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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Sinergy and I talked about this thread for a long while tonight. Sometimes CM brings up a fresh issue for us to ponder and consider. As time goes by and our relationship deepens I believe I would jump too. I know this man's body language when we are together, how protective he is of me. I cannot imagine him telling me to do something like that without a good reason. Also, I tend to think that our instinct takes over, and split second decisions come along that require action, that trust that develops becomes almost instinctual. I do not believe that he would tell me to do something like that without a life and death reason hanging in the balance.
I do not think this is a Ds thing though to be honest with you. If I was with a partner that I was involved with in a vanilla relationship I would jump if I trusted them. One can deeply trust in any human relationship, and yes, trust enough to jump off the roof because they are told to. It is a testament to the depth of the trust you had that you jumped.
The question that Sinergy and I pondered was this, if I told him in a tone that denoted that a life and death decision was imminent, would he have jumped? His answer was yes, because trust is not about his dominance and my submission, it is about believing that someone has your back no matter what, good judgment, and the desire to protect you no matter what.
[puts on flame retardant suit]
I think that when we state unequivocably that this is a "sub" trait and this is a "dom" trait that we lose some of what is means to be human, and that is the ability to do anything we can to save and protect the life of a loved one, and the power of love to spur us to make certain choices that transcend Ds. I think protecting the life of my Daddy and his willingness to follow an order from me like "jump" that is designed to literally save his life is an example of something that transcends power exchange. That is just my opinion.
Edited to add, wonderful story and thanks for sharing Kalira
I agree...trust is something so very necessary for a power exchange and yet, if the relationship is to go as deep as it can, it has to transcend the power exchange.
My folks were pretty good to me. Like most parents, they had their faults. But I learned early on that neither my mother or father would tell me to "jump" without a damn good reason. And, as has been noted, the tone of their voice often told my brother and me just how important and good that reason was. When I was in the military, I was taught to follow orders. Not so much blindly...they were trying reallllllllllly hard to avoid another My-Lai incident...but with that same sort of instinct you develop with those you trust. They wouldn't be telling you to do this if not for your own good or for the greater good.
When I became a parent, I taught my kids that if they heard me say something in a certain tone, they were to "just do it". And yeah, it did save my daughter once when she was little and forgot the rules about going into the street without looking. She did so to retrieve her cat and I saw a car bearing down and she just kind of froze. I yelled, in that voice, "Come here NOW!". That shook her back to self-preservation and obedience and she did it.
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