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BDSM05478 -> painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 9:01:10 AM)

I was just thinking about my own situation and just realized something about myself.
When i was younger, I loved pain, could soak up a canning like a shiatsu... Now I rarely crave pain and when I do get spanked or worked really in anyway I find that even moderate play is too painful of a stimulus for me to transform.
I know that alot of people claim that they have been able to increase the amount of pain they can take over years. I have a therory about myself and why it is this way for me.....



toservez -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 9:30:50 AM)

That is interesting and would like to know, if your are willing to share, why you think your pain threshold has diminished. I have not heard of many who's threshold lowers significantly.

For me, I have not seen an increase or decrease in the amount of pain I can take. It still is a bunch of factors at a given time.




Celeste43 -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 11:24:44 AM)

Various things affect the ability to tolerate pain. Head space, physical health, hormonal changes, and having a break from it. So if you hadn't been in a relationship with someone who delivers pain for some time, then you lose your ability to tolerate it. Perimenopause and menopause do the same and indeed, many women say they can tolerate different amounts of it at different parts of their cycle. Medications and birth control pills.



LadyHugs -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 11:42:51 AM)

Dear BDSM05478, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I'll have to agree with Celeste's post.

Bodies are effected by change, even in working with male slaves/submissives, they also complain about the inability to deal with pain, like they 'use to.'

Another thing I wanted to add to Celeste's post and, that is if you have chronic pain it really effects the entire body.  Because humans aren't suppost to thrive on pain but to avoid pain, there will be that time where the body just shuts off pain period.  It doesn't even go into the pleasure spaces for masochists.

Pain is also an energy user.  Should you be in the position to try sitting on a bar stool and put your buttocks a bit over the edge and rest the rest of the body, that might aid in restoring energy to focus on the pain applied by your dominant/Master/SIR.

Sometimes, it is just a matter of tinkering with your body to find a fresh pain patch.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



BDSM05478 -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 5:51:08 PM)

Personally when I first started I was alot less empathitic and cut off emotionally from life in general. Pain was a way for me to connect to that oh so human side of myself. Now years later I am connected to the world inso many other ways and am no longer emotionally stunted that pain no longer brings me to the places it use too. I feel other things on a deeper level than I ever thought possible.



MagiksSlave -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 5:53:59 PM)

OK well you just answered your own question. You are a different person now then you where and while pain used to be a copeing mechanism it no longer is and there for your body no longer craves it!!!

Magik's slave



Missokyst -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 6:00:35 PM)

I can see this. 
If you have a chance, look up a song by:  Three Days Grace, called "PAIN".
It really does a good job of describing pain for pains sake.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: BDSM05478

Personally when I first started I was alot less empathitic and cut off emotionally from life in general. Pain was a way for me to connect to that oh so human side of myself. .



BDSM05478 -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 8:02:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

OK well you just answered your own question. You are a different person now then you where and while pain used to be a copeing mechanism it no longer is and there for your body no longer craves it!!!

Magik's slave


I know I did. I said I would.



MasterNdorei -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/12/2006 11:02:40 PM)

When i was new to BDSM and active in the local scene i found it very easy to go into head space. After having a bad experience with an irresponsible Dominant i was never able to go as deep, nor as easily as i once did. i process pain differently now. For me safety is the issue, but i can see a number of things in life changing how and why we process pain as we do...

Master's dorei



diamonddreamlove -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/13/2006 1:05:46 AM)

I would have sworn that pain was not something i would want.  I started only in the D/s part or so i thought then came bondage and now S&M.  There are certain stimulus that cause excrutiating scream RED pain and other pain that is just a pleasure.  With some health problems that involves a great deal of pain i believed that i would not want S & M.  I thought that the pain would be the same and unbareable.  The pain experienced is actully very different for me.  If i am in pain from the medical condition the S & M feels that much better because i can make it to subspace where no pain exhists for me.  Not sure i will let my dr. in on the secret cause i think he would have a problem with it but it works for me.  When i am emotionally in pain however the S & M tolerance is much reduced and i do not go to subspace at all.  My Dom has recognised this and so far is able to either help me figure out a way out of the emotional pain atleast temporarily or we simply do something else like talk to each other.  I will say that the first play time after my husband died was wow and i went deeply into subspace and did not want to come back.  It was most likly in my opinion because the emotional pain was so intense that the physical pain gave the emotional pain a much needed break so who knows how it all works for everyone else.  My Dom and i are just learning what works for us.



FangsNfeet -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/13/2006 3:12:05 AM)

Pain is what lets me know that I'm still alive. I would rather feel pain than nothing at all. However, it's the pain that gives me a power trip. It's the adrenalin rush I get to conquer the pain pushing myself further that gives me my hype. Sprains, soreness, pulled muscles, ingrown toe nails, and pinched nerves are not going to stop my work outs. 



bforbes62901 -> RE: painfull stimulus (11/13/2006 11:34:46 AM)

When I first started in the lifestyle, I could handle a great deal of pain and loved it.  A few years back I got pregnant and could not handle the pain of some of my favorite toys.  Now three years later I am finally wanting to try and rekindle so to speak my pain levels.  Finding the one to trust to do that is now the fun part.
Bev



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