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MagiksSlave -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 6:16:26 PM)
Im honestly not a very sexual person heck i went the first 21 (Im only 22 now)years of my life not knowing how to orgam. So i dont identafy sex or orgasm with my own identaty. And honestly I dont think Id suffer if I never had another orgams as long as I lived. I dont know I guess Im a bit odd!!! Magik's slave

medievalwench -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 6:35:12 PM)
MagiksSlave, i feel the same way, glad to know i'm not alone on that one, a lot of emphasis is put on orgasm and i just don't get it. wench

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 6:41:26 PM)
I am in my 30's and enjoying myself. I do not have much trouble achieving multiple orgasms. So for some of us we enjoy it. Thats why. Some do have trouble achieving orgasm but some do not. Those of us that do enjoy having orgasms. If I am denied one or more than so be it. I won't die. I enjoy the denying and pushing to a point where I cannot take it anymore.

acissej -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 6:59:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Celeste43 Orgasm control for hours, yes please. Being kept on edge for days on time, no way. I'm actually the opposite. Orgasm control for a few hours is okay, but extend it for days, maybe even a week or two, and I'm in heaven. Two weeks, maybe three if I'm pushing it, is probably my limit, though.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 7:18:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: medievalwench MagiksSlave, i feel the same way, glad to know i'm not alone on that one, a lot of emphasis is put on orgasm and i just don't get it. wench Thanks.. I feel much better now too knowing Im not alone in that thought!!! Magik's slave

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 7:27:17 PM)
I am simply not interested in sexual denial. Our focus is nurturing my sexuality not holding it back or denial.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 7:41:27 PM)
Don't feel like an idiot. It's your natural responce, and nothing wrong with it at all. I have a very hard time with it too, Daddy said don't come bitch* we were role playing* and it just killed any of my ability to cum. I don't do well with stop go stop go type play It kills any desire or mood to stop and go. Once i am at that brink it happens or if distracted it goes away. quote: ORIGINAL: amor I agree with slavejali. It's just not possible to try to deny me orgasm, because it's so hard for me to cum in the first place. Master understands it, though I know that sometimes it frustrates Him. I want Him to have that control, but until I can relax and allow myself to cum when He says to, orgasm denial just isn't going to work. If He tells me not to cum, I get turned off and stop feeling sexual. I feel like an idiot for even admitting to it, but there ya are!

Celeste43 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 8:08:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onlythewindknows quote: ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz I recently met a sub who told me that she couldn't bear the thought of orgasm denial and that it was a hard limit for her. BTW IMHO that seems like a weird, whiny "hard limit." To me a sub should really be able to forego her own pleasure a bit more than this. to each her own i guess. If orgasm denial prevents her from having an orgasm at all with that man then it isn't whiny. If it causes sleep deprivation and prevents her from being effective on the job it isn't whiny. If it's caused her to burst into tears uncontrollably and be unable to handle her family it isn't whiny. The op didn't bother to ask why she has to hard limit it.

andreaC -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/12/2006 10:08:38 PM)
Orgasm denial can be quite exciting depending on which mood i am, but Master always seems to know when to exercise that control......also at times i love to beg, it certainly feels sooooo good. So YES i love it.

slvannieSYRJESS -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 1:57:44 PM)
Greetings all, being new to this site, i am going to tread lightly :) Orgasm denial has actually been something very appealing to me. Another reason to let go of control and offer that control up to my Master is adding into my surrender as well as increasing Hys demands, needs and Dominance. i personally think that if someone is uncomfortable in this concept, there should be no reason for them not to express their concerns, however, i also feel that pressing oneself at times can be very freeing (along with feeling much anticipation as well as those crazy tummy butterflies we slaves/submissives tend to get) lol. It's a personal development between two people, what they wish to have in their dynamic or not. This was a great topic, thank you for the read! :) In surrender to my Master, SyrJess slavegirlannie

littleone35 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 2:10:44 PM)
quick reply Master likes to tease he will take me right to the edge then stop hug me cuddle me let me come back from the edge then when i am halfway back bring me back to the very edge and do this many times until i am so frustrated and begging him. I am lucky though he never leaves without giving me release. Matt's littleone

aurora31 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 5:14:15 PM)
I too can have difficulties reaching orgasm. It is so very hard for me to completely let go. And due to past experiences it is way to easy for me to pull back. But once I do pull back it is next to impossible for me to get there again and if I do the intensity is greatly diminished. aurora

cinderella221972 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 6:39:22 PM)
For me, orgasm denial is always related to submission to the One i serve. i will not say that i like or enjoy it but i will admit that when denied for a while, the release upon finally receiving permission is awesome. respectfully, cindy

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 7:22:43 PM)
See now that would just kill my mood and therefor kill any desire I had to play, stop start stop start just won't work for me. quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 quick reply Master likes to tease he will take me right to the edge then stop hug me cuddle me let me come back from the edge then when i am halfway back bring me back to the very edge and do this many times until i am so frustrated and begging him. I am lucky though he never leaves without giving me release. Matt's littleone

insearchofpeace -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 7:37:55 PM)
I am not fond of orgasm denial because if I am required to hold back too long, I am unable to do it at all. Not fun.

Powerman40 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 8:19:51 PM)
I have seen both sides, and the first point is obvious, you have to let let your Master know when you need to orgasm. At least then, he / she can learn and teach you how to hold it, begin to deny it from you knowing your close, and then..........letting you have it over and over again. . its a suttle tease, but when you know that one day Master will allow it and in fact, give you many over and over, then that is the denial he / she is looking for .. its the tease to the end of begging to (let me Please you) S

Celeste43 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/13/2006 8:30:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Powerman40 I have seen both sides, and the first point is obvious, you have to let let your Master know when you need to orgasm. At least then, he / she can learn and teach you how to hold it, begin to deny it from you knowing your close, and then..........letting you have it over and over again. . its a suttle tease, but when you know that one day Master will allow it and in fact, give you many over and over, then that is the denial he / she is looking for .. its the tease to the end of begging to (let me Please you) S Orgasm control during a one day period yes. Over several days, not unless he can also teach me to sleep during this. I stop sleeping over multiday denial. That means I can't drive, I can't be trusted not to cut myself while cooking, I have headaches that are unbearable etc. This hasn't anything to do with the intensity of the orgasm, and btw I'm multiorgasmic already so he doesn't need to teach me that. It is purely a health and safety issue. Or would you rather a sub fell asleep at the wheel and hit a tree during denial? Thankfully he wants me well and alive.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/15/2006 12:29:14 AM)
Due to my issues with sexuality and stuff orgasm and sexual frusterations flips a very negative very bad switch with in me. Fucking around* no pun intended* with things like purposely trying to frusterate me sexually backfire, Very quickly I go from horny and willing to teary and petulant and very upset. Messing with stuff like that just throws my moods into a total tail spin and upsets me. So knowing that I would have no problem listing orgasim denial or sexual frusteration games as a hard limit. The way my moods around sex can switch in a blink of an eye it's not ok nor aceptable to me and for me to have people manipulating things like that at will. I have litterally and recently gone from 400 percent horny and due to some frusterations went a thoughsand miles in reverse to very regressed very small very upset and very much in tears and down because the mood died and I was enjoying myself previously to it dying. Those 2 thoughsand an hour mile mood changes affect me very deeply and for quite a while.

zbabe888 -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/15/2006 7:03:02 AM)
I agree with every post here! At different points in my life I felt what everyone here has discussesd. It was a wonderful turn-on to be commanded at such a base level, but often messed with me being able to have them at all. I was in my mid-20's before anyone brought me to orgasm. (so there's hope magikslave!) I have serious issue tied to my past and the thought of (let alone word) orgasm. Re: the post that started this thread - keeping in mind that anything a sub refers to as a hard limit should be taken very very seriously, seems to me she is topping from the bottom. Not that I am ever recommending ignoring her! Just to delve into this together in a safe way - it is such a HUGE thing to try to avoid during play. Not just "You can't cum until Tuesday at 10 am" commands but so many landmines of what can you do without touching on this "hard limit". If she has experienced something in particular that was a failure for her then maybe a different style of it is needed. I say that only because without trying to grow and open yourself, you get nowhere. I have always been tough to bring to orgasm. My mind would rule the moment and when I got close I thought, "Hmmm, I am close." and the warm tingly feeling just left - then it would come back and I think, "There it is!" and gone again! Somehow by acknowledging it, it disappeared. My world turned upsidedown recently. A new Dom stepped into my life and unlike anything in the past he quickly was able to command me and I came. For me there is a difference between a stimulated and unstimulated orgasm but both are amazing, then there's the full body orgasm which I still don't understand, but LOVE. What is most amazing to me is how much he wants me to cum for him. In the past it was always used as a "You won't do it until I say you can." which left me under too much pressure and I couldn't at all. Now at any time, anywhere I am he speaks the magic word and I do. EVERY SINGLE TIME! Even more amazing when I am on the brink and begging and then commanded. So then one day in the middle he just said, "Stop." I didn't. "Are you crazy? THAT can NOT be done!" He said it can and will. The next time he said it - my heart and mind still believing it impossible - my body stopped. It left a humming of electricity throughout my body - skin on fire, trembling. Which all lead to lots and lots of animalistic begging. From my times of switching to the top - there is nothing more wonderful in the world than a sub flying high from the experience you have been able to give them. It is what the top craves as much as the bottom (hopefully)! Orgasm being a natural high in the body, which for women also connects deeply with the mind, is the perfect tool for a top to wield. By taking that card completely off the table - you take away the hammer from a carpenter. Some here are quite strong and set that this does not and will not work for them. PERIOD I say kudos to you for being strong in your convictions, but I also know from my own strong opinions that SOMETIMES saying it "won't" work is excatly the reason why it doesn't! I think therefore I am!

Aubre -> RE: Female orgasm denial (11/15/2006 8:14:50 AM)
Orgasm denial fans might enjoy http://www.tantalism.org/. Primary focus is on female orgasm tease & denial. Personally, I love doing this. I love to keep a woman hot and horny for a long time, threatening to not let her cum.

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