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Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fingering. - 11/1/2006 9:09:39 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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When I am being fingered i get extreamly sore very fast with in like 3 minutes of normal fingering, which sucks because I enjoy and love being fingered so much. He usualy uses one to start with then we end up stoping at three. Like I said it sucks because I love fingering. While it's true he does have big hands it's happend before even wit small hands.
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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 9:17:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some women are simply more sensitive... the skin/membrane can't take much handling... perhaps a better lube? Or alternate (finger, tongue, finger...). How 'bout dildo's? Do you have the same problem? If so, then I'd think it simply has to do with your skin sensitivity... if not... hmmm... there may be too much finger-to-skin contact... perhaps you could consult a doctor/therapist?

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 9:21:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mikal I don't notice as much sensitivity as with a dildo, no. Now one time I was in a bit of a hurry and wasn't ready and I got sorre, but that was my mistake.Course even with that eventually I get sore. We use astroglide. Perhaps not the greatest but it keeps me slippery-ish.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 9:45:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmm... could be that your partner's fingers are too rough (very ridgy (if that's a word! lol) fingerprints). Perhaps he could (lightly) sand his fingertips (ie with a fingernail emery board) to smooth down the ridges... might help.
 
The other thing that comes to mind atm is the lube you're using... Astroglide has glycerine in it, which can cause problems for some women (dryness, irritation, yeast infections). So, you may wish to consider another type of lube... it may help (especially if you are using it often).

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 9:49:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, we do seem to have to reapply again with in 10 mins. He wears gloves and it does help because it's a slicker insertion. We could also see if longer amounts of fingering with just one or a small toy stops the quick soreness.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 9:50:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		maybe you are having a reaction to the gloves?

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 9:54:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Arpig I get sore gloves or none so I don't think it's them also I play by myself with gloves on if I want to do something a bit more messy. I think it's probably method of application perhaps to many fingers or to much movement to soon.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 10:03:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		In any scientific study one changes varibles to evaluate outcomes. Change the easiest thing first...lube. try   at least 3 brands from different recipes.  If that doesn' alter your sensations; evaluate yout time of cycle... Evaluate your readiness and time of warm up. How much natural secretion do you produce? Evalute his fingers as someone suggested...roughness, cleanliness, rings, sensitivity to your readiness...  Number of fingers vs toys...slim toys vs big'ns. Does this happen when you do it alone?
You can see how many variables can influence this. But it's the only way to truly understand why and when something happens. If it gets too confusing make a graph and check it off. What a lovely assignment you might make it to give it purpose beyond comfort.
Just a suggestion...sorry if it got overdone.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/1/2006 10:52:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm mostly wet enough and lube helps a lot. I don't get sore from my own toys, fingers I don't get very farin not like a partner. We've used wet and it burned an then id glide and it was good and then astro glide with no problems.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 12:05:38 AM   
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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 12:18:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe its possible to be torn by long or sharp fingernails,which would
cause an irritation and an infection if the hands are dirty.

A nail clipping or emery board smoothing followed by a good hand washing
might be just the ticket.Having had this problem with bishop and Myself,you would be amazed how sharp your fingernails can be without realizing it.

W/we sometimes use non latex medical gloves when fingering,it adds an element of excitement(That dr thing) and it ensures there will be no fingernail scratches or bacteria from unwashed hands.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 1:27:11 AM   
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When I am being fingered i get extreamly sore very fast with in like 3 minutes of normal fingering, which sucks because I enjoy and love being fingered so much. He usualy uses one to start with then we end up stoping at three. Like I said it sucks because I love fingering. While it's true he does have big hands it's happend before even wit small hands.



it may be an issue of hands being dirty.. I have extremely sensitive skin  and well if someone has smoked and not washed their hands  i have had a major irritation issue....so i have a basic rule which i feel that partners should travel to any how...but he rule is if you want to touch me  you HAVE to wash your handss,,,   other wise my goodies are just going to get red and hurt and burn!  It isnt a good hurt either!

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 4:10:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		How many fingers does he put in?
How fast does he do it?
Also can you finger yourself and not be in pain?

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 9:47:59 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		ds, we wear gloves so it's not dirty fingers I don't think.

i'mtempting, we start with one and with in a beat of several in and out's he switches to two then three.  They're inserted very slowly, but pretty quickly from start to one to two to three.  Fingering myself is easy and often painless yes, however I can't get as deep or at the angle someone elses fingers can. I think perhaps if we go slower from the one to more or use toys it'll be easier, if not then I'll talk to my gynocologist because I might have some sensitivity issues going on in there.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 8:15:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		You might also want to consider a possible hormonal imbalance could be the cause...tempting

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 8:23:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		My advice...
Let him watch how you do it and learn from that . If you can finger yourself and not have the irritation all the way to orgasm then he needs to be instructed on a more gentle and caring approach. *s*
often times a light touch is far more affective than a one two three Dam cum for me approach.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/2/2006 8:53:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Have you considered that the gloves themselves might be the issue? Either latex, the powder, or something else causing a mild allergic reaction?

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/3/2006 10:12:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Slippery Stuff is a good water based lube.

I'm with a slower warm up.




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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/3/2006 10:44:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Miz Suz me too. I'm probably not being warmed up slowly enough or long enough.

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RE: Becoming very sore very quickly dureing normal fing... - 11/3/2006 10:52:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ummmm ... isn't fingering part of the warm-up???   If not ... what is, other than just kissing? 

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