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What is humiliation??? - 10/25/2006 10:08:50 PM   
littlespike


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i have been holding off asking this but here it goes.  What exactually is humiliation? 

i have been trying to understand the concept.  But no luck....

LittleSpike
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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 12:44:26 AM   
sublimeslavepup


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Status: offline 		Oh goodie!  My Master has this slave on orders to learn as much as she can about humiliation and degredation.  As far as this slave has been able to figure out so far it all revolves around discovering the words that are "button pushers" for that individual and then use them in such a matter as to make them feel absolutely awful-------thus, hopefully, making them delightfully sexually aroused. 
     So far this slave has only discovered a few.  Call her "stupid" and she will consider you to be stupid too, but call her a liar and you will have started a war. 
     Now this slave needs some help.  She wants this to be a thread that she follows but she can't for the life of her figure out how to do it.  The profile that she took hours to compose and post appears to have disappeared and she does not know how to give y'all an alternate method of contact.
     Now the only humiliation that causes arousal in this slave appears to rotate around any unwanted public display of sins or punishments or nudity.
especially in front of vanilla persons.  There is a picture on Desadov by Farrell of a woman being stripped on the front porch by her husband with a whip in his hand, and her in tears, with all of the neighbors or local townspeople watching .
     This slave hopes this has been helpful to you and will start the ball rolling.
Love, sublimeslavepup  bobbie jeanne

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 3:59:31 AM   
littlespike


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Status: offline 		Hi sublimeslavepup:  Thanks.  The button pushing idea sounds interesting.  Very tailored to the individual subie's personality.  Although being naked on the front porch sounds a little too much.  i wonder what the neighbors would say? hahaha

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 5:11:55 AM   
Kalira


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ORIGINAL: littlespike

Hi Everybody:

i have been holding off asking this but here it goes.  What exactually is humiliation? 

i have been trying to understand the concept.  But no luck....

LittleSpike

It differes from person to person. For me, humilation is being forced to do something that I would never normally do. Something that is so totally embarassing and shameful. And yet, when it's done, its done so in a way that either brings excitement, or allows certain mental blocks to be broken down.

Being called a whore, slut, cunt,etc for me, is not shameful; it's exciting.

Yet, being told to use the men's bathroom is humiliating and shameful.

Being shared with others while he watches is exciting.

Yet, to just tell me to strip and stand there so that others can look at my body is humiliating.

/shrug

Like I said though, it all depends on the people involved and how they interact with each other.

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 6:23:16 AM   
imtempting


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Status: offline 		Humiliation is as it sounds.

What humiliates you in real life?

What embarress you?  It is like school yard bullying to make yourself feel better and your sub to feel embarressed

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 6:28:28 AM   
littlespike


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Sounds interesting.  The thought of finding something exciting is cool.  Doing something which is embarassing makes some sense.  When i have heard about humliiation exploits it did almost always involve some embasassment.

The thought of using the mens room in interesting.  Well for me it would be the ladies room.  Sometimes i walk into the ladies room by mistake.  i am thinking about something else and bam i walk into the wrong room.  For the most part the ladies are cool. 

Being naked in public is not really embarassing for me though.  Lots of times when i am playing with a Domme; she will have me strip down.  Or the ClubFEM parties where the boys are naked or in thongs.  i have a g-string that i wear for play.  Collar, cuffs and g-string; playtime attire.



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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 7:36:12 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/26/2006 3:22:06 PM   
littlespike


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Status: offline 		Hi LuckyAlbatross:

thanks alot....  This is a lot of reading on the subject.  i was reading earlier today.  But then had to go out and do stuff.

My laptop bit the dust the other day.  Being a chauffeur; i was driving a sedan and had to stop short.  My laptop did a perfect summersault smashing into the dashboard.  And then decided to stop working, for no apparent reason as it was working the night before.  Luckily tuesday was my last day at work.  Next week i am leaving to Austin Texas, via Stockton, Las Vegas, and Denver.  Well to make a long story short today was/is the task of draging all of my old stuff from the old disk to my new laptop. 

But forget my computer troubles and back to humiliation.  i should have some more time for reading after the task of migrating to my new laptop is done.  Again thanks.... i should be able to write more a little later.......

little spike

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/28/2006 4:23:36 AM   
Kalira


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The thought of using the mens room in interesting.  Well for me it would be the ladies room.  Sometimes i walk into the ladies room by mistake.  i am thinking about something else and bam i walk into the wrong room.  For the most part the ladies are cool. 

speaking ONLY for myself...often if we are out eating, and I excuse myself to use the restroom...he will just look at me and say 'use the men's" and while the actual thought is not humilatiing, it is if there is someone in there or if someone comes in while I am in there. Yes, I get embarassed fairly easy lol.
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  Being naked in public is not really embarassing for me though.  Lots of times when i am playing with a Domme; she will have me strip down.  Or the ClubFEM parties where the boys are naked or in thongs.  i have a g-string that i wear for play.  Collar, cuffs and g-string; playtime attire.



being naked for him is fairly easy for me, and pretty natural...but when others are present, I have a hard time, and he knows it lol. So, stripping for others is highly humilating for me.

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/28/2006 8:41:48 AM   
littlespike


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Status: offline 		Hi Kalira:

Using the mens room is a lot easier for women than using the ladies room for men.  But, i guess, if i was in the mens room and a lady walked in to use the facilities i would say "cool". 

I can understand not wanting to be naked in public or in semi-public.  For me there is a little bit of a thrill. 

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/28/2006 11:08:10 AM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		oh my favorite topic!  For me, humiliation is anything that hits close to home, things i'm sensitive about. For example, i grew up fearing that i was sexually depraved because of my intense sexual drive.  When my Master hits on that, or other themes that are personally painful for me, it is tremendously exciting and erotic.  Hearing it out of His mouth sends shivers up my spine and makes me melt.  If anyone else said those things????  Well all i can say is that just wouldn't be fun.

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/28/2006 11:41:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Unless you need humiliation to sexually excite you,  I don't really see a need for it.  Why would anyone want to be humiliated?  Maybe I am taking the meaning of the word in the wrong way but to me a D/s relationship should be a loving one.  I would not want to humiliate someone I love.  Let me just say, been there, been hurt by it and won't let it happen again.
Just my opinion

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/28/2006 2:04:35 PM   
Kalira


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ORIGINAL: lilsnowywolf

Unless you need humiliation to sexually excite you,  I don't really see a need for it.  Why would anyone want to be humiliated?  Maybe I am taking the meaning of the word in the wrong way but to me a D/s relationship should be a loving one.  I would not want to humiliate someone I love.  Let me just say, been there, been hurt by it and won't let it happen again.
Just my opinion

In some ways, it breaks down certain mental barriers that are in place. For example, with me and stripping in front of others. It's very hard for me to do simply because I am very self-conscious about my body. It's his way of letting me know that others can appreciate the same beauty that he does; there is nothing harmful in it, and it is actually refreshing to be able to break past that.

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RE: What is humiliation??? - 10/28/2006 11:06:37 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		oh but, for some, humiliation is loving!  What incredible trust it takes...hard to explain what it does for me, but it creates the most intimate and loving bond.  i think it is because through His humiliation, He is showing me that He sees the deepest, darkest, most shameful places inside me, and loves me in spite and because of them.  From Him it is deeply and profoundly loving.  One could say the same about spanking, that a D/s relationship should be a loving one and how can someone spank someone they love.  It all depends upon how the two experience it..it can be abusive, or it can be the most intimate and loving of acts.      

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