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Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 12:30:18 PM

aguy4u

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I've had the desire to be used as a toilet it seems like forever but the second a female finds out I'm disabled they either charge me a large amout of money, totally brush me off, or tell me they're going to do it someday and someday never comes, is it that much trouble to find a woman to take a dump in my mouth? Heck I'd be happy if I can get a female to let me rim them once in awhile.

Now I know most people would say it migth be dangerous or something like that but I figure as much as I love having my tongue up her ass, and I've spent hours in there, this is worth it

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 12:42:45 PM

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the standard reply you will get will be:

It's not about what you want.

Now the more thoughtful reponse is that the more specialized the kink, fetish or desire is that you seek, the less likely it will be to find partners who are also into it.

You'll just have to be patient

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 1:05:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

the standard reply you will get will be:

It's not about what you want.

Now the more thoughtful reponse is that the more specialized the kink, fetish or desire is that you seek, the less likely it will be to find partners who are also into it.

You'll just have to be patient

And all of these are very true.

Not to mention that a pseudonymn like "aguy4u" might suggest more than toilet play so I'm sure the women you talk to are taken a back.

How upfront are you about your disability? If you state right up front you might save yourself from getting some connection going and then being disappointed. I can't tell you that being upfront though is going to make the search easy -- if someone is honest they will admit that may be a big factor in their decisions to get to know someone. That's a matter of the individual just like kinks or age or race or religion or anything else.

For example given the house I live in someone in a wheelchair or problems with stairs would not work PERIOD. Likewise I love words so someone who is mute wouldn't work very well. Someone who was deaf? Maybe, I'd have to adjust somethings and that person would be spending much more time around me so they could serve me at a moment's notice -- I don't know if that would annoy after a while or not.

I'm sure there are lots of people who'd say "no" to me for physical, mental, or any other reason too. I can get angry about it or I can just be honest and find someone I'm compatible with.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 3:44:16 PM

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I'm guessing it's the fetish and not your handicapped status. While it would be quite difficult for us to have a live-in who was wheelchair bound or had trouble with stairs, it would be possible to accomodate him - but we are not at all interested in someone who's main fetish/kink is scat play - just like we aren't interested in someone who's main fetish is golden showers, or puppy or pony play, or 'forced' feminiztion. Those are just things that we aren't interested in, so if it's something that a boy HAS to have, he won't be happy with us.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 5:03:01 PM

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i've had a desire to wrestle with a FemmeDomme who looks just like Xena, so she could pin me down and have her way with me...

but given my location and the fact that there aren't too many women out their that 1 - look just like LL 2 - are big enough to pin me down and 3 - would even be interested this. It cuts back the odds an awful lot.

Unfortunately for those of you who love scat, it's just not one of the more popular kinks around. If i were you, i would be thankful for the Pro's who are willing to do that and try to find new things to occupy yourself when you can't.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 5:08:43 PM

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Just like if I advertise myself as being a slave for queening and queening only, it makes it difficult to find someone who wants to build a relationship around that.

So that leaves you with casual shit (tee hee) and as we all know, women can find casual partners very easily, they just usually don't want to.

Besides, with something like scat, you may just want to know the person a bit better.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/9/2006 5:25:11 PM

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Yeah a friend of mine has this fetish. Been searching 3 years now. Foryour profile I would say your heavily into butt worship and leave out the rest. Once you get a relationship commencing bring it up then and ask. Be ready to settle for butt worhsip

Or be a switchdom and have her wear diapers with an enemna. You can figure out the rest.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/10/2006 11:24:32 AM

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I try to be upfront as possible with my disability as well as my fetish, matter of fact I've been accused of being too upfront but I always firgure to tell tthem now rather than spring it on them later
and I think 10 years is being patient

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/10/2006 11:42:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: aguy4u

I try to be upfront as possible with my disability as well as my fetish, matter of fact I've been accused of being too upfront but I always firgure to tell tthem now rather than spring it on them later
and I think 10 years is being patient

10 years is a long time.

My husband is an adult baby and he has gone as many years without someone to practice it with (it's one of my limits).

So he started a monthly month where he interacts with other adult babies and they can talk. He can also do many of his fetish things on his own as well -- which I have no problem with at all, I just can't play mommy for him.

Now, I know that your fetish needs another person but until you can find them have you considered joining or starting a group others interested in the same thing?

And to be blunt, you have no more a right to finding someone to help you fulfill your fetishes than anyone else. We all have to search and when are fetishes are very rare or specialize then the search is just that much harder. We can bitch, we can give up, we can decide to use professional services, we can keep trying as we have, or we can try to expand what turns us on and look into those venues as well.

It is a harsh reality but it is reality.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/10/2006 1:07:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: aguy4u

I try to be upfront as possible with my disability as well as my fetish, matter of fact I've been accused of being too upfront but I always firgure to tell tthem now rather than spring it on them later
and I think 10 years is being patient

Quite honestly....you need to have something to offer rather other than being willing to engage in your fetish. I'd suggest you seriously think about what else you bring to the table, and if you can't come up with much, then you need to consider the prodomme route.

It is highly unlikely that you will meet a domme interested enough in your particular fetish to engage in just that with you, and it is highly unlikely that you will be able to build a relationship with a woman based solely on mutual interest in one specific fetish.

Do you date vanilla women at all? If you have trouble dating vanilla women, it's going to be just that much harder trying to date a Domme.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/10/2006 9:59:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: aguy4u

I've had the desire to be used as a toilet it seems like forever but the second a female finds out I'm disabled they either charge me a large amout of money, totally brush me off, or tell me they're going to do it someday and someday never comes, is it that much trouble to find a woman to take a dump in my mouth? Heck I'd be happy if I can get a female to let me rim them once in awhile.

Now I know most people would say it migth be dangerous or something like that but I figure as much as I love having my tongue up her ass, and I've spent hours in there, this is worth it

Be careful what you wish for.

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RE: Why cant I be taken serious - 11/10/2006 10:04:48 PM

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Jeez..I know a domme woman that would do that....and for very little money

She gets into that kind of play.

Definately not my thing.

I'm trying to keep the toxins out thanks.

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