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MagiksSlave -> when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 5:51:11 PM)
Ok My Masters favorate thing is breast and nipple torture you know clamps and all, My nipples are a nice size but they just wont go hard when Master wants to use them!!!! My nipples have never been the kind that get hard easily though they do normaly get hard for cold and such it just seems that when Master wants to use them they just dont want to listen!!! he says they are even more willfull and bratty then I am!!! He usualy laughs it off and makes jokes but I know its a great inconvineance for him when they wont go hard and accept the nipple clamps or the clamps randomly fall off because my nipples arent going hard!!! I really try but it seems I have less controll over them then he does. Does things like this happen to others??? And does anyone have any advise about it?? Magik's slave

BitaTruble -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 5:52:55 PM)
Ice cubes. ;) Celeste

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 5:55:14 PM)
We tried ice cubes!!! they just made me slippery and then Master had even MORE trouble trying to get the clamps on!! Magik's slave

onlythewindknows -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:11:33 PM)
blue ice

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:13:05 PM)
What is blue ice?? Magik's frustrated slave

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:15:27 PM)
Uhhh laughing it off and going with something else...there's LOTS of ways to torture nipples without them being erect. If he really wants it, he should get inventive and creative. The body is what it is. If he wants to spend a few months doing some pavlovian conditioning on you, that might be a useful tool and help out- but just as discussed on the orgasm thread last week, usually when you put pressure on a submissive to perform in this manner- all it does is make them focus on their NOT doing it, rather than being able to relax and enjoy what you CAN do and get you closer to your goal.

Kalira -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:17:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave Ok My Masters favorate thing is breast and nipple torture you know clamps and all, My nipples are a nice size but they just wont go hard when Master wants to use them!!!! My nipples have never been the kind that get hard easily though they do normaly get hard for cold and such it just seems that when Master wants to use them they just dont want to listen!!! he says they are even more willfull and bratty then I am!!! He usualy laughs it off and makes jokes but I know its a great inconvineance for him when they wont go hard and accept the nipple clamps or the clamps randomly fall off because my nipples arent going hard!!! I really try but it seems I have less controll over them then he does. Does things like this happen to others??? And does anyone have any advise about it?? Magik's slave I have the same issue. I used to get so upset when that would happen with me. Master just has to spend a bit more time with me is all. /shrug

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:22:06 PM)
Master teases me about teaching them. But personaly to me even though he doesnt make a big deal of it and he really doesnt make a big deal of it it upset me a lot that they wont go errect. LA Master does do other things but I know there are things he really wants to do and that would be easier for him to do if my body would coaperate. He doesnt say much about it and he doesnt make a big deal of it in fact he handles it wonderfully but me it really upsets me I want to be what ever Master wants me to be and this is really starting to frustrate me. I feel like Im disobaying even though I cant controll it. Magik's slave

topcat -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:23:10 PM)
"dust-off"

SamKeithsslave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:23:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave Ok My Masters favorate thing is breast and nipple torture you know clamps and all, My nipples are a nice size but they just wont go hard when Master wants to use them!!!! My nipples have never been the kind that get hard easily though they do normaly get hard for cold and such it just seems that when Master wants to use them they just dont want to listen!!! he says they are even more willfull and bratty then I am!!! He usualy laughs it off and makes jokes but I know its a great inconvineance for him when they wont go hard and accept the nipple clamps or the clamps randomly fall off because my nipples arent going hard!!! I really try but it seems I have less controll over them then he does. Does things like this happen to others??? And does anyone have any advise about it?? Magik's slave Nipple piercings? Then the clamps have something to grip onto. Personally I'd go with a bar rather than a ring in this instance, but to each their own.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:28:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I feel like Im disobaying even though I cant controll it. Magik's slave So the problem is really your own irrational reaction to this issue. I can't tell you how to make irrational reactions go away except to realize and be aware that it is your own irrational need and expectation to be perfect and constantly pleasing, that it serves NO purpose other than to upset you and MAYBE even upset your master and that you really can and should simply laugh it off and focus on the GOOD. Letting go of perfection/pleasing is a difficult and long term battle for most slaves- but if you don't, you'll be a slave to your irrational expectations, not to your master.

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 6:33:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I feel like Im disobaying even though I cant controll it. Magik's slave So the problem is really your own irrational reaction to this issue. I can't tell you how to make irrational reactions go away except to realize and be aware that it is your own irrational need and expectation to be perfect and constantly pleasing, that it serves NO purpose other than to upset you and MAYBE even upset your master and that you really can and should simply laugh it off and focus on the GOOD. Letting go of perfection/pleasing is a difficult and long term battle for most slaves- but if you don't, you'll be a slave to your irrational expectations, not to your master. Yeah i guess it is my own irrationality. I was hopeing though people would know if there where salutions to this... I dont know what they wont go hard, I dont feel scared or anything that would cause them not too... maybe Im just odd!! Magik's slave

SweetSarijane -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 7:38:37 PM)
If you're odd then so am I. Mine are the same way. I just don't think about it much. They've always been like that. I still have fun as have my partners.

BDSM05478 -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 7:58:40 PM)
instead of clamps and such cause i have the same issues sometimes. Daddy makes littles little slip loops out of bootlaces and they can really capture the whole areola..... more of a nipple bondage i guess but sure is fun anyway!!

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 8:29:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: topcat "dust-off" HUH??

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 8:30:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSM05478 instead of clamps and such cause i have the same issues sometimes. Daddy makes littles little slip loops out of bootlaces and they can really capture the whole areola..... more of a nipple bondage i guess but sure is fun anyway!! Im not sure I completly understand how that would work... Magik's slave

diamonddreamlove -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 11:39:47 PM)
Dust off i think means just go on and don't worry about it so much. Your Master apparently does not feel cheated or would say so and be gone. Is like everything else in life some things just work different for certain folks. Don't know if you are sexual with your Master but if He could not perform would you want Him to feel bad about it? Things happen and time and patience sometimes help and sometimes there is no help. Accept the fact you can please Him in other ways.

ownedgirlie -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/12/2006 11:48:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave quote: ORIGINAL: topcat "dust-off" HUH?? Dust-Off is canned air. It's for cleaning computers and such. It's air that is forced (hard) out of a can and quite cold: http://shopping.yahoo.com/search?p=dust-off There are nipple suction devices that work (yet oh so painful). Trust me, you'll be poppin' balloons with 'em after that, lol.

eyesopened -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/13/2006 2:45:18 AM)
may i suggest that whenever one cannot change reality, change one's perception! The nipple is more than just that which protrudes, it includes the entire areola and one can get clamps to attach to skin very nicely. Change your definition of nipple and the problem goes away.

MagiksSlave -> RE: when the body wont do what the mind wants it too (11/13/2006 12:41:35 PM)
Thank you very much... some intersting Ideas I must say, and i will be talking to Master about them to see what he thinks. I think maybe I neeed to work on not beeing so sensative but that if any of this studd does help I know Id feel a lot better!! Magik's slave

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