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Communications - 11/9/2006 10:09:29 AM   
topal


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   I see a hair stylist when I walk by  her salon, and she looks like she stepped off the cover of DDI magazine, Is there a non verbal way for me to ask if she is a dominatrix, as I'd olove to be one of her slaves, she might be "the one"
I'm from the Albany area of NY.
Thanks in advance.
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RE: Communications - 11/9/2006 10:58:32 AM   
PiercedDaz


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Status: offline 		Non verbal??? The closest you can get to non verbal is by writing a sign and sticking it on her window asking to reply with a thumbs up or thumbs down!

What I would suggest though is making light conversation with her though. If she were a Domme, she would pick up on subliminal catchprases that you could drop in (Miss/Ma'am, WIITWD, CBT - Ok, dropping in Cock and Ball Torture might be a little over the top!) Anyway, you get the gist. Just be subtle and intelligent and look for the signs of any recognition.

Good luck.

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RE: Communications - 11/9/2006 11:23:36 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		As many groups & functions that are going on in the Albany area why not take a direct approach & say something like, you look familiar, did I see you at the APeX group before? (APeX is just one example)

If she looks at you odd then just say, nevermind, thought you looked like someone I know... & then continue with some other polite exchange, like your name & nice to meet you.

People easily mistake others for someone they know all the time so it shouldn't be a big deal.


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RE: Communications - 11/9/2006 12:11:13 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		If you like her, ask her out on a date. Then, if the conversation seems steerable....

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RE: Communications - 11/9/2006 5:38:47 PM   
Sissypinky


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Status: offline 		how are you? 
ive seen better days. 
why? 
my mistress is moving away.  

if she says What?
say never mind.

if she says 'oh im sorry'. 
now you can start a conversation . 

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RE: Communications - 11/9/2006 7:50:37 PM   
Hitandmiss


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Status: offline 		But starting off with lies!! No-that is a mistake. I can't respect liars even if they are cute.  I would recomend just being very polite, respectful and worshipful.  If she's a top, that will turn her on. Let her know you are interested and wait for her to make the first move. Either this is her thing-whether she knows it or not-or it really isn't at all. And then you will know.   

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 5:24:27 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		You can't judge by her clothes. She may just be goth and like black corsets and high heeled boots. Don't approach any woman with "you're hot" and expect success. She already knows what she looks like. Since she's a hair stylist, why don't you ask for an appointment with her to do your hair, this will give you some time to talk about neutral subjects and see if you click on any other level.

Off topic, waving hello to Miss, long time no see.

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 9:09:38 AM   
AAkasha


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ORIGINAL: topal

Hi
  I see a hair stylist when I walk by  her salon, and she looks like she stepped off the cover of DDI magazine, Is there a non verbal way for me to ask if she is a dominatrix, as I'd olove to be one of her slaves, she might be "the one"
I'm from the Albany area of NY.
Thanks in advance.


Get a haircut.  Hairstylists are chatty and she will probably answer any questions about herself if you ask them politely or casually.  Get her talking the entire time and look for clues.  It's also an easy way to find out if she's single.  Make sure you tip graciously. 

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 4:27:49 PM   
bignipples2share


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I agree, don't start off on a lie. Attire doesn't always dipict the nature of the person wearing it. It could be just a particular fashion choice. I would have no clue if someone were to mention the name of a fetish club, or group.
Now, I liked that response of, just go get a haircut and see if you click. She may be dom and not even realize it, or know what to do about it.

~Big

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 4:32:14 PM   
topal


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Status: offline 		Thanks to you and all, I wish it were that easy. More than meets the eye.

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 5:34:50 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		meeting people is not easy

Throwing in asking a complete stranger who may or may not have any knowledge much less tolerence for the lifestyle makes it more difficult.  It is my opinion that you should try to get to know her as a person first and see if there is any chemistry before bringing up the subject.  If someone approached me in my professional environment and asked me if I was a domme I probably wouldn't appreciate it.  But, maybe that's just me.

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 6:16:00 PM   
topal


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Status: offline 		How true, I'm even intimated talking to pro dommes. As far as getting to know her, I'll certainly try.
PS. is it lonely in that old town?
Regards.

< Message edited by topal -- 11/10/2006 6:19:15 PM >

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 6:21:36 PM   
topal


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Status: offline 		Indeed!

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RE: Communications - 11/10/2006 6:23:52 PM   
topal


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Status: offline 		Great Ideas, however as the song says, easierrrrr said than done, du du done!

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