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MizSuz -> RE: Cross-dressing and Acceptance (11/4/2006 5:20:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: stef
I was expecting something "tubgirl" like whan I saw that link. [;)]
~stef
HA! Do you know I was sitting in my IT class the other night and some of the younger folks there mentioned tubgirl. I had no clue so I googled. Of course all these young guys had said "don't do it, you'll need to scour your eyeballs, it's not for the squeemish (me???? squeemish????)" and the like. Tubgirl pic opens in all her glory and I said "oh, it's just that" and everyone in the class sort of stared at me. See, I'm the old person in the class (I'm even older than the instructor) and, well I guess I come off like someone's grandmother (I am, after all, someone's grandmother). It was like a bit of langiappe, getting to blow their expectations of me a bit out of the water.
As to the original post, all people change in any relationship and the trick is to try to grow together and enable embracing the changes in a positive way. If one person's changes keeps the other person's needs and wants from being met then there will be a problem. The real trick is then how to address the problem so everyone's needs get met. If he's unwilling to meet her needs to have straight sex, and she's unwilling to meet his needs to have sex in role, then I don't see either of them trying to find a balance to get their individual and mutual needs met.
As for sissifytoserve, although I have tried to listen to his positions I find that I am not willing to tolerate the venom that always seems to come with his reactions. To me it seems like his responses are always reactions (with the associated venom). He reminds me of someone who spent a considerable amount of time on AOL, in the role of a sissy, with the sole purpose of stirring up hate and discontent. With very few exceptions the position always seems to be inflammatory. It has bored me and I have stopped reading. I suspect he will not miss me any more than I've missed him.
Some of my closest and dearest friends are cross dressers. Some were dressers before they met me, some were closet dressers their whole life who told no one until they met me. It's not my kink, so it never occurs to me to treat it like a kink. It's just another day to me. Present as a woman and I'll treat you like a woman, present as a man and I'll treat you like a man (there isn't too much difference to me). It's really all the same to me, and I find neither more erotic nor attractive than the other. I do enjoy watching someone I love do something they love, though. It's for that reason that I've enjoyed things like shopping (usually I hate to shop) with my cross dresser friends. Makeup try outs with different techniques, etc. My friend enjoys it and I enjoy my friend's company when he's sharing his joy with me. <shrug> But, this is not my primary relationship and I'm not doing without anything to remain in a friendship with them (unless you count mirror time - they are mirror hogs).
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