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Morrigel -> RE: ever feel bad (10/28/2006 7:23:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Noah For what it may be worth I wouldn't call this feeling bad. Weeeellll...it wasn't a good feeling. Especially in comparison to how being kinky usually makes me feel. [:)] --M

MistressSassy66 -> RE: ever feel bad (10/28/2006 9:09:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster That's not the same thing. You can feel sympathy for a woman's pain without "feeling bad," as the OP put it, that you caused it. My wife went through considerable pain because of complications too, but it would be irrational for me to feel guilty about that. To see the look on My ex's face when I was delivering...he felt bad,very,very bad,(not too many nice things to say about him,but I give him credit he was there for every second of it)I do believe he really did feel guilty for My pain...so much so that he got snipped so as to never have to go through it again. To answer the OP....Nope I dont feel bad,even when I f*ck up and accidentally cut a nut off....LOL

eyesopened -> RE: ever feel bad (10/29/2006 4:42:13 AM)
i'm not a Dom/me but i can't see why anyone would feel badly for being who and what they are within the confines of consenting adults. Empathy isn't the same as guilt. i see things by the way i was raised in a deeply religious family in a religion that teaches that all sin is in the motive, not the act. If Your motive is bad (assault, rape, etc) then by all means You should feel badly about it and stop it. If Your motive is good, then You should feel good.

mstrjx -> RE: ever feel bad (10/29/2006 6:27:49 AM)
My first experience with a submissive woman was before I even knew about D/s as I understand it now. (Boy did I really miss the boat there.) To make a long story short, I realized this woman wanted to be slapped (during sex). She did not communicate this to me, but she had communicated that she was withholding some sort of secret. This was it. I was taught never to hit a woman. I was also taught to make a partner happy. These 'teachings' are, in what we do, diametrically opposed. So I slapped her. I put my own 'limits' behind me in order to please another. It's been downhill ever since. Jeff

Morrigel -> RE: ever feel bad (10/29/2006 7:41:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx I was taught never to hit a woman. I was also taught to make a partner happy. These 'teachings' are, in what we do, diametrically opposed. So I slapped her. I put my own 'limits' behind me in order to please another. It's been downhill ever since. Jeff Right there with ya, bud. I was in the same boat. Completely clueless. Those bad old subbies taught me everything I know. I blame them entirely, and think they ought to be ashamed of themselves. Sluts. [:D] --M

emdoub -> RE: ever feel bad (10/29/2006 9:52:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mercmjm any of your doms ever really feel bad about domming? I did - when I was first starting out, and overcoming my egalitarian training. I got over it. Now, I only feel bad/guilty/remorseful if I make a mistake when I should have known better. Midnight Writer

MsKatHouston -> RE: ever feel bad (10/29/2006 12:41:34 PM)
No, I never feel bad about domming. There are a slew of other things in the world to feel bad about. I feel pretty good about domming.

Noah -> RE: ever feel bad (10/29/2006 10:35:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Morrigel quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx I was taught never to hit a woman. I was also taught to make a partner happy. These 'teachings' are, in what we do, diametrically opposed. So I slapped her. I put my own 'limits' behind me in order to please another. It's been downhill ever since. Jeff Right there with ya, bud. I was in the same boat. Completely clueless. Those bad old subbies taught me everything I know. I blame them entirely, and think they ought to be ashamed of themselves. Sluts. [:D] --M Well for me it took about as much coaching, and as much getting used to, as burping. Not that I think I deserve any pat on the back. Why did I suddenly flash on the offspring in the movie "Species" bagging his first rat? ... though I think I may have started a few of them down the hill. But anyway I'm right with you about how they ought to be ashamed of themselves.

kdom13 -> RE: ever feel bad (10/30/2006 1:15:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Youresomine You have to feel like you're doing something wrong to feel bad...so no...not at all. my sentiments exactly ... i'm doing nothing wrong, and often I'm doing what she craves anyways. quote: ORIGINAL: emdoub Now, I only feel bad/guilty/remorseful if I make a mistake when I should have known better. this goes for me as well.

daddysprop247 -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 9:51:57 AM)
wow, kind of surprised by the responses here. my Master has often told me how at times he feels bad/guilty at the things that his nature forces him to subject me to. our relationship is not about mutual pleasure, yet because he loves me it still hurts him when i truly suffer, especially when he and his actions are the direct cause of that suffering. there have been many times when, either before or after subjecting me to something especially difficult which he knew would cause me to suffer, he has said to me softly, "Daddy's sorry sweetie, Daddy's sorry...but I just have to...you understand." and yes i do understand, i know his nature and his needs, so i suffer as i must without complaint. but it is easy to see the guilt in his face or in his voice at those times.

desoutter -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 9:53:57 AM)
No.

mystictryst -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 6:36:50 PM)
I have to say I agree with daddysprop247... I know my Master has expressed that our play isn't as physical as when we met, in part because after he fell in love with me, he couldn't hurt me - regardless of how much I begged for it... So, yes, he did feel bad for domming me - in the sense of using hitting/whipping/cropping as a method of domination. We've figured out ways that work for us (humilation, for one) where we can explore and enjoy the sting without making a strike.

KnightofMists -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 6:51:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mystictryst I know my Master has expressed that our play isn't as physical as when we met, in part because after he fell in love with me, he couldn't hurt me - regardless of how much I begged for it... I can't understand this and never will... I found that the depth of my love only made me feel more enjoyment in doing what I already enjoyed doing.

shadevarr -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 8:24:36 PM)
KnightofMists, I can agree with you. Only once I really connect with someone can I truly enjoy doing what I do, which in turn creates a deeper connection leading to more enjoyment! I love this cycle.

LongArms -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 10:48:10 PM)
Should any natural act feel bad? Whether dom or sub, the feelings are natural ones. No Dom/me or sub should feel bad about what makes them feel complete. The answer to your question is simply...NO.

Arpig -> RE: ever feel bad (10/31/2006 11:06:19 PM)
quote: Right there with ya, bud. I was in the same boat. Completely clueless. Those bad old subbies taught me everything I know. I blame them entirely, and think they ought to be ashamed of themselves. Sluts. I think they should be punished!!

Lashra -> RE: ever feel bad (11/1/2006 4:30:35 AM)
Nope I enjoy it fully. ~Lashra

Mrtasty -> RE: ever feel bad (11/1/2006 11:45:23 AM)
Another vote here for not feeling bad, and enjoying it..... ... well except from when my hand gets sore from spanking to much.

happypervert -> RE: ever feel bad (11/1/2006 1:08:55 PM)
[fast reply] I felt kinda bad once -- I was in an evil mood when I got to my girl's place, and she was just happy as could be to see me and she looked all sweet and smiley as I bound her wrists behind her back. She does not like pain, and as I started to hurt her I kind of felt like a prick as I watched her pretty smile turn into a grimace and sobs. Of course, I didn't feel so bad that I eased up at all and I even enjoyed it more because of it.

MasterKernow -> RE: ever feel bad (11/1/2006 1:23:25 PM)
No, if something seemed wrong to me then I would not do it, I took the time to get to know my sub as a person and that she was being true to herself and to me in her desire to have me as her Master, I also have made it clear to her that if she has a problem with something I want her to do or want to do to her she can discuss it with me. I do not do anything without it being consensual, our contract is clear enough that there is rarely a problem. Having said that, I do think that because to the majority this lifestyle is not the norm, I have met vanilla men who have accused me of being abusive - because they do not understand that my sub has willingly given herself to her Master and that the things we do are not me 'inflicting' myself on her but her innate desires just as my Domination of her is nature.

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