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topal -> Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 11:45:48 AM)
I you were a femdom and you saw the same person drifting by your sight twice weekly, would you, if you were interested, send an unmistakable sign to make an offer of servitude? I'm thinking perhaps she thinks I'm not slave material.

AAkasha -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 11:51:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: topal I you were a femdom and you saw the same person drifting by your sight twice weekly, would you, if you were interested, send an unmistakable sign to make an offer of servitude? I'm thinking perhaps she thinks I'm not slave material. Maybe she's just not into you. Akasha

topal -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 11:58:23 AM)
Well may I ask, have you ever began a relationship by making it easy for a man to cultivate you?

MsKatHouston -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 2:18:26 PM)
What exactly is an unmistakable sign? The next question, though not asked of me, I'll answer. Yes, if I am interested in someone I typically do not play hard to get games. I show an interest.

MsKatHouston -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 2:20:56 PM)
If she is not a domme, you risk embarassing her. You can't make a determination that she thinks you are not slave material when you have no clue if she even knows what a slave is.

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 2:54:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: topal If you were a femdom and you saw the same person drifting by your sight twice weekly, would you, if you were interested, send an unmistakable sign to make an offer of servitude? I'm thinking perhaps she thinks I'm not slave material. What is the unmistakable sign? It sounds as if you expect the Domme in question to be psychic. How is she going to have any clue about what kind of submissive you are without ever talking with you? Quite frankly, most men are not submissive (even many that say they are) so unless I meet a male in a forum such as a munch, my assumption is that the male in question is not interested in the lifestyle and probably doesn't even know anything about it.

topal -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/11/2006 3:47:58 PM)
Dear mistress Kat :) Sorry this was intended for Mistress Kat. I think its just wishful thinking on my part, that femdoms might have a certain protocol they might use, to see if an admirer was interested in the D/S life. Actually your post was an ans to my question. Your very well versed as well as insightful. Your beauty is exceeded only by you kindness, As a matter of fact Just about all the femdoms on "Collar Me" I've written to have be great. Thanks so much

topal -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/12/2006 7:29:43 AM)
Dear Ms. Sonnet Marwood I can only speak for myself, concerning your comment that men aren't really submissive, I'm interested in erotica so, when I think of D/S I have a certain scenario in mind so I like to tell the woman her "role" as well as her lines. If she agrees, fine, if she doesn't, she's not happy, and if she's not happy, I'm not happy I don't want her to feel uncomfortable, so I back off. I think of D/S as ultimate love, and to me, love means when the person says JUMP!, the other persons How high?,and means it, of course if the other person say JUMP OFF A CLIFF, I wouldn't comply and would not persue the the relationship. Regards

MsKatHouston -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/12/2006 8:10:04 AM)
Um, if you are telling the woman her role and her lines how is that submission? Shouldn't it be the other way around? That sounds more like role play with you in charge.

thetammyjo -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/12/2006 8:54:16 AM)
Most of the time if I'm interested in some one I'm very direct about it. I'll say "hey, you're cute/smart; are you submissive by any chance?" Yup, I'm not direct! But then I'm takling about people in meatlife primarily ones I meet at bdsm events or at school (who are NOT my students -- shudder). They don't know what submissive means or say "no" -- I have yet to have one get angry at my questions -- then I say "that's cool; nice meeting you" and move along.

topal -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/12/2006 9:35:19 AM)
Hi :) Thats the paradox of dominace and submission.As time goes by both partners learn what is expected and ok with each other, of course there is a learning curve for both. And the femdom also tells the sub what is agreeable to her. and basicly she has the final word as she is the boss. perhaps its like hypnotism were a person won't do something they wouldn't do in an awake state.And in all my fantasies there is consent by everyone. For instance: the dom can tell the sub to act out the dom role, which would please the dom and should also please the sub as they are obeying the dom. I just want to utter the two magical words, yes dear.

Aine -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/12/2006 9:39:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston Um, if you are telling the woman her role and her lines how is that submission? Shouldn't it be the other way around? That sounds more like role play with you in charge. I'd have to agree with Kat on this one. Sound more like you're a bottom in the most general sense of the word. You want a scene -your- way and -you- would be telling her what her role is....that's topping from the bottom. That's not submission. Unless of course you can expound on what it is that you want....that's what you sound like right now. We're not psychic, and what might be obvious to you very well might not be to other people. Your best bet is to -introduce yourself- to her, get to know her a little bit if it seems she is inclined to get to know you back. After that, if it seems like a comfortable place and time to put it out there, ask her in a gentle way if she's into the lifestyle.

topal -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/12/2006 12:37:42 PM)
Well I'll certainly try to implement all your tips, I'm glad I asked, you are all so knowledgeable that I think I'm more likely to meet the woman of my dreams even if its not her.

KaramelGoddess -> RE: Let me put it this way (11/13/2006 7:47:34 AM)
Perhaps she's already involved/not looking/not interested. Pluck up the courage and ask, there is nothing to lose! hates Topping from the bottom btw

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