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AlderTheKitty -> Some wisdom i have learned. (10/24/2006 8:29:50 AM)
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[(note) for the purpose of this post i will use the terms top for dom, domme, master, mistress, lord, lady and madam and bottom for the submissive end of things]
We all want the dream relationship.
For many Bottoms it's the rich Top who take us to his or her castle, manson or hidden estate what have you. Giving us all the little quarks we've longd for. Pampering us with love and care with a large enclosed property where we can play nakid out side and now one would know.
Most of us won't find this some will search for a long time before we find someone who makes us happy.
The keys i have found to happy ness are
Understanding
Respect
Trust
Cooperation
With out these going both ways a reliation ship is doomed to fail.
Every thing else is meaning less.
Now if yourd a New Bottom you may think you have to give your self to every top in the room. Doing this is called being a whore not a Bottom infact most events with rules like this tend to be a meat market.
More important them going to your first party and starting your first kinky romance right of the bat is to make friends. going to a social munch is a great way to do this my local munch is exilent and i am glad to be apart of it. The friends i have made have taught me that i am a rare gem and only worth of the best just like every other bottom on this planet. More important then play is a support system so that when yu stay having relationships you have someone you can go to for help if things go wrong.
Lastly never try and make love happen it will fail just let things happen and they will you have to make sure that something good can happen but don't try and force it go out make friends with simmilar intrests and enjoy your self you'll find someone when the time is right
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