... and any complaining or nitpicky crap really turns me off... your profile is there to say "hey this is me" and who wants to serve someone who is going to be constantly complaining about everything...

i like to see pictures that don't hide you... want to see your eyes and smile, and i love to see pictures of people actually out doing things, the whole standing in front of the mirror and taking a crappy picture with your phone thing just doesn't grab my eyes.

hope this helped a little,
lucky

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 10/24/2006 4:56:45 AM

Kalira

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quote:

I am curious as to what Sub / Slave('s) look for in their search for a Dom / Master.

Hmm, for myself only:

I look for something that we have in common outside of the kink and the PE.

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What style of pics is appealing or preferred?

I could care less if they have a picture or not. It's not the face that I want to get to know, but the person inside. The one I am with now, I never knew what he looked like till I met him face to face.

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What is the immediate information that is wanted?

Again, I would rather hear about general things like; what do you do in your free time, family, what kind of friends do you have, what kind of books do you read, movies do you watch, music, etc etc. Very general things that I would want to know about anyone.

quote:

Does it come down to literary licks or is there specific info that will aide in the search for a match.

If all I have to go on is what a person has written, then yes, Literacy is extremely important.

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I don't want to come across as any less dominant or any more arrogant

Hmm, why not just try being yourself?

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 10/24/2006 7:25:02 AM

Celeste43

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If a face pic, then certainly a smile.
If it's an animal, then include something about it.
A place, tell what is special about it, why you like to go there.

Don't talk about your great whip skills, talk about yourself as a person. What do you enjoy. What are you passionate about.? That's the biggie for me, feeling that they are passionate about something. If you love cooking, then talk about spending Saturdays at the Farmers Market getting the best ingredients for your famous chicken cacciatori which one bite of garners you applause.

If you're funny, then let it come through in the way you write but be aware that sarcasm does not translate well. You want to show who you are as a person, so that anyone who reads it will know if they want to know more.

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 10/24/2006 8:30:13 AM

toservez

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What I look for and only my personal preference:

Effort made at filling out the profile. In other words, takes the written part seriously and not "I suppose I have to type something in this".
Real information conveyed as to who you are, what you are like as a Master and how you want to live the life.
Written in a tone that is positive and not negative and pissed off at the world or your search.
Passionate, I want to feel your love for this life.
That the profile is written to find someone and not anyone. If you have strong preferences that you talk about them and not write to try to include everyone. For eample, I would have responded to a person who might mention a kink strongly that is something I do not get normally turned on by over someone who would write "can do whatever you want".

I preferred a natural tone and do not care for cyber dom attitude or any type of other gimmicks. Also I always get turned off when a profile is written to tell me how I should feel, what I am or any other type of thing where it comes off with all info about the sub or what you think a sub is and no information about you.

As far as a picture goes, any natural picture with your face on it is preferred. Webcam or cellphone pictures are OK if they are clear enough.

Good luck in your search!

Lin

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 2:31:27 AM

sublimeslavepup

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Are you Greek Orthodoz? interested in cyber that might/could lead to r/t? likw older women?
You are the same age as my son and the same height and look the same weight, which is fine with me. i have traumatic amnesia for the first 18 years of my life and get along better with men at least 20 years younger than i am. And i am so far away from being a little old lady it is delightful. i don't know where ontario is in relation to the state of Idaho. There is a town in Oregon names Ontario an hour drive from here. i am slo to answer, please be patient t. Thanks

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 2:40:23 AM

sublimeslavepup

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Oops. And i have a very bad short-term memory too. When i am looking for a new Dom (which i am now) i look for brains, a sense of humor, passionate desires, gabbiness, affection, honesty, attitude, experience, former relationships and how they went both good and bad, compassion. curiosity, wile imagination, daring to take safe risks, attentive, SSC-safe, sane consensual degree of sadism inherent, respect for women, oh i could go on and on. i better close for now. Goood luck on your search. i am new to this site and very impressed because they helped me to discover that my Master had been, instead of sadistic, just plain old fashioned abusive instead. Love, bobbie jeanne

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 5:05:53 AM

Quivver

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You know Phrixus subs and slaves come in as many varietys as Dom's and Master's do. Tell about you, what your seeking, show some personality!
I think that is a better choice then to ask what we are looking for! For a reference point from my point of view, my favorite profile from a Dominant is Mnottertails, but then again there's only on Ron (thank god)...................

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 5:10:48 AM

Aileen68

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Quivver

For a reference point from my point of view, my favorite profile from a Dominant is Mnottertails, but then again there's only on Ron (thank god)...................

You're biased. He does have a great profile though.

Edited to add my standard answer to these kinds of threads. WE WANT COCK PICS!

< Message edited by Aileen68 -- 11/4/2006 5:11:58 AM >

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 7:50:29 AM

missturbation

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Phrixus

So there I am, profile out there, picture included. I am curious as to what Sub / Slave('s) look for in their search for a Dom / Master.
Everyone looks for different things.
What style of pics is appealing or preferred?
Same as above.
What is the immediate information that is wanted?
The basics. who you are, what your into.

Different strokes for different folks.
Be yourself is my only advice.

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If it fit's in a toaster, i can cook it.

Buying 10 item's or less is not shopping !!

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 8:04:04 AM

juliaoceania

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quote:

So there I am, profile out there, picture included. I am curious as to what Sub / Slave('s) look for in their search for a Dom / Master.

Ones in which they are doing things they enjoy. It is somehow more friendly appearing to me. Outdoor shots are particularly nice.

quote:

What is the immediate information that is wanted?

Education level, hobbies enjoyed, type of eating one does (meat potatoes, vegan, organic). Whether or not a sports nut, outdoorsy or not.

I would say be honest about yourself and your lifestyle in a positive way. It is not arrogant to be honest and positive. I would not worry about the image you project unless it is a false one...

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 8:21:34 AM

RedSavageSlave

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If you are looking for someone who is compatible to your wants and needs..be yourself

If you are looking for someone who is the total fantasy sub package..be the total fantasy dom

If you are looking for someone who is a cyber slut..be a cyber dom

Be what it is you are seeking.. it will save you alot of time in the long run :D

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 9:55:19 AM

Quivver

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

If you are looking for someone who is compatible to your wants and needs..be yourself

If you are looking for someone who is the total fantasy sub package..be the total fantasy dom

If you are looking for someone who is a cyber slut..be a cyber dom

Be what it is you are seeking.. it will save you alot of time in the long run :D

Perfect words of Wisdom!
Thanks for a great post!

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The problem with communication ... is the illusion that it has been accomplished. ~George Bernard Shaw

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 12:20:21 PM

kisshou

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Aileen *spank spank spank* no we don't (want cock pix)

we want pictures of male dominants wearing white button down shirts!!

we want pictures of female domme's wearing wet white button down shirts :)

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/4/2006 1:16:30 PM

Aileen68

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Heh heh heh

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/5/2006 6:01:49 PM

kirkzhom

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For me, I immediately turn away from postings that radiate hate or give me the sense that this Dom/me wants to 'take out' something on me. They may, in the end of course, but even the photo ... staring down at the camera and giving sharp cryptic demands makes me shudder and move on. I figure this is this person being honest and stating who they are, not posturing. If that's who they are at their best, it can only get worse. I'm not looking to have smoke blown up my skirt ... so to speak, sort of ... okay maybe I, hold on I'm drifing off topic here. My thought is that I want to know that this person is not going to walk in the kitchen on a good day and haul off and crack me across the face just for grins. That's not domination to me, it's abuse and some photos and narratives seem to radiate this sense that I should consider myself fortunate that they want to beat the living s**t out of me. A big clue for me is someone who has no preferences about anything. They just want someone NOW who will allow themselves to be used however the poster sees fit. I should say that my opinion is slanted as I seek female Dommes or more sensitive Doms. That said, while I certainly will enjoy the indescribable delicious agony of trying to find a way to sit in my office chair around the bruises, as a submissive I want most of my bruises to be about play or training, not about the Dom/me venting hatred for the world on me.

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RE: Profile set up "What Is Best Practices For Sub... - 11/5/2006 9:01:36 PM

Archer

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Project an accurate picture of who you are and what you are about.
If you project a face designed to make the search easier the odds are high that you will find unsuitable partners.
If you project the real you then those that do respond will be the ones who like what they see and thus in the end you have saved time and effort all around.

< Message edited by Archer -- 11/5/2006 9:02:01 PM >

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