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Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/6/2005 7:56:27 PM   
nella


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Let me ask those of Y/you that are Goreans a question. Why do those of you that are into Gorean lifestyle like it? i find myself strangely fasinated by this lifestyle for aperant reason. i have not realy read the books but i got one of them now and have read abit in them and they are nothing special, okey fantasy but nothing grate. I am a submissive not a slave so the total obediance of the Gorean slaves do not normaly apeal to me. But for some reason i find myself fasinated. So to understand my own fasination better, why do you pepole like this lifestyle.
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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/7/2005 8:09:58 AM   
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what ?

EDIT: Whiskey Tango Foxtrot...... over.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/7/2005 8:24:17 AM   
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Why do the fish like the water ? Why do the birds like to take to the air ? Why do the stallions like to run free over the plains ? Why do dogs like to lick their own balls ?

Its a force of nature girl..... Master and slave in its purest form....(when done correctly in real life, anyway)

and in My own personal real life experiences, not much different than any other 24/7 M/s relationship, other than taking the name of Gorean and applying what aspects and beliefs of that fantasy to real time.

It's about total Ownership and total submission, girl...
no more, no less

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/7/2005 11:46:52 AM   
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I only have a couple minutes to write here, so I would suggest that maybe proudsub can post a couple of the relavent Gorean related threads here.

I think in a nutshell, though, Goreans tend to be drawn into the lifestyle for several reasons. The main reasons seem to be a clear set of rules on 'right and wrong' (that are argued almost to death by the same Goreans nonetheless) as opposed to the almost exact opposite attitudes of many BDSMers who approach the lifestyle from a 'whatever floats your boat is ok, so long as it is SSC/RACK/etc.' Additionally, many Goreans mention a sense of philosophy, more then just how a Master and slave interact, but also a set of expectations to allow a whole way of life, with simple values and needs.

Then again, if you two Goreans in a room, and point out the window that the sky is blue, neither of them will likely agree with you, or each other.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/7/2005 11:57:52 AM   
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I'm not Gorean,but I use an M/s structure very akin to it.

I like structured lifestyles with very little wiggle room in them. It makes it easy to plan ahead,and sets clear boundaries of what will, and will not be tolerated. My ways seem very rigid to most "shades of grey bdsm people,and that's how I INSIST it be, to keep girl I can possibly refer to in any sense as "slave".

When I see Dominants claim they don't use any protocol, I laugh. What they are really telling me is that they are role playing a sex game. Thier much vaunted "dominance" is going to evaporate with thier erections.

Some of us take this seriously, and it permeates our lives,with or without a partner.

The Gorean tradition is just a lazy way to have a code of conduct-it's spelled out in advance. If you deviate from it and "do your own thing" I don't see it as being Gorean,any more than I see most bdsm as being about control, beyond the bedroom door.

Some things just DON'T work half assed,but the final decision is yours.


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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/7/2005 6:00:23 PM   
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When I see Dominants claim they don't use any protocol, I laugh. What they are really telling me is that they are role playing a sex game. Thier much vaunted "dominance" is going to evaporate with thier erections.


Why would you assume that?

Some folks simply don't go for the whole formality thing.

Quite often those that I've met that actually have little or no protocol don't mix sex and BDSM at all.

Now I'm curious how they'd fit in that little box you state you'd place them in as only roleplaying a sex game - when sex isn't even a part of the mix in their BDSM at all.

As for erections - some of them are female. Wouldn't really apply in their cases especially.

So like why this assumption that relaxed or no formlaity in regard to protocol equates them roleplaying and it only being about sex?

I'm curious what that is based from.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/7/2005 6:44:35 PM   
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I for once am interested in learing aboute Gorean lifestyle, but i could never live it as i am a submissive and not a slave. And even if some aspects of slavery is interesting i have to much going on in my life whit studies and such to take care of the house and be a good slave, i like the protocol however.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 6:25:45 AM   
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nella,

Protocol can be found in all walks of life. Depending on
how you look at it. Depending on the dominant, there is
protocol in a DOM/sub relationship (Atleast the ones stormi
knows).

Protocol is in short, manners, rituals, requirements, or simply
put the rules by which a slave or sub live by.

stormi can go into depth with the rules/protocol of her Master.
Some are open and public, others are not. But it is Master's
"rule book" or protocol none the less because it is what makes
HIM happy.

Feel free to contact off line and chat if you want.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 9:32:21 AM   
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People debate this stuff all the time. I have a few short answers on the subject.

Gorean concepts are lifted almost verbatim from Aristotle’s philosophy of "naturalism." naturalism was widely accepted until Augustine and Constantine disavowed it as part of their efforts to create a centralized church that served the needs of the state.

Naturalism, briefly explained, states that in nature there is one perfect state for all living things and among men, whose capacity for reason determines their function, there are a range of natural states.

Building on this we see Aristotle briefly explain that some men are made to be masters and some men are made to be slaves. A fairly common idea for his age. This did not work for Constantine and Augustine who had to convince their populations that ALL men can be whatever they want, as long as they pay the tithes and worship the deities the state supports etc etc. remember Constantine had just gathered and re written the texts of the bible and turned a little cult into a state sponsored religion. Augustine was building on that work.

In any case John Norman, a philosopher wrote a few pieces on it, was caught up in the feminist movements of the time which were highly theoretical and wrote as a response the Gorean novels and a series of "time slave" books as well as one of the first primers for consensual/s at home. He wrote these novels about one a year and they all essentially repeat the same things that he found had an incredible effect.

Women, some women especially, just love these concepts.

There are a lot of little snippets of wisdom in the novels. Over all there are now 30-35 Norman texts all dealing with the same idea so in there he had to hit a few of the core concepts over and over. He got a few things so correct it’s staggering.


  • 1. Among women very few will be natural submissive. 2-5 percent is probably accurate.
  • 2. Earthmen are stifled and repressed. Victorian society god bless em, neutered most men
  • 3. A true submissive is infinitely more interesting to men then a free woman
  • 4. The concept of "love slave" true match, mirror, and "the one' do exist. In modern society you can easily die trying to find them.
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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 10:20:53 AM   
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Thank you for the information Alexander, it was realy informative and interesting. i will have to look into that.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 10:48:11 AM   
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quote:

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...but i could never live it as i am a submissive and not a slave.


Without getting into the whole debate, what do you mean by submissive and slave?

What kinds of protocol do you enjoy?

I am just curious...
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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 1:46:41 PM   
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Whit submissive and slave i mean the definition most used it seamed on this site. i enyoy giving up some control, and serving in a D/s relationship, but i would not want to give up all control, for example i am a dedicated occultist, and would never give it up, even if my Dom would demand that of me. Therefor i say i am a submissive, not a slave.

I like the kind of protoclos where there are a set way to speak, to act and daily ruties that enforce the place on is in.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 3:26:44 PM   
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greetings nella
I thought hard and long before adding my bit to your question, I was not sure if it was appropriate because I am a slave and not a Master. I have had 3 real life Gorean Masters all different but all with the same values. If you want a slaves perspective then feel free to email me.
well wishes
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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/8/2005 6:30:01 PM   
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Thank you safora, i have send you an mail.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/9/2005 4:49:52 AM   
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Hi Alexander,

Nice to see someone who knows what they are talking about. I have written in various places for years about the basis of our way of life being ethical naturalism. John Lang's PhD Thesis, in fact, was entitled "In Defense of Ethical Naturalism", though in it, I think he was defending Hume against GE Moore, rather than commenting directly about Aristotle.

My take on Aristotle is that his basic premise was that it's good to be what we are. With respect to freedom, if one is capable of freedom, they should stand and be free. If their nature is that of a slave, it is right and good that they submit to the collar. As you said quite well, those who came later weren't really all that intersted in a sincere inquiry into what the nature of right and good might be. They wanted social control. What Aristotle saw, simply, as "nature" became "sinful nature"; something one must fight to overcome, rather than celebrate and make the basis of one's ethos.

Where I don't agree is with the notion that every philosophical premise to be found in the books came from Aristotle. Aristotle didn't understand evolutionary biology, and the notion that natural selection should proceed unimpeded in mankind underlies much of what Norman wrote. Spinoza wrote that the business of a species is it's own survival. If you take that as the standard by which you define "right" you might just end up with an ethical system like what you find in the Gor books, where people who play with things like guns and bombs are summarily dispatched, and men are even distainful of weapons like crossbows, because with one a weak man can kill a stronger man without pitting his strength speed, and skill against him. Such a world is brutal, and unfair, and dangerous in the small, meaning that a given individual might be exposed to more risk. If, on the other hand, your underlying definition of "good" is "what is most fair and equitable to each and every man, and what brings the most possible comfort and ease to all", you'll end up with a world like ours. Cushy and "fair", docile and polite, but overpopulated, polluted, and dangerous in the large; where life is more "fair" and comfortable for any given man, but where the liklihood that our entire species, or at least large parts of it, will die in mass is much greater.

These aren't easy questions, and there aren't really right answers. Every answer has its own set of consequences. Goreans like me, as you pointed out, come down on the side that says our nature is good, and that survival of our species is indeed our business, and the basis of what is "right".

To the points that you stressed:

1. Among women very few will be natural submissive. 2-5 percent is probably accurate.

This is oft misquoted. In one book Norman mused that a relatively small percentage of the female population were slaves. What he had to say about submission was something different. He postulated that just about all women are potentially submissive. The only question is "to whom?". Goreans belive that every woman has competing drives. One drive is to seek out a partner to whom she can be an equal. The other drive is to seek out the champion, to whom she can only be a slave girl. We could spend a lot of time discussing why this might be so from a socio-biological point of view, but there you go.

Earthmen are stifled and repressed. Victorian society god bless em, neutered most men

I thought everyone knew that. Is it just we Goreans? <grin>

A true submissive is infinitely more interesting to men then a free woman

Ever noticed how men talk about the things they own more than they do the women in their life? What if they owned the women in their life? Something to ponder.

The concept of "love slave" true match, mirror, and "the one' do exist. In modern society you can easily die trying to find them.

Well yes, but the trying is not without its own rewards.


To your original question, nella, our way of life, or "lifestyle" if you prefer, proceeds from these philosophical premises. The things that we value; strength, honor, commitment to home and community, freedom (and its counterpart, slavery), and love of the natural world can all be traced back to it. We own slaves, and we celebrate female slavery especially as something beautiful. That's really where the similarity between Goreans and the D/s community at large begins and ends.


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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/9/2005 6:54:37 AM   
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nella,

I think your question is one many women ask themselves. “why does the grass over there look so green?” part of that can be simply do to the fact that human nature is to want what we don’t have. But the other part of that is your heart telling you what you need to survive. I am edana, and I am Master Leonidas’s property. He is training me in the ways of service, born from love, passion, and devotion to him. These are all deep drives in me, naturally. As they are in many females of our species. Society has taken men and made them women, and women and made them men. The result is that the lines drawn between the sexes has become blurred. It is a sad state of affairs. And makes the quest for ‘the one’ more difficult. Often we settle, then try to make the ‘one we settled on’ fit our needs. But unless it comes from within. Well, you are pouring water into a bucket that has a hole in it.

To answer your question of each of us… I am drawn to this Gorean way, not because I read any books, not because I like to pretend that I live on another planet. I was drawn by opening my heart, and my ears. I listened to my Master when he first invited me to his room here on collarme. He neither chased me nor attempted to seduce me. He didn’t tell me to get to my knees or stand in a corner. He spoke of a natural state for females, and men. A state that allows us to live in freedom and happiness. I am allowed to be soft, tender, vulnerable, and needy. And he is able to take care, be strong, and demand my obedience. And because I am so well cared for, I burn with a fire I have never felt before. I ache to please him, serve him… love him. I am devoted to him.

nella, like you, when I first came onto this, I was adamant that I was simply a “submissive” and not a slave. I thought in order to be a slave I needed to belong to a man. Well that is taking the word “slave” and using it more like a verb, or action. Submissive or submission is more like a state of being, a personality trait. I am a slave and I submit to my Master. That makes me submissive. Goreans believe that women (some not all) are born with a slave heart. Basically that they are born with the intense need/drive to be owned. To seek out the strongest male of our species and beg his protection. To be held accountable for our actions. To have that “one” who we do all our days work for. To be “under the discipline” of such a person, and held to that high standard. I wish I could share here how being in Master Leonidas’s steel had improved me, but I don’t wish to write a book. *smiles* lets just say… I have never been happier than I am now. But then again, that is because this was right for me. I have found “the one”.

I wish all well, and happiness

In service,

edana

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/10/2005 7:06:45 AM   
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My sister appears to be more eloquent than I am lately :)

I live this way for a very simple reason. The philosophies explain me to me. Everything I have ever felt, everything I have ever looked for, is explained within the philosophies to an extent far greater than any other way I've learned about.

It gives me a sense of security, of safety, of consistancy, that I occupy the place in life that is right for me, feels right, I can be happy and content and at peace with. The discipline and control anchor me and protects me from trivial doubts and concerns that would snowball into huge issues otherwise.

I have a Master that values me, will protect me, will stop me making mistakes, will help me grow. I am free in ways I can't even begin to describe coherently, to not have to live up to the expectations of others, reasonable or otherwise, only the requirements of one. I'm free to feel, to express myself, to be happy. I am a sensual sexual creature and fully aware of it, I am allowed to be pretty, allowed to be female, allowed to be vibrant and alive, instead of being forbidden to be anything but an asexual "thing" as society wants everyone to be in the name of "equality"

Perhaps most of all, I know I am owned. And I am not only allowed to, but demanded to, revel in that fact.

And all I have to do is serve Him. Man, did I get the better end of the deal!

la kajira - I am a slave girl. And I am happier than I ever have been before in my life, and it just keeps getting better as I discover more within myself, drawn out because of the way I chose to live.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/10/2005 11:46:04 AM   
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Hi Leonidas. Nice slave girl you've got there.


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Where I don't agree is with the notion that every philosophical premise to be found in the books came from Aristotle. Aristotle didn't understand evolutionary biology, and the notion that natural selection should proceed unimpeded in mankind underlies much of what Norman wrote. Spinoza wrote that the business of a species is it's own survival. If you take that as the standard by which you define "right" you might just end up with an ethical system like what you find in the Gor books, where people who play with things like guns and bombs are summarily dispatched, and men are even distainful of weapons like crossbows, because with one a weak man can kill a stronger man without pitting his strength speed, and skill against him. Such a world is brutal, and unfair, and dangerous in the small, meaning that a given individual might be exposed to more risk. If, on the other hand, your underlying definition of "good" is "what is most fair and equitable to each and every man, and what brings the most possible comfort and ease to all", you'll end up with a world like ours. Cushy and "fair", docile and polite, but overpopulated, polluted, and dangerous in the large; where life is more "fair" and comfortable for any given man, but where the liklihood that our entire species, or at least large parts of it, will die in mass is much greater.


Yeah you are right. I didn't mean to make it sound like it was all lifted. In the discussions of naturalism by other scholars the elements you detail here do seem to come out inevitably.

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These aren't easy questions, and there aren't really right answers. Every answer has its own set of consequences. Goreans like me, as you pointed out, come down on the side that says our nature is good, and that survival of our species is indeed our business, and the basis of what is "right".

To the points that you stressed:

1. Among women very few will be natural submissive. 2-5 percent is probably accurate.

This is oft misquoted. In one book Norman mused that a relatively small percentage of the female population were slaves. What he had to say about submission was something different. He postulated that just about all women are potentially submissive. The only question is "to whom?". Goreans belive that every woman has competing drives. One drive is to seek out a partner to whom she can be an equal. The other drive is to seek out the champion, to whom she can only be a slave girl. We could spend a lot of time discussing why this might be so from a socio-biological point of view, but there you go.

That’s true, except what I meant was not to quote his percentages but my belief that he is wrong about modern earth females. I believe that only 2-5 percent of the female population are these natural submissives and slaves he was talking about. I believe also that there are "Grand Dame" (he might have called them tatrix) figures women who while they might be submissive to some men as he suggest are on the other side of the spectrum of dominant submissive. I also think that when you factor in submissive men into the equation it somewhat nullifies that women are submissive to men as a general rule, which I for whatever reason interpret Norman as saying. Indeed social biological evolution and history seem to show us that some men even without societal pressure are submissive to other men and women even outside homosexual relationships. (And if the crop of p*ssywhipped friends I grew up with is any indication it might be a really big percentage) I agree with his generalizations more where he took them out of the Gorean context and placed them in time slave. There he tried to illustrate how we all must have been before these societal pressures and I think that while cheesy, he was more successful. At the same time as someone who just accepts who I am it’s hard to argue with his over all suggestion/theory/philosophy
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Earthmen are stifled and repressed. Victorian society god bless em, neutered most men

I thought everyone knew that. Is it just we Goreans? <grin>

A true submissive is infinitely more interesting to men then a free woman

Ever noticed how men talk about the things they own more than they do the women in their life? What if they owned the women in their life? Something to ponder.

This is also one of my favorite concepts. And one I found to be oh so true when I did own a woman. Just like the truck I work on as a hobby everything had to be new and perfect. Instead of going home to the workshop I would anticipate an hour of walking training or testing her to make sure she was studying as hard in the school I put her in as she could be. A puzzle to be forever worked and never lose its fascination.
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The concept of "love slave" true match, mirror, and "the one' do exist. In modern society you can easily die trying to find them.

Well yes, but the trying is not without its own rewards.

How true. And something to keep in mind as I start the hunt again.
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To your original question, nella, our way of life, or "lifestyle" if you prefer, proceeds from these philosophical premises. The things that we value; strength, honor, commitment to home and community, freedom (and its counterpart, slavery), and love of the natural world can all be traced back to it. We own slaves, and we celebrate female slavery especially as something beautiful. That's really where the similarity between Goreans and the D/s community at large begins and ends.



I can't really add anything to what he is saying except maybe that the most important virtues I found in Gorean discussions were all to do with personal honor and integrity. Self-control and self-mastery, you can forget how to lie. Once you accept those fundamental core values for your own the rest falls into place.


Warning. Because it is more popular as with many of these ideas we explore, the Gorean philosophy enables poseurs and so on to just take on these traits like badges or masks by just saying "I'm Gorean". If you don’t have a good inner instinct for when you’re being conned the Gorean series can literally be a manual for guys who are users. This is no different then any other sub-culture like D/s or BDSM. As with everything you need to be very careful and really MEET people. When it comes down to it a truly genuine honorable man is the only man a woman should put her trust in to own her in any case and so the label we affix to it is unimportant. I’m sure that’s just common knowledge now but its worth repeating for newbies.

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RE: Strange fasiation aboute Gorean lifetyle. - 2/10/2005 12:44:07 PM   
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Thank you all of you for the information i am getting from this tread. it is an interesting topic and i now see that Gorean lifestyle is based on a strong philosophy. i am werry grateful for all the information i am getting.

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