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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/1/2006 4:03:21 PM   
pixelslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692
I wonder if other submissives are paying attention...that is 5 count em 5 dommes at least that are impressed and would possibly like to get to know the OP better in the short time she has been on collarme.  I wanted to make clear to others,  these were not "kiss ass, suck up" thank you notes, these were sincere, short and well written.  So, Ladies, maybe the OP needs to get on the threads of how to impress dommes and sweep the boards!!!  I wonder if the others would pay attention to her??


Yes, indeed!  You might want to know that her pleasant notes weren't just to the Dommes, she's also the kind of thoughtful person who sends her genuine notes of thanks to subs as well!   She'll be a "real catch" for the One who is wise enough to select the right bait and knows how to properly cast it in her direction with just the right touch, of that I'm quite certain!

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/1/2006 4:14:24 PM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: Chellegame

Ladies, Dommes and Mistresses: I realize ths is silly-soon, but I am quite unhappy, to the point of tears. I posted my profile and picture just yesterday and have over 200 emails... from men. The sole exceptions are several nice trans people, a sub woman writing for her male Dom and three couples where the man wrote the email. Is there any way I might better be noticed by Dommes? I'm bi, but have always had F/f realationships. Please?


You could try writing to someone who catches your own eye.

And write more on the boards, read more on the boards and strike up a conversation about something from them.

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/1/2006 5:13:01 PM   
ShyMistress


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I wonder if other submissives are paying attention...that is 5 count em 5 dommes at least that are impressed and would possibly like to get to know the OP better in the short time she has been on collarme.  I wanted to make clear to others,  these were not "kiss ass, suck up" thank you notes, these were sincere, short and well written.  So, Ladies, maybe the OP needs to get on the threads of how to impress dommes and sweep the boards!!!  I wonder if the others would pay attention to her??
[/quote]

Make that 6...I also got a lovely note...and count Myself amoungst the impressed.   

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/1/2006 5:14:15 PM   
ShyMistress


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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/5/2006 3:09:02 PM   
LadyAlexa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mikal

Well, darn it all! A perfect woman who likes women... sends thank-you notes and lovely little flirt notes... and she's around 2200 km away. 2200 people!!!

I know.  I'm heartbroken that she's that far away....although, I think I could handle becoming a canadian with the way our politics are down here :-)


I wonder if other submissives are paying attention...that is 5 count em 5 dommes at least that are impressed and would possibly like to get to know the OP better in the short time she has been on collarme.  I wanted to make clear to others,  these were not "kiss ass, suck up" thank you notes, these were sincere, short and well written.  So, Ladies, maybe the OP needs to get on the threads of how to impress dommes and sweep the boards!!!  I wonder if the others would pay attention to her??



make that 7 Dommes ... I do travel to Canada but never that far west. 

< Message edited by LadyAlexa -- 11/5/2006 3:10:55 PM >

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/5/2006 3:12:58 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		Here's an idea...

Change your profile and use filters. 

Maybe then you'll get what you're really looking for. 

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/5/2006 3:14:16 PM   
joyinslavery


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Status: offline 		Yes, trolling posts can be VERY effective! 

Especially if you're female. 

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/5/2006 9:36:20 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyFeline

Well, I agree with MsKatHuston, Dommes do not often approach other females. Reasons for this may differ, but the most common one that I've heard is that there are so few true female subs out there who aren't just looking around for their masters (which is hella annoying). It's also that there are many severely emotionally damaged female subs, and although it's tempting to try and fix them, it's too much hassle. No Domme wants that.

You should take the initiative. Look for profiles you're interested in, and make first contact with them.


I would agree with this advice. The filters can be set up to automatically send those that don't meet your criteria to junk mail. You can still read them if you want entertainment but they aren't there clogging the main focus.
As for why you're getting the types of responses that you are...too many want a bi-female sub because to them it just opens up the amount and type of sex that they can have with that partner.

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 12:27:06 PM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

Yes, trolling posts can be VERY effective! 

Especially if you're female. 


LOL, it was not the post...at least not for me.  It was the nice email thanking me for replying on it.  It was not a kiss ass email, but a short  kind, thought out email. Seems earlier in the thread she not only did that to dommes but to subs also.  If that's a troll, then others should learn from that She took time apparently to email at least 8 people from this thread.  I got more than one, because you can bet I returned her email, even if she is one of the few emails that I have answered recently.

Edited to add:  By the way, joyinslavery, this is the first time I have ever looked at your profile.  I wanted to take a moment and tell you how well written I think it to be.

< Message edited by kc692 -- 11/6/2006 12:29:38 PM >

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 12:30:37 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		and if it was a trolling profile, she backed it with some pretty outta sight class, joy......

'Cause I even got a nice mail for my participation..........

and she hasn't come unglued either.

Ron

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 1:56:46 PM   
joyinslavery


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692

Edited to add:  By the way, joyinslavery, this is the first time I have ever looked at your profile.  I wanted to take a moment and tell you how well written I think it to be.



That is VERY kind of You to say.  Thank You! 

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 2:21:21 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		You're welcome.  Maybe it's the Texan in you, my girl just relocated from there, and she is very eloquent also.At the risk of drawing flames from others, it is rare to see a profile that complete and all inclusive, while being well worded, from a male submissive. (I know there are others out there, but since I never do searches, and only read the profiles of those that email me, or of someone on here that peaks my interest to look, it is rare I see one, lol!!) 

edited because I apparently am not so eloquent, lol.

< Message edited by kc692 -- 11/6/2006 2:22:23 PM >

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 10:39:43 PM   
joyinslavery


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

and if it was a trolling profile, she backed it with some pretty outta sight class, joy......

'Cause I even got a nice mail for my participation..........

and she hasn't come unglued either.

Ron



You know, I'm want to jump to conclusions.  It's a character flaw.     

Thanks Ron (seriously).

To the OP, Chellegame, sincere apologies.  I'm a jaded _ucker.  Do what works for you! 

And btw OP, cute pic!   

< Message edited by joyinslavery -- 11/6/2006 10:50:38 PM >

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 11:12:24 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I know that I personally didnt contact nearly anyone even when I was looking.  As a Domme, I get enough unsolicited interest that unless someone was a REAL showstopper I didnt tend to initiate contact. If someone contacted me and looked interesting, I would write back, but I couldnt be bothered doing my own search.
Id say I agree with most of the other posts.  Take a look around and make the first contact. 

DV

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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/6/2006 11:41:09 PM   
littlesarbonn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I know that I personally didnt contact nearly anyone even when I was looking.  As a Domme, I get enough unsolicited interest that unless someone was a REAL showstopper I didnt tend to initiate contact. If someone contacted me and looked interesting, I would write back, but I couldnt be bothered doing my own search.
Id say I agree with most of the other posts.  Take a look around and make the first contact. 

DV


That's been part of my problem. I rarely, if ever, actually approach anyone about the possibility of serving. It always just seems so wrong. Add in the fact that the women on these boards get innundated with tons and tons of email from horny wannabe subs, and I often feel that by not contacting them, I'm at least keeping a bit of sanity around for them because it's one less email they have to deal with. I figure that with so many people contacting them, they're not going to notice mine no matter how polite, sincere or verbose I am.

Now, I've realized that's really done me no good, so I'm carefully looking at ads and seeing if maybe there's one or two who might be looking for someone like me. I refuse to blanket the ads with responses because I know that I'm not the right person for a lot of the women here. What often concerns me is that of the few who I have contacted in the past, they rarely respond back, which makes me feel somewhat that the blanket send of one to everyone is practically the only way a submissive can actually be successful here, which means I'm probably going to continue being frustrated in the long run.


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RE: I'm bi, but ONLY men have emailed re my profile - 11/7/2006 9:00:22 AM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		You may be right that some may not respond to you littlesarbonn, but if any of the dommes you approach read these boards, I would hope you would get a response.  Again, I could be wrong, but if you write to them with the same manner you write on these boards, they would be foolish not to answer you anyway.

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