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MillerLite -> Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:12:40 PM)

I was just wondering, if I was too young to expect to seek a Domme that is alot older than me?

I say this, as I'm only 20, and I look even younger and kind of have a young look, so is it dillusional of me to think Dommes more than 5-10 years older, would have an interest to take me on in real life?

I have some pics at the link below, as they don't get approved here for some reason.

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/hulmey/



demistress -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:17:57 PM)

Personally I will consider anyone 18 years or older, if there's a question in my mind about them being 18, I ask for ID, and if I have the least suspicion that it's not valid ID, then I pass.



MsKatHouston -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:26:30 PM)

I agree completely with Ms. Heather.  However, my personal age limit is 21.



TheShadows -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:28:58 PM)

I don't think you're being too lofty in your wishes for a Domme 5-10 years old than yourself.  I, myself, am 24 and would consider an exceptional 20 year old.  I do think that most Dommes 20 years older than yourself would pass you by for a gentleman a bit closer to them in age and life experience.  I could be wrong, though, since I'm not there yet.  If you're a mature 20 and carry yourself with reasonable common sense and manners, you probably won't have a problem finding who you seek.

Best of Luck,

MrsShadows



DianeB269 -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:33:32 PM)

For me? Yes...I do not train or play with anyone under the age of  35.
There are many other Dommes here that don't mind training a younger sub.



crouchingtigress -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:48:32 PM)

 your hair cut makes you look 3-4 years younger.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 12:55:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MillerLite

I was just wondering, if I was too young to expect to seek a Domme that is alot older than me?

I say this, as I'm only 20, and I look even younger and kind of have a young look, so is it dillusional of me to think Dommes more than 5-10 years older, would have an interest to take me on in real life?

I have some pics at the link below, as they don't get approved here for some reason.

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/hulmey/


It's not beyond the realm of possibility for an older Dominant woman to be interested in you, should you have things of value to offer her. I have has submissives and slave range from 14 years my Jr to 20 years my senior.

Master Fire



LadyOunce -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 1:24:39 PM)

No, it's not unreasonable to seek that age difference. My own limit is 18 and then based upon the maturity shown, not the physical age.



mnottertail -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 1:34:45 PM)

He pulls her in just behind the fridge;
He lays her down;

He Frowns---

Gee, my life's a funny thing;
Am I still too young?


Young Americans, David Bowie


And the worlds youth begins yet again its travail and angst.

You will survive and get there, I suspect, my friend.

Ron   



Morrigel -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 2:53:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MillerLite

I was just wondering, if I was too young to expect to seek a Domme that is alot older than me?


If you're over 18, most dommes will at least consider you, especially if you are attractive in other ways.

--M



imtempting -> RE: Am I too young? (11/1/2006 10:57:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MillerLite

I was just wondering, if I was too young to expect to seek a Domme that is alot older than me?

I say this, as I'm only 20, and I look even younger and kind of have a young look, so is it dillusional of me to think Dommes more than 5-10 years older, would have an interest to take me on in real life?

I have some pics at the link below, as they don't get approved here for some reason.

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/hulmey/


Well done advertising another board.



MisPandora -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 12:17:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: imtempting

quote:

ORIGINAL: MillerLite

I was just wondering, if I was too young to expect to seek a Domme that is alot older than me?

I say this, as I'm only 20, and I look even younger and kind of have a young look, so is it dillusional of me to think Dommes more than 5-10 years older, would have an interest to take me on in real life?

I have some pics at the link below, as they don't get approved here for some reason.

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/hulmey/


Well done advertising another board.


Was that snarky comment really necessary?



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 12:31:55 AM)

My boy is 21, I am 29, so its not unheardof. There are a few of us that prefer the young ones, looks wise and personalitywise. 

DV

And by the way, imtempting, I dont think he's advertising... just showing off the pics. Its not like we dont al KNOW there are other boards out there.



mons -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 2:08:27 AM)

greetings
 
i think your to young some of the master or doms may thing you not now not all of them some may now i think you a woman. at twenty and i remember being that age i did not know anythng at all not like i should and this is a part of growing up you mind is not mature yet you have time to go out be with friends not in some scene with anyone. i do not want to insult or make you upset but when you older and you can make up our mind as to what you want to do or be. please do not rush into something you have not  alot of ideals about i am old and it took me years to learn all i know not just reading but knowing how people act and who to trust and who to stay the hell ways from think of what you wish for you have all of your life ahead of you and so much time to do all you can i hope you wait and do not jump into this act you a young person and trust you will fall in love manys times and you will also change your mind many times. think of what i have told you i like to look out for the younger ones you have no ideal what you could put yourside into
 
take care and if you wish to write and i can help i will
 
mons



MzMinx -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 2:31:38 AM)

I have had  submissives in their early 20's ... and  get approached by such all the time ... I have friends who are that age  *smiles* ... so as long as the person interests me ... is enjoyable as a person and  as a submissive ...then their is always possbilities ....

but I dont think I would take someone  on as a slave (what I define as slavery) .. who was so new at their explorations ... nor  one who was so much younger than I ....  *smiles* ... but I only say ..'don't think' ....



LaraVictore -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 2:59:32 AM)

European 20 years old  citizens are always more erotically mature and refined than American ones.
They
- speak about sexual matters at a younger age ( I did it with documentaries at school before 10!). They sometimes confide to their closest family members about their growing sexuality; which make them more confident (In Paris, the most confident parent pays attention that the descendant is blossoming well in that field; knowing that a sexual trauma can last a life time. It is not only cute, it is part of caring!)
- experience it with minimum risk ( having condoms in the pocket is a normal thing and no teen parents here!)  
- live in an environment where violence is not promoted and  love is worshiped or at least, never punished; to say the things as they truly are.
I had to re-integrate that in my mind really quick, after living many years in California where I will not touch a 20 year old...
Reading about you, I could tell, you are not a naive novice. All my photos are being rejected too..It is a part time job to find the ugly one that will probably stick. 
Good luck.
Lara Victorehttp://www.starparis.com



Morrigel -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 4:00:43 AM)

I've met an awful lot of very young, very kinky people in the last few years.  I think the fact that they have access to the Internet is accelerating their sexual development in many, many ways.  A lot of us older people had to become kinky by a much slower process, which took years of meeting with and playing with various people in the real world who would have various quirky personal inclinations; on the Internet you can get exposed to a metric ton of information and converse with hundreds of kinky people in just a year.

*shrug*  I don't think the old way is "better" per se, but I have seen some signs lately that a lot of young people seem to think that they "know" things--like how the real public BDSM community operates, or how relationship dynamics work between "slaves" and "masters"--that are ridiculously off-base.  I spoke to a very cute young couple, for example, who said they defined themselves as "switch" because neither one of them wants to be "a slave without a voice", and who said they didn't want to go to any public events because they "didn't want to have to kiss people on the cheek or show bureaucratic respect" to people.

My reaction, after having met many slaves who were anything but mute, and after having been to the local fetish dance party in this city and the nearest public play club in Nashville, was "What in the WORLD are you talking about?"

Quite honestly, I'm envious that youngsters get a chance to explore just about every possible aspect of BDSM "on paper" these days, and figure out what turns them on and what their fantasies are long before they are confronted with a real lover...but I sometimes think there is a bit of a hurdle involved in getting themselves integrated with real people or the real BDSM community.

--M



thetammyjo -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 7:10:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MillerLite

I was just wondering, if I was too young to expect to seek a Domme that is alot older than me?

I say this, as I'm only 20, and I look even younger and kind of have a young look, so is it dillusional of me to think Dommes more than 5-10 years older, would have an interest to take me on in real life?

I have some pics at the link below, as they don't get approved here for some reason.

http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/hulmey/


Depends on the person.

I got Fox when he was 19, age wasn't that important as long as he was legal. His attitude, his own self-education, and how well he meshed with my family in terms of non-BDSM things mattered far more than mere age. He walked four miles to go to two munches and actively sought out groups he could get to. He proved he had the desire to become part of a community (something I value greatly) and he was consistant in his interests and attitude.

So beyond your age, what have you done to prepare for BDSM and what are you willing to do to prepare further?



MillerLite -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 7:23:06 AM)

Thanks everyone for the replies, and Intempting, the reason I gave a link to informed consent was I said I had a young look, as I do look younger than 20. And on Informed consent they accept my pictures, and on Collarme, very rarely do my pics get accepted as they say I look under age. Your way too angry to even care about someone posting a link to another site. Calm yourself down.



AAkasha -> RE: Am I too young? (11/2/2006 10:17:34 AM)


I'd do ya.

But I have a thing for younger guys.

Akasha



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