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juliaoceania -> RE: Master in Pain (11/1/2006 2:40:29 PM)
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I have often told my partner that there are days when, if I could, I would reverse his divorce with his ex-wife, be their therapist and help them have a lifelong happy fulfilled marriage- even knowing it would mean not having all that we have together and being who I was before we became involved. I do this because I know his divorce was and is still very hard for him, hurts him deeply and would prefer him to be happy and settled rather than have my own pleasure.
And then on other days I tell him how grateful I am that his wife made the worst mistake of her life by letting him go and come into my arms and I'm way too selfish to let him go from me.
Sounds like me, on the one hand I know that when a marriage fails it is a bad bad thing, but then again if it had worked out I would not have him. The way I resolve that conflict, never be the cause of that kind of pain to him if it is humanly possible to prevent it.
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Sheesh lay off the force play for awhile ;)
It makes it worse that he is not a masochist like me, sure I will take his pain[:D] (just kidding)
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One of my ex's was what I call a "disaster story guy" in that he had a truly endless supply of awful and entertaining stories of hospital stays, illnesses, problems and breaks. He didn't believe me when I said I'd never had bronchitis and only had the flu once.
Of course the fact that I've known enough guys to have a NAME for that sort of guy might let you know the type I attract...
Well he has had one coma that lasted several days that took a few years of rehabilitation to overcome, much of which was self motivated and self started. He has had several broken bones also.
He is a very physical person and pain does not scare him much, his reaction is "It will hurt until it doesn't"... but he still enjoys special treatment when it hurts (don't we all?). I treat him special any chance I get anyways.
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