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ama -> Staying in slave mode (2/4/2005 3:04:56 PM)
Master and I are experimenting with a 24/7 sex-slave arrangement. We've done sceneing before with me subbing, but the subbiness usually didn't last past the scenes. We wanted to see if we could push that further, hence the experimental 24/7 but relegated only to the sexual aspects (which compose more than I had imagined). Unfortunately, the last couple of days I've been finding it difficult to stay in this mode. I've talked with Master about possibly showing a little more encouragement if he is enjoying the arrangement (he's kind of a flat-line type of emotional guy -- nothing's too awful, nothing's very wonderful either), but I think that that may be only a part of it. So my question is this: How do you maintain a slave mentality when you feel yourself slipping or frustrated? Thanks! ama

RealityFix -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/4/2005 4:43:02 PM)
By taking it beyond the sex mode. If you are only submissive while aroused, it will be quite impossible to maintain that headspace when you aren't. Expand your intinerary.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/4/2005 4:50:22 PM)
quote: We wanted to see if we could push that further, hence the experimental 24/7 but relegated only to the sexual aspects (which compose more than I had imagined). It may be your problem's answer is contained in your question. At least it needs clarification. Is it save to assume you are living together? Are their children in the house? Going from a scening to live in 24/7 slavery can be a difficult transition. Even if scenes previously extended over a long period of time, a weekend or a full week during a vacation; it doesn't compare to a full time commitment. It's critical that you account and integrate into your relationship aspects of your time together other then sex. Unless of course you are having sex 24/7 in which case - WOW! The biggest consideration to having a 24/7 M/s or even D/s relationship is what you do with your clothes on. Yes, at least in our case, there is always a sexual undercurrent, but integrating the lifestyle into such mundane things as shopping, cooking, cleaning, watching TV, even going to bed takes planning. It starts with a Master willing to establish protocols/rules for those activities, and enforcing them. you have to decide if that type of formal protocol is what you want. For example, would you be willing to be required to ask permission to use the bathroom? If so ordered would you forgo ever using furniture to sit upon? Would you/can you wear collar and cuffs at all times in your home? For most, the knowledge of being required to ask permission for previously routine tasks and the wearing of cuffs/collar reinforce the slave 'mode'. 24/7 is not easy for either party. It's not simple. It takes desire. One side of the relationship can not do it autonomously. Especially at the onset, it takes an effort. On March 1st we will celebrate our 2nd anniversary living 24/7.

cailinTC -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/6/2005 9:15:11 AM)
ama, i have been living 24/7 for quite sometime now, about eight months now with Master. In fact, it is easier said than done if you are used to being submissive. If in fact you wish to push it further, i commend you. If it is something that you truly desire, then it will come. It may not be easy at first, and will take plenty of hard work. Even after doing this for several years, i do find myself at times slipping into a "rut" but, Master, being the Man that He is seems to tighten the leash, and bringing me back. If in fact, that is not readily available for you, mind exercises seem to work for me. If you are interested in understanding that, shoot me an email or post another and i'll try and help you. ~cailinTC

christne -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/6/2005 10:30:21 AM)
ama, I can't speak to being a 24/7 sex slave but I can speak to being a 24/7 slave. Master and I have an established Master/slave relationship going on 6 years now. The one thing I personally believe is critical to our ability to maintain the relationship is through rituals. Early on Master set up specific rituals that we still do today. We do them every day and some are as simple as serving coffee to him in bed every morning regardless of where we are. I mention this one due to the fact that until recently we traveled extensively and lived in hotels where doing this specific ritual was one of the things that really seemed to reinforce my postion - getting up, getting dressed, going to the lobby or where ever the hotel keep coffee, getting it and returning to the room and then undressing so I could properly to serve it to my Master. And no room service was not an option due to the nature of the ritual. Rituals are personal to individuals involved and they have the ability to reinforce slavery on a subtle level. Find one that means something to you both, start it and see if it works. If it does, find another that works and so on... Good luck on journey, christine

ama -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/7/2005 10:30:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cailinTC If in fact, that is not readily available for you, mind exercises seem to work for me. If you are interested in understanding that, shoot me an email or post another and i'll try and help you. ~cailinTC I'd find these very interesting :) Please let me know how and what you do that works for you! Thanks! ama

ama -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/7/2005 10:33:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: christne ama, I can't speak to being a 24/7 sex slave but I can speak to being a 24/7 slave. ... Rituals are personal to individuals involved and they have the ability to reinforce slavery on a subtle level. Find one that means something to you both, start it and see if it works. If it does, find another that works and so on... Good luck on journey, christine Also good advice :) Thank you! (And thanks to everyone else who posted too!) ama

nella -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/7/2005 11:15:28 AM)
I think i have to agree wht most that has been said here. While not inpossibel i can see that having a 24/7 BDSM relationship but only aboute the sex can be dificult. My advise to you must be to take it slow, just up up a cuppel of rutines at first, littel simpel things and then expand slowly unthil you get to the level the both of you are comfortabel whit.

cailinTC -> RE: Staying in slave mode (2/8/2005 6:49:25 AM)
Well, ama, First of all, i appreciate your kind words. Second of all, one of the things that helps me the best is journaling. It seems to help me get back to where i belong if i begin to slip. Another thing that helps is to just kneel beside Master (if He allows it), until He asks me to leave. LOL. i know it sounds weird, but i did it for an entire day and i haven't had another day like it for a while. Actually made me slip into that well known "space" for a while. i also have been known to put on the cuffs, get naked and just kneel on the floor, even when Master isn't here. Alot of it is in the mind, ama. That desire that burns deep within your belly should fire it right up. And just so you know as well as Eeveryone Eelse, i do realize that not all girls are the same. And not all girls feel the same fire. your fire might be different than mine. shrugs Wwho knows. Anyway, those are just some of my ideas. Aanyone have any more? ~His cailin

Alaina -> RE: Staying in slave mode (5/3/2005 3:14:42 PM)
Ritual is key. I have been a slave to the same Master for 12 years, 24/7 for 10. We have children and have to live in the real world so if it weren't for consistent rituals, it would have fallen apart long ago. Things as simple as wearing Your collar to bed every night, waiting by the bed for Your Master, not entering until He does. Serving Him coffee in bed, accompanied by a short or long leg and back rub, depending on Your time frame...preparing His bathroom...warm towels, toiletries placed out for Him..a short note from His slave every morning thanking Him or pledging Your day to Him... Sitting by His feet at the end of the day...rubbing them...every day at some point, kiss or suck his cock...not necessarily to completion, there isn't always time for that, but just to reinforce to Him and yourself that you serve Him and worship Him and are there for His pleasure... The longer You are His slave the more You will do to become complete, until you get to the point that You are constantly doing something to keep you in slave mode, until there is no such thing as slave mode...only obedience and servitude.....

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