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Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/8/2006 11:56:24 PM

AussieBrisSteve

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Hi, I'm Steve from Brisbane and I am situated in a wheelchair. I'm 38 but only just come out with the realisation that I'm a Dom. Well, I at least I think I am.
I want my partner to submit to me, but I'm not sure if what I seek fits into what a submissive person would wish for.
I do (would) like doing the hand cuffs, blind fold, spanking and water sports, gagging, penetration, etc. But I want my partner to (regularly) wear her panties (of my own choosing) on all fours in bed (or elsewhere) and let me make a meal out of her from behind. That is, with her panties still on or half-way pulled down. If the situation permits, to have her squat on my face and rub her knickers in me.
At any given time, in private or in public, I wish for her to wear a skirt or dress which is -in a manner of speaking - easily accessible to my hand feeling her ass, thighs and pussy. My question is, is this what a submissive would appreciate?
Finally, is it also good for me to be mean or polite during these sessions?

Steve

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/9/2006 12:05:26 AM

DiurnalVampire

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Just at first glance, if you find the right partner, she will do what you want, becasue you will be the Dom. What you mention is often equated, partly, to the dominant side of things, having someone face sitting is not typically a submissive role. Also, how publicaly accessable she might be would have to be taken into account of where you are and how acceptable the behavior would be, rather than mskineg a spectacle of yourselves. However, for every kink out there, there is almost always someone else looking for the other side of it, so good luck in your search.
AS for the mean or nice bit, thats what you have to figure out for yourselves once you find someone.
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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/9/2006 1:51:03 AM

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You're talking about your kinks - in that case all you have to do is find someone compatible with them. Find a group in your area and knock yourself out ...

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/9/2006 5:57:14 AM

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As far as being polite or mean, that's up to you. Do you feel mean when you have a woman at your mercy, or do polite comments come naturally to you? You can say "spread it bitch" or "open wider baby, that's my girl" and both get the same reaction (hopefully), as to which one you would say depends on how you feel.

For me, I don't deal well with mean but I respond very happily to affection. So I'll tolerate things that are uncomfortable when he goes "that's my girl" whereas being spoken to sharply would be the straw on the camel's back for me. However other women respond all mushy to the meanness and go cold with kindness. Your best bet is to figure out what kind of dom you are, and look for someone who likes that sort.

As far as kinks, all you can do is talk about what you like and what she likes and hope there's enough overlap that you'll both come away happy. Good luck.

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/9/2006 7:04:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

You're talking about your kinks - in that case all you have to do is find someone compatible with them. Find a group in your area and knock yourself out ...

The best thing you can be, is yourself...

I agree - this doesn't make you a Dom ... you are expressing "kinks". There's someone out there, I'm sure, that would be happy to participate :).

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/9/2006 8:26:22 PM

ChaOz

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Yeah, you have fantasies you want to role play, but do you truly want to control someone and take responsibility for them? I dont think it matters what you ask them to do, once the power exchange is in place, they will have to do it to the best of their abilities. Might also be easier on you if you have two subs/slaves as your in a wheel chair, so that you can order them to handle the more physical stuff like whippings (not sure what your capable of here) but over all, just have fun and make sure you tailor what you do around getting enjoyment for yourself and getting the right responses from your subs. There would be a time when she wants gentle words, and a time when she wants to be treated like a slut and have that vocal reinforcement of her role. A submissive is usually someone who has a need to submit, so as long as you make her feel it, she will go along with your desires.

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/10/2006 3:09:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: AussieBrisSteve

Hi, I'm Steve from Brisbane and I am situated in a wheelchair. I'm 38 but only just come out with the realisation that I'm a Dom. Well, I at least I think I am.
I want my partner to submit to me, but I'm not sure if what I seek fits into what a submissive person would wish for.
I do (would) like doing the hand cuffs, blind fold, spanking and water sports, gagging, penetration, etc. But I want my partner to (regularly) wear her panties (of my own choosing) on all fours in bed (or elsewhere) and let me make a meal out of her from behind. That is, with her panties still on or half-way pulled down. If the situation permits, to have her squat on my face and rub her knickers in me.
At any given time, in private or in public, I wish for her to wear a skirt or dress which is -in a manner of speaking - easily accessible to my hand feeling her ass, thighs and pussy. My question is, is this what a submissive would appreciate?
Finally, is it also good for me to be mean or polite during these sessions?

Steve

It really depends on the sub. I would venture that most submissives would appreciate this at different times, some more often then others, but that most will not want it all the time.

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/11/2006 7:45:40 PM

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I would like to say a sincere thank you to all you who have taken the time to reply. You have opened my eyes as to how a sub wishes her Master to be to her, for her only. I will be all that she disires, I am sure that I can do it. And more to the point, I want to do it! Maybe I just didn't know what I wanted.

Lately I have felt more comfortable within my own skin and I feel more confident within my own self. Now, the next huge step for me is to find, cherish and keep my sub. Wish me luck!
Steve

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RE: Aussie Dom in a wheelchair asks - 11/14/2006 5:11:44 PM

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