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RE: common courtesy - 10/29/2006 12:16:39 PM

SweetSarijane

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Most of the Dominants I know show basic common courtesy and manners and none of those find it beneath them at all. It's just part of who they are.

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RE: common courtesy - 10/29/2006 12:46:22 PM

MsKatHouston

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I think everyone should show common courtey to others regardless of whether or not they are dominant or submissive, male or female. If someone needs the door held open, I'll do it...or any one of the other little social niceties that may occur in daily transactions with the general public. However, I don't think one should confuse this with a D/s dynamic because the rules in a D/s relationship may fly against traditionally accepted courtesies. Perhaps the female always opens the door, seats the man, etc. Whatever works in each person's relationship.

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RE: common courtesy - 10/29/2006 5:45:16 PM

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Everyone has their way. My Master treats me as a lady in public. Some might not do that but that is their choosing.

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RE: common courtesy - 10/29/2006 6:02:08 PM

pleasetame

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Dear Sir (Emperor1956),

In the real world I would never reply to this the way I truly feel, but here, I cant resist. Look at the women here, many are successful professionals who want to be submissive, want to go back to the days when women didnt have to work, when they raised their children and took care of their husbands and homes and did the work as volunteers that we now pay a great deal more taxes to have done. We now pay more for schools because they have to be day care providers and raise our children, we pay more for police because children are not raised by thier parents, we now pay more for social programs like feeding the hungry and poor, when it used to be women who remained home did those things, not for a pay check but to keep America going. What happened to those days.

Now I say this as a woman who makes what her male peers are making. I am fortunate in that I have not found the glass ceiling, but it was better when I was able to stay home and help my community, but then children cant handle paying for college with the major increases over the last few years and the taxes we pay are so high, it takes two incomes.

Even in the real world, I love having the door opened :)

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RE: common courtesy - 10/31/2006 12:59:05 PM

desoutter

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I am a Dom when the scene demands it...
I am a gentleman otherwise....
There is no particular reason why a Dom could not behave like a gentleman... ego thing maybe?
It sure is prevalent though - not just in our lifestyle but long gone are those days I think...

When its time to Dom - Lets get to it!... otherwise... can I help you with that?

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RE: common courtesy - 11/1/2006 5:18:48 PM

ExSteelAgain

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Yep, I agree with Desoutter. You have to compartmentalize things. In society, I am a social person who is capable of following all the nuances. To be otherwise is to be boorish.

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RE: common courtesy - 11/1/2006 6:22:53 PM

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I am quite chivalrous to my subs, but not because it is ingrained into me or it is socially acceptable but because I find it to be good way to reinforce the sorts of roles and behaviors that I expect from them as well as protecting what is mine. Like walking on the street side, that was originally done so the ladies dress wouldn't get wet when a carriage went my and splashed water onto the side walk.

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RE: common courtesy - 11/1/2006 6:50:47 PM

darkmeat

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did u get my response to what u said?hit me back and let me know

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RE: common courtesy - 11/1/2006 9:37:38 PM

Arpig

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Depends entirely on the situation and the people involved

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RE: common courtesy - 11/8/2006 9:37:50 PM

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I wouldn't apreciate being loaded down with tons of packages, I don't even like carrying my camera bag when it weights 5 pounds and feels heavier, but that's me lol.

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