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any ideas - 11/6/2006 6:27:05 PM

allofmeall4U

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hello all,
i would like to know what i can do, i am a sub and my boyfriend wants me to switch every now and then, its my turn and i have no ideas. i want to do a good job and get him thinking about his turn as i crave being submissive and only switch when he insists.
what can i do to him?
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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 6:38:15 PM

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still no reply... i guess i am lost

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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 6:39:23 PM

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Ahhhhhhhhhhhh..........Jesus......where to start?

What does he:
Like
Hate
Feel
Do
Fear
Laugh
Cry
See
Hear
....................

Find a handle and crank on it.............find a tune in his head and turn it up to the max.......make him think he's staring in the sun, make him think his guts are going to drop thru his ass, drown him in chemical.........and then flip it in another direction..............

Tie his ass down, get a big strap on and let him have it hard, all the way laughing and saying oh, what a big macho man you are, I can't wait to tell your mother.......

You are pending approval, we don't know a thing about you or him...........

Learn to snap a wet towel on his ass, call him a pussy and say you bet all the boys did that to him in the locker room...........

Well, whatever you do, don't panic and be rather ruthless and convincing, K?

Ron

edit: LOL 5 minutes and you expect a million replies to relativity in third grade language?

Like I said, don't panic.............

< Message edited by mnottertail -- 11/6/2006 6:41:10 PM >

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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 6:44:10 PM

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thanks Ron, i will work with that... i used to be on but went away and lost my details so had to start all over again. i found a 'form' online that has about 60 - 70 options that you give to each other and tick off what you do and dont like, it was quite extensive i guess the only place to start is at the begining, the reason i have asked online is because my motivation is inbeing the sub, its what i have always wanted and therefore i havent fantasised about what to do to him.

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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 6:50:23 PM

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http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html

I found that to be very helpful, when I first started to Top.

Hope it helps

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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 7:09:28 PM

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thanks MsPoetress, that was and will continue to be very helpful.

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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 7:12:23 PM

Nigousan

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All you can really do is talk to him about his "submissive" fantasies, and play on them.

My submissive has been fantasizing about wax play, so I have been working with him on that.
He also enjoys CBT, and various forms of "homosexual humiliation". Which is fun for me :P

What Ron said is perfect.

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RE: any ideas - 11/6/2006 8:55:45 PM

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I don't know if you've given this much thought...but are you a switch?
I would think that this would be something you'd want to consider as you look to please your partner...and vice versa. Just because your partner can switch...(and it seems only fair), perhaps you're a submissive at heart...and maybe it's something the two of you should discuss. Just a thought.

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RE: any ideas - 11/7/2006 10:06:00 PM

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It seems to me that allofme4u is saying is that she isn't really a switch, but willing to take turns if it gets her needs met. I get that, especially if you have a LTR with needs other than the sexual going on. You can be well suited in all other ways and make adjustments where necessary. That said, it really would help, as others have mentioned, to have some clue as to what the likes/dislkies/limits/etc. are in this relationship. Also, what, if anything, have you tried before. Is this your first time trying to top, or have you done so before and just run out of ideas?

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RE: any ideas - 11/8/2006 7:28:16 AM

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Well, I don't think you can switch if you really aren't a switch. You can go through the motions of topping but how can you dominate if you aren't a dominant? Ticking things off a list in a later post really made me think of this.

Just keep buying books on sex ideas to get more of them, read stories to get ideas, have him make a menu of things he likes and start randomizing some of them from time to time.

Are you both truly happen with this arrangment?

I mean, it sounds from all the post thus far, allofmeall4U, that you do this to just get back to your turn. How does that make you feel? How does that make him feel?

Personally this sort of arrangment would make me feel terrible about myself and my partner.

I'm sorry if this is too nosy and ignore it if it is but why did you two decide to switch with each other? Do you think this is the best option for your relationship?

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RE: any ideas - 11/8/2006 11:05:54 AM

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LOL if he insists you switch then you really arent Dommeing hime dear, he is still Domeeing you just what you do to eachother differs, make no mistakes he is still in conrtoll in this situation!!

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