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RE: STUPID SLAVE IMPULSES THAT GET US IN SO MUCH TROUBLE - 12/4/2006 5:22:46 AM

Kalira

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I would like to find a coping measure instead of lashing out. What do the rest of you slave/subs do when your instincts are screaming at you to react to a given situation.

Master and I do not live together, so often, I will scream after talking to him or something along that nature. Of course, I always feel bad after and end up telling him about my little tantrum and why I was so frustrated. Luckily, Master understands the frustrations; he does not condone the tantrum, but he understands and takes the time to help me with them.

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How do you hold it in?

I don't. I have learned that holding it in causes more stress and resentment than letting it out does.

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I know I can emotionally be pretty raw and genuine when it comes to Masters. I laugh and scream and cry and beg and there does not seem to be a mute or pause button. How do you find your mute and pause buttons?

I don't. Master allows me alot of vocal, creative freedom. When it's time to tone it down, he lets me know that I am coming close to crossing the line.

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RE: STUPID SLAVE IMPULSES THAT GET US IN SO MUCH TROUBLE - 12/4/2006 5:43:35 AM

mons

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greetings

my heart goes out to you ( i am woman ) i am a dominant i understand you did something wrong. but this is what i wish to know what does a master take a slave and not know this slave will fall in love with him even in vallina relationships when another tell the ones i do not want this to go any futher it always does no matter what if said master believes this why, why take this person and knowing break his or her heart she is in love with this man he has power over her like no other she will look at him as a god and love him, i do think if a master is not open to giving more why pick this one who has eyes that only shine for him and i know masters see this, it is a no win process.
i am so sorry you hurt now anyone can blown up dear anyone your human first slave next. your wear you heart on our sleeve and if he did not see this then he made the mistake by taking you into his life/
please do not beat yourself up all you can do is say sorry. take what he may or may not punish you but i think and this is my opinion leave to find another who will love you and yes slaves are loved

warm smilles please take care

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RE: STUPID SLAVE IMPULSES THAT GET US IN SO MUCH TROUBLE - 12/4/2006 7:22:08 AM

KeirasSecret

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First off, I don’t believe the problem is that you speak as much as what you say when you do, at times. I would suggest like someone else did, figure out why you respond the way you do. Until then, you could try counting to ten before making any comments on touchy subjects.

Personally, I try to stay focused on the desired results or I consider the consequence of my words before speaking. If I want my thoughts or concerns heard, screaming will not accomplish this. I have found that making “I feel” statements or even “Is it wrong of me to feel this way?” help break the ice for starting discussions.

As far as my pause function, Sir only needs to hold up one finger where I can see it and my mouth instantly shuts. If it happens to be an online discussion the word “STOP” also works.

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RE: STUPID SLAVE IMPULSES THAT GET US IN SO MUCH TROUBLE - 12/4/2006 9:07:16 AM

crouchingtigress

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Your behavior, although immature, was enivitable when you mix the ingredients that you did, together.

* you are new..... you will naturally be testing the boundaries constantly.

* you are being "rescued" from abuse....you will developer a affection for your rescuer.

*.you are finding out that you are submissive and that is scary......you will cling to the first safe port on the storm.

* he has stated clearly that he does not want more from the relationship....yet he takes it upon himself to open you up to your secret hunger that right now only he has the food to feed you...

If he is a good Dominant, he will have tolerance for a situation he had an equal part in creating.

It is all too common for a not-so-good Dominant to unveil a slave to herself, but have no real understanding of the Pandora's box they are opening and then they get skiddish when the new slave needs more...

I hope your Dominant is the former, but if he is the latter, just be honest with yourself and find some community that can and will support you at this very unstable and exciting time in your life.

There is a banquet for your hunger waiting for you in your local community...i promise

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RE: STUPID SLAVE IMPULSES THAT GET US IN SO MUCH TROUBLE - 12/7/2006 7:42:28 PM

Fawne

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Dear unownedredhead:

Please don't be so hard on yourself.

Entering BDSM is NOT easy.

As slave types, we are so vulnerable. Some dominants can really twist us! That is great if they are sincere, solid and honest.
Oh! That fragile core we harbor so aches with the need to adore, serve, worship and be valued for that rare beauty - so fragile - yet we must be strong as steel. Such a contradiction, yet a truth. My humble opinion, of course.

Yes: sometimes we fall/fail. Sometimes it is they who drop the ball, so to speak. They fall/fail just as hard as any.

I only wish more people could understand and not be so hard on those who have just begun to explore. Tough "love" has its place; but please have a heart, folks?!

Now, this doesn't mean you didn't make a mistake. But you realize and can grow from it, right? That's a great start!

Crouching Tigeress' words were kind and wise and I agree with much she said. (TY, Lady!)

peace and understanding to you.
be well, fawne

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