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Before Master - 10/25/2006 3:30:37 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I know i had a life before Master.  As a matter of fact i am sure of it the thing is my life has changed so much for the better since i have been with Master it is hard to remember my life before him.  I still have the same friends and outside interestes but its all shifted focus since i have been with Master. 

I am not sure if i am making sense but does anyone feel the same way?

Matt's littleone
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RE: Before Master - 10/25/2006 3:38:21 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		 I understand you littleone. I feel the same way about my Master. It's been 18 months since he entered into my life and 7 months since he moved me into his home. My life is like night and day! So many things have changed about me that I could write a book about it. The biggest change is my inner being. I'm finally at peace. What a feeling that is!!

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RE: Before Master - 10/25/2006 7:46:10 PM   
Daddysredhead


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From: Northern (yet still part of the South) Virginia
Status: offline 		Before I was involved with my Master, I was in a horrible domestic situation.  It was very toxic and left me feeling like a shell of a person.  I cried almost every day, compromised my personal values to try to keep peace in my house, and had no trace of self worth.

Then, one day, I met my Master.  We became friends, then lovers, all the while He was teaching me that I was worth so much more than I gave myself credit for.  He taught me to trust and love again and most of all, that being submissive to a strong man did not make me a weak woman.  The past three years have definitely been different...  in a very good way.

(edited to add an omitted word)

< Message edited by Daddysredhead -- 10/25/2006 7:48:42 PM >

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RE: Before Master - 10/25/2006 9:53:14 PM   
sunnydays


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Status: offline 		before i met Master, i had another Master..who treated me badly....my Master now, gave me the opportunity to talk without retrabution and unconditional support.. adn even offered me a place ot live until i could secure suitable accomodation...so i left my old Master... now my new Master ( i know this is confusing) didn't know he was a dom.. until i spoke to Him about it.. and we were not going to be together as a couple when i first met him and left my ex.. but we are now getting married next year and live together as a happy family..i have never felt so safe, secure, loved and worth anyones time as much as i feel when under Masters gaze,,,,,..mmm....lucky me

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RE: Before Master - 10/25/2006 9:56:30 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		The Master I have now has not been my only Master/Mistress but it seems like he has been. If that makes sense. Life somehow seems so much better and brighter with him in it. It is hard sometimes to think how life was before him. As he reads all my posts he will read this one and get a swelled head. But thats ok he deserves it and I adore him.

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RE: Before Master - 10/25/2006 11:28:33 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		There is no comparing my life before and after Master.  He is my first Master (and only One), and I am so fortunate to have landed in His arms.  Even after two years, there is not a day that goes by in which i do not pause to reflect on my gratitude toward Him.  He has broken through barriers i couldn't break through, despite my years of effort and hard work, and my growth as His slave extends into my vanilla life.  i am most certainly, a stronger, healthier, happier and better person now than before He found me. 

Life before Master?  Ha.  That was another life, another girl.  I don't want to remember.

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RE: Before Master - 10/26/2006 1:54:57 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I was a different person then.  I was weak, insecure, and underconfident. I was afraid of having an opinion, and I would throw myself at any friendship, in the hopes of being liked. He taught me to learn about myself, to love myself, and to enjoy myself.  He taught me to let my inner light shine, and to let go of my baggage.  The only person who is not marveling at the obvious changes in me is my ex husband.

Master and I talk about where I came from on occasion.  It is a place I left, but a place I should remember having left.

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RE: Before Master - 10/26/2006 6:09:38 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		They do tend to become your world if it is right, don't they?

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RE: Before Master - 10/26/2006 11:21:50 AM   
behindmirrors


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Status: offline 		I went through an entire history before I met my Dom- and he an entire history before me. These things made us both capable in being in the place we are, and I am always grateful for his ownership of me- not because I was broken and he fixed me, but because I fixed me- and then he reminded me I am just as valuable (if not more valuable) even though I had been broken before.

behindmirrors.

(edited for lack of sense)

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RE: Before Master - 10/26/2006 11:32:39 AM   
ownedjulia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

They do tend to become your world if it is right, don't they?

Yes.... What IS that trick?!



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RE: Before Master - 10/26/2006 8:56:52 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

I know i had a life before Master.  As a matter of fact i am sure of it the thing is my life has changed so much for the better since i have been with Master it is hard to remember my life before him.  I still have the same friends and outside interestes but its all shifted focus since i have been with Master. 

I am not sure if i am making sense but does anyone feel the same way?

Matt's littleone


My life is very different now that I am with my dominant but lots of things in my life have changed since then. My focus has shifted, as our relationship progressed, and we are now a couple, not just two people dating. I think this happens in any healthy relationship, vanilla or BDSM.

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RE: Before Master - 10/27/2006 12:24:59 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

I know i had a life before Master.  As a matter of fact i am sure of it the thing is my life has changed so much for the better since i have been with Master it is hard to remember my life before him.  I still have the same friends and outside interestes but its all shifted focus since i have been with Master. 

I am not sure if i am making sense but does anyone feel the same way?

Matt's littleone


I guess I'm a little odd.  I had a good, full, professionally going down the right path, thriving life with friends and family before my owner.  Now with my owner I have a good, full, professionally going down the right path, thriving life with friends and family.  He is a strong component in my life, but my life was great before he came into it.

C~


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RE: Before Master - 10/27/2006 4:13:11 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

I guess I'm a little odd. 


I call what you describe "healthy".


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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 4:47:51 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		wildfleurs

lol.  odd only because it's healthy...

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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 5:05:48 PM   
deltadawn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

I know i had a life before Master.  As a matter of fact i am sure of it the thing is my life has changed so much for the better since i have been with Master it is hard to remember my life before him.  I still have the same friends and outside interestes but its all shifted focus since i have been with Master. 

I am not sure if i am making sense but does anyone feel the same way?

Matt's littleone


I remember the time before Master.  I was a quiet woman void of the only thing that really mattered.  Sure I went through all the motions, had a good job, a lot of great friends, some wild social times, but it was him that drew the rest of me out.  Took me by the hand through some tough times, guided a part of me that nobody else had ever seen. 

Now I fly.  I fly to these wonderful places that I never want to come down from.  Anything can attack me now and I know I have the courage to conquer it.  He completes who I am, and he says I complete him too. 

Thank you for such a positive post on a most wonderful topic.

dawn

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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 5:14:13 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Submitting this for Angel, who cant keep a descent enough connection to do so himself.
This is a cut and paste, so I take no responsability for his typing, which is usually better than mine anyhow.

Before DV, I had no clue where I was going or what I wanted out of life.  The only experiences I had ever had with vanilla and lifestyle women were aweful, emotinally abuseve and mentaly draining. I had actually given up and deiced not to date, ever, and to live my life alone. It seemed easier than putting myself through the wreckage again.
DV has taight me what it is like to be loved. I have NEVER been loved before, even family. In the beginning, it was an insanely scary idea, someone could so quickly become so ingrained in my life, that I ran away.  She understood and took me back, and takes things slowly. I am blessed to have her. I remember my life before her, quite clearly.  I have only been hers for a month, collared, and several before that in my heart. I have never ben happier, more otivated to do things, or more focused than since I have been hers.  I have someone else to do things for, now, someone who cares and who is genuinely interested. 
DV's Angel



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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 5:30:54 PM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		What a wonderful testament to your relationship.  i too am at a point in my life where i have pretty much decided i will be by myself for the rest of my life (i am also very ok with this).  It's wonderful that the two of you found each other.

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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 6:27:03 PM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: deltadawn
Now I fly.  I fly to these wonderful places that I never want to come down from.  Anything can attack me now and I know I have the courage to conquer it. 

I love this and I so relate to it.  This past year has thrown a ridiculous amount of struggles and pains at me, yet I had the strength and courage to tackle it all.  He brought that out of me.  He taught me just how strong I really am and never let me give up.  Life is good!

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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 9:00:33 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darksdesire

wildfleurs

lol.  odd only because it's healthy...


Thanks! :-)

Just one quick note, its Wildfleurs :-)

C~


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RE: Before Master - 10/28/2006 9:08:24 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		Wildfleurs, i stand corrected.

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