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Question on humiliation...... - 2/6/2005 9:25:45 PM   
phoenix52


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Status: offline 		So i have a question for all the other subs out there.... if you enjoy humiliation, what do you think you get out of it?

My Master had told me He would be humiliating me at a public party this weekend, and while of course i went along with it, i really did not think i would enjoy it. Much to my surprise, i enjoyed it immensely... He stripped me down, called me a dirty whore, led me around on all fours by a leash, and made me drink out of a dog bowl. i was SOOOO excited, i never in a million years would have thought that i would have liked that!

So i am just curious what other people get out of it.... i am one of those people who always tries to figure out the "why" of things.
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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/6/2005 10:25:45 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		y'know, I think a lot of it hinges on what you find humiliating. To me, the actions you described are just arousing. :)

I consider myself to -detest- humiliation, because to me the word is too tied up in degredation.

So who knows.

I like things that make me feel a touch of embarasment, becuse they take me out of my comfort zone, and put me on the edge.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/7/2005 12:52:33 PM   
sting516


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Status: offline 		while i'd never really given why i like humiliation much thought...if i had to say, i'd guess it's because if i can be made to do things that could be considered humiliating, to me, it shows me how devoted to submission i am for the right Owner...after all...if it was easy, would it feel worthwhile?


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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/7/2005 4:39:27 PM   
realophelia


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So i am just curious what other people get out of it....


For me, it varies. At it's best I find humiliation to be an intimate, healing kind of a thing. It can also just be fun (as in puppy play) and not really feel very humiliating at all. I think the most important thing for me, is to feel accepted during any kind of humiliation play. The times I did not were not very good experiences.

~Ophelia

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/7/2005 5:45:34 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		Phoenix--this thread might give you a better idea of what others enjoy or find humiliating:

what acts are humiliating to you?

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/7/2005 6:24:40 PM   
Ojedieu


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ORIGINAL: realophelia

I think the most important thing for me, is to feel accepted during any kind of humiliation play. The times I did not were not very good experiences.

~Ophelia



Exactly. I enjoy verbal humiliation but don't think I'd enjoy what I percieve to be situational humiliation. Of course being called a slut, whore, etc. by my hubby is arousing because there is acceptance and love behind it. If he said them and meant them only to hurt, then it wouldn't be any fun.


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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/7/2005 8:02:37 PM   
nella


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Status: offline 		For me, i might get exited aboute things like eating out of a dog bowl or having to crwal, but verbal humiliation do nothing for me, if anything it make me respect the person less for i think it is tasteless, not that i by that is calling all that like that tasteless, it is just how i feel when done to me. I think that humiliation, like all other BDSM topics is a wide topic and what apeal to one do not nessesary apeal to another.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/8/2005 10:28:52 AM   
Alaina


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Status: offline 		I enjoy being humilated until I've climaxed and then I'm embarrased. I like having to kneel or crawl or being made to wait for my Master in a corner or by his feet until he's ready for me. I wouldn't want to be humilated in public though as our lifestyle is private

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/8/2005 3:22:22 PM   
mommysprincess


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Status: offline 		I find it so erotic when my Mistress tells me how proud of her slut she is. I guess because I need to be used and she needs to use me, the act of humiliation is either a verbal or situational playing out of that role. When she couples the verbal humiliation with an order to kneel and suck her strap-on cock while calling me her whore, well, there is nothing that excites me more than that. I need to give her all I can and she needs to take it. Sigh, it's a match made in heaven. C'est la vie, I guess.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/8/2005 4:23:02 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

So i have a question for all the other subs out there.... if you enjoy humiliation, what do you think you get out of it?


I cannot say I enjoy it or dislike it. I've never been put in a humiliating position. I'm a bit more flamboyant than my Dom if allowed to be me. So, I get the look when I'm going overboard. Shoes are on the other foot so to speak.
He calls me his whore...slut...or what have you. That isn't humiliating to me though.
Dunno.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/8/2005 6:14:18 PM   
strongnsubmissiv


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Status: offline 		For me humiliation isn't something i really enjoy. Like angelic above, somehow i tie degradation in with it and that bothers me. I strive for proud adoration from great service and obedience, somehow humiliation doesn't fit in there for me.

I do have to say though, once my Domme took me to a mutual friends house (who are in the know as well), and had me kneel before them and recite an opology for some shortcomings that she felt affected them. I hated every moment of it, and was severely humiliated. On a positive note though, that experience was great for mindset, and i never forgot the lesson i learned from it. A well humbled man i can be proud to be.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/20/2005 3:33:16 AM   
chainedgirl


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Status: offline 		i think, for me, the turn on is being controlled. Being made to do these acts that i would never do under other circumstances. And also the knowing that i have no control, that i have to do them or be punished.


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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/20/2005 9:44:19 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		To me humiliation is when someone intentionally puts someone else in
a humbled position towards them or others and knows that that is
exactly what's going on

Humiliation is simply far too individual to suggest what would be
humiliation to one person or another. I'm very difficult to
humiliate and that's part of why I love it so much- when someone
gets it right, it's amazing.

But there are different classes which can be generally humiliation
such objectification (either through usage or writing on the
person), exhibition, and introspection. I'm sure there's more we
could add but those seem to be the major ones. Each touches a
person in a way to force them to face their own ego, their own sense
of self and change how they relate to others because of it.

The most intensly humiliating experience I've had was done very
quietly, very simply, and no one around would have picked up on it
at all.

Someone once asked if I would feel humiliated if I was taken out to
dinner and then left on the curb with a leash while the others went
inside to eat.

My first question? Is it raining and have I eaten yet?

If I am hungry, or if I'm freezing cold, the LAST thing on my mind
is how humiliating it feels to be out there with a leash on.
Context is everything in humiliation, the littlest thing, externally
or internally can skew the whole thing. It's a very intense and
very precise balance.

I love humiliation partly because I'm such a self-secure person, it takes an intense wallop to get me to a very humbled headspace, so someone who CAN do that to me is very intuitive and VERY good at controlling my headspace- that's intense. I also LIKE that headspace, I LIKE being just an object to use/fuck/ignore, I LIKE knowing that my place of status is below the cats.

Why do I enjoy those things in particular? I'm not sure, I can tell you what buttons it pushes and what gets me there, but why THOSE buttons affect me but don't affect other people at all, I don't know.

But humiliation, degradation and objectification are some of my favorite things. It's a very love/hate relationship.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 2/20/2005 9:58:33 AM   
cuumsluut


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Status: offline 		It's a form of exhibitionism. There's just something about being made to feel small and yet significant that hits a pleasure button. You got to be the center of attention for a brief time and it was enjoyable by both you and those watching.

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RE: Question on humiliation...... - 3/7/2005 7:33:53 AM   
nymbus


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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

To me humiliation is when someone intentionally puts someone else in
a humbled position towards them or others and knows that that is
exactly what's going on


Good description. I like it because it makes me feel my place. And by that I mean, that I usually feel very small, and powerless when I'm humiliated. And I like feeling that way. So no matter how embarrasing it is, I love that he can make me feel that way, knowing that I won't do anything to stop it.

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