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MasterFireMaam -> RE: Compromise (11/7/2006 9:40:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
How can you compromise and not compromise yourself ? Compromising and settling is the same. The thing about putting a question out is that you have to wait to see how it is being precieved by others. It seems that most of us have high expectations from the start. As time passes some are willing to lower their expectations and compromise and settle for little less.
For me, there is a difference between what I want and what I need. I want daily contact from my slaves. In truth, I only need contact about every 3 days. So, I'm willing to compromise the daily contact if it's truly a challenge for the slave to do so (such as, they're in the military overseas). I have not compromised my need (which is a boundary condition or, as some say, a deal breaker).
One reason we are willing to "settle" over time is that we learn that, often, our expectations weren't necessarily "high" as "unrealistic". It's really unrealistic to want your slave to be in 5" heels 24/7 if you also want them to mow the lawn with the push mower. However, it's slightly more realistic that they wear 5" heels whenever they are in the house. But, you might find that you don't NEED them to wear 5" heels expect when you're out in kink public.
Figuring out the difference between realistic and unrealistic wants, as well as the difference between wants and needs, is part of the journey. Those that pay attention will figure it out. Those who do not will sit and wonder WHY they can't find that person to mow in heels.
Master Fire
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