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Mikal -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/29/2006 6:55:30 PM)
Well, my two bits are: post. I (and others, I assume) read the boards.... when I come across a post I like or intrigues me, I look at the profile & message that person. sigh Too bad you're in Manitoba... and I don't travel [&:]

MisPandora -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/29/2006 11:30:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Chellegame Ladies, Dommes and Mistresses: I realize ths is silly-soon, but I am quite unhappy, to the point of tears. I posted my profile and picture just yesterday and have over 200 emails... from men. The sole exceptions are several nice trans people, a sub woman writing for her male Dom and three couples where the man wrote the email. Is there any way I might better be noticed by Dommes? I'm bi, but have always had F/f realationships. Please? Welllllllll, Your profile says nothing about what you're seeking (other than the check box items that you're seeking male and female doms....) If it's a female you really seek, then perhaps you should spell it out for the guys here. As for why femdoms aren't mailing, I'd say because it's more rare that femdoms troll profiles and email. Perhaps you can browse profiles and start up a respectful conversation with women whose philosophies on dominance and this lifestyle strike your fancy. You never know what you might find....

Arpig -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/30/2006 12:30:30 AM)
Guess what? I have exactly the same problem.....[:@][:@]

littlesarbonn -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/30/2006 12:46:15 AM)
Unfortunately, the guys are somewhat like vultures here, ready to pounce the second a new woman shows up. Not having ever been a woman, I can't experience the same problem, but from what I keep reading, it's just one of those things that happens here. I'm sure it will start to level off after some time.

jthorne -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/30/2006 6:54:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Chellegame Ladies, Dommes and Mistresses: I realize ths is silly-soon, but I am quite unhappy, to the point of tears. I posted my profile and picture just yesterday and have over 200 emails... from men. The sole exceptions are several nice trans people, a sub woman writing for her male Dom and three couples where the man wrote the email. Is there any way I might better be noticed by Dommes? I'm bi, but have always had F/f realationships. Please? Chelle, Put yourself out there. Dommes are in demand and as such, many (like myself) do not go looking...it all comes to us. I've sent possibly...two messages on my own, both where I thought the woman in question would make a great friend, and guess what? They're both my friends now! Search for bi and lesbian women and send messages! I don't actually get messages from females interested in subbing to me, oddly enough. I assume they're all too shy to make first contact. I would try, but I'm a busy gal and often only have the time to check my collarme mail.

LaTigresse -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/30/2006 11:11:23 AM)
Dear Chelle, From another perspective that may or may not help. Myself, I tend to avoid women that are bi simply because I would be concerned that they would not choose to be in a monogymous relationship with just a woman. I do not wish to share. I want a LTR, not occasional play partner. My experience has been that many women that are bisexual wish to have a primary relationship with a man and a "friends with benefits" relationship with a woman. Not my thing. I may be the oddball on this but what else is new. Like others have said, you may wish to contact a few and let them know you are interested. Also, more specifics in your profile would not hurt. Your photo is beautiful, just follow it up with some more info as to what you wish to find. Just a few thoughts, best of luck. LT

LadyOunce -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/30/2006 10:55:46 PM)
You're going to find that you have to go through a lot of chafe to find the wheat but, as I've seen, the time and trouble can be worth it from time to time. Don't lose hope and don't be afraid to initiate contact.

Chellegame -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 10:58:25 AM)
Hi, and thanks, all. I have tried to refine my profile with some of the things you've suggested, and thank you. The deluge has slowed, but my profile has been invisible (I think?) for a few days. I want to change it even more, so I'll report on my results. I still get about a page of mail a day (sigh). Some of it is witty and charming and even romantic, but most of it just work. Which, come to think of it, is just like the real world... hmm. p.s. I only just learned how to use the search functions re profiles... silly me. Smiles, Chelle

MisPandora -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 1:44:34 PM)
(fast reply) Just a pleasant observation: Notice how a female submissive stays involved in her post? She doesn't post and run. She accepts the constructive criticism. Heck, she even sent personal thank you notes. Gentlemen -- THIS is a fine example of good behavior and comportment. She's not overtly kissing anyone's ass, but she is certainly being respectful of the time and attention being given to her! Kudos to Chelle.

mnottertail -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 1:47:26 PM)
Well I hate to come the old soldier with you MisPandora, but she could sure kiss mine, with no objection offered up by me........as you say, a wonderful and polite soul, as well as articulate, thoughtful and pretty she is................... Some lucky xxxx WOMAN will snap her up, in just one jiffy. Sincerely, Ron(ne) fixed an oopsie, forgot where I was. (sheepishly)

LadyOunce -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 3:24:04 PM)
First of all, I would like to second MisPandora. It's nice to see someone seem to listen and want to learn rather than merely seeking to rant and whine. Brava! It will slow down with time. I haven't been on this site for all that long and I'm rather glad to have gone from the 40 messages a day to 2 or 3. And it is worth it to stick with it. Just don't be shy to give a polite no thanks to those that aren't what you're seeking and, as you seem willing to do, follow up on those that seem promising. As for the difference between letting them come to you and seeking them out? While I have messaged several promising submissives through their initial contact? The one that has resulted in the best results was one that I sought out through search.

BaronessTrinity -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 3:31:56 PM)
You are so very right, I myself have stopped looking for bi-women because i end up getting my feeling hurt, because they leave me for a man...... [:'(].... I have learned my lesson well and dont plan to let it happen again... Baroness

Powerman40 -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 3:36:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kc692 I will echo what some of the others have said and add to it. Most dommes I know do not initiate email at all to either gender, at least on the other side. I do not remember ever even doing a search actually, for male or female. I will however email someone, male or female, dom/me or sub, if something on this side catches my attention, or something they say on this side makes me check out their profile on the other side. I have some good friends that way, and others just wanted to share a quick note or ask a question of them. Unfortunately, smiles, you will probably have to email the dommes on the other side, unless you get noticed here, but this side "ain't all bad", lol. And yes, the fresh meat smell will leave your email box soon. I never had the pleasure of experiencing the Fresh Meat syndrome and I only recieved one unsolicited email... do you think it was my breath? LOL Welcome to Collar me Chellegame. S

LTRsubNW -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 7:35:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Chellegame Ladies, Dommes and Mistresses: I realize ths is silly-soon, but I am quite unhappy, to the point of tears. I posted my profile and picture just yesterday and have over 200 emails... from men. The sole exceptions are several nice trans people, a sub woman writing for her male Dom and three couples where the man wrote the email. Is there any way I might better be noticed by Dommes? I'm bi, but have always had F/f realationships. Please? Yes, there is a way to be more noticed by Dommes and not be pestered by all those men, however, as a single man, I should mention (having reviewed your photo rather carefully) that, you're the only woman I ever truly loved. (And I mean that).

kc692 -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 8:04:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisPandora (fast reply) Just a pleasant observation: Notice how a female submissive stays involved in her post? She doesn't post and run. She accepts the constructive criticism. Heck, she even sent personal thank you notes. Gentlemen -- THIS is a fine example of good behavior and comportment. She's not overtly kissing anyone's ass, but she is certainly being respectful of the time and attention being given to her! Kudos to Chelle. I will second that. I got a lovely thank you email in my box on the other side for offereing her advice. That is rare, and MisPandora is correct, that DOES make an impression on us. I will go farther to say I wish she did not live as far away as she does,lol., Chelle, I truly wish you luck on here, I think you will find it.

MstrssScarlet -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 8:16:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kc692 quote: ORIGINAL: MisPandora (fast reply) Just a pleasant observation: Notice how a female submissive stays involved in her post? She doesn't post and run. She accepts the constructive criticism. Heck, she even sent personal thank you notes. Gentlemen -- THIS is a fine example of good behavior and comportment. She's not overtly kissing anyone's ass, but she is certainly being respectful of the time and attention being given to her! Kudos to Chelle. I will second that. I got a lovely thank you email in my box on the other side for offereing her advice. That is rare, and MisPandora is correct, that DOES make an impression on us. I will go farther to say I wish she did not live as far away as she does,lol., Chelle, I truly wish you luck on here, I think you will find it. Chelle has been a busy girl. I received a thank you note also. Discovering that she did it for others as well is very impressive. I have no doubt that she will find what she's looking for and I wish like hell that she lived closer. Mistress Scarlet

Mikal -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 9:24:58 PM)
Well, darn it all! A perfect woman who likes women... sends thank-you notes and lovely little flirt notes... and she's around 2200 km away. 2200 people!!! [:o]

pixelslave -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (10/31/2006 10:32:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Myself, I tend to avoid women that are bi simply because I would be concerned that they would not choose to be in a monogymous relationship with just a woman. I do not wish to share. I want a LTR, not occasional play partner. My experience has been that many women that are bisexual wish to have a primary relationship with a man and a "friends with benefits" relationship with a woman. Not my thing. I may be the oddball on this but what else is new. That mirrors my feelings and concerns with regard to bisexual Dommes as well! The issue of exclusivity and monagamy are important to me, and something that I wouldn't attempt to box a woman into that felt the desire to fulfill a sexual need with another woman, which is something I obviously coudn't fullfil! [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m22.gif[/image]

MisPandora -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (11/1/2006 2:06:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mikal Well, darn it all! A perfect woman who likes women... sends thank-you notes and lovely little flirt notes... and she's around 2200 km away. 2200 people!!! [:o] I know. I'm heartbroken that she's that far away....although, I think I could handle becoming a canadian with the way our politics are down here :-)

kc692 -> RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile (11/1/2006 5:17:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisPandora quote: ORIGINAL: Mikal Well, darn it all! A perfect woman who likes women... sends thank-you notes and lovely little flirt notes... and she's around 2200 km away. 2200 people!!! [:o] I know. I'm heartbroken that she's that far away....although, I think I could handle becoming a canadian with the way our politics are down here :-) I wonder if other submissives are paying attention...that is 5 count em 5 dommes at least that are impressed and would possibly like to get to know the OP better in the short time she has been on collarme. I wanted to make clear to others, these were not "kiss ass, suck up" thank you notes, these were sincere, short and well written. So, Ladies, maybe the OP needs to get on the threads of how to impress dommes and sweep the boards!!![:)] I wonder if the others would pay attention to her??

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