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Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 6:09:18 AM

leatherzack

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Do Y/you think it is possible to stir out someone's Dominant side ?

And if it is possible what is the best way to do so and what result could be expected ?

Thank Y/you in advance.

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RE: Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 7:13:32 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: leatherzack
Do Y/you think it is possible to stir out someone's Dominant side ?

Yes, but you might not get what you really want.

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And if it is possible what is the best way to do so and what result could be expected ?

Thank Y/you in advance.

If you're lucky, you end up in a situation like a few people who end up having their husbands become great masters.

If you're like most of the people in the world, you end up frustrated, unhappy and unfulfilled.

Bringing out someones "dominance" isn't the same as getting them to do kinky things to you. As well, there's no telling whether their "level" of dominance will be compatible in the relationship to the other person at all.

While there are many ways to use energy between people to bring out new aspects of a person- there's no telling whether their entire orientation will develop in a way that will be compatible in the future.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_640054/mpage_1/key_eager%252Cpuppy/tm.htm#640068
Eliciting a more "domly" response from a master?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_485338/mpage_1/key_eager%252Cpuppy/tm.htm#485816
A vaguely confusing question

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Not much of a dom

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Master doesn't want to play

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He's a switch, I'm a sub, help!

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RE: Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 7:16:59 AM

medievalwench

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i think it is possible if the person actually has a dominant side strong enough to be drawn out. Initially my Master and i had a vanilla relationship, when the sex sort of petered out it became clear that what was missing was BD/SM, Master was naturally inclined in that way but had never had a partner who was sub and had never really allowed Himself to think about it. When my natural submission emerged He knew immediately what to do, it started with bedroom stuff and progressed over the years to 24/7.
Still at times He has to fight His conditioning as He comes from a very vanilla background and was almost 40 when we met so the Dominant side of Him had gone unfulfilled for a great deal of time. W/we have learned together and its great. i think the age gap in our relationship also helps in some ways as there are 18 years between us.

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RE: Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 8:10:13 AM

leatherzack

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Yes, but you might not get what you really want.

Could You please explain ?

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If you're like most of the people in the world, you end up frustrated, unhappy and unfulfilled.

Bringing out someones "dominance" isn't the same as getting them to do kinky things to you. As well, there's no telling whether their "level" of dominance will be compatible in the relationship to the other person at all.

i am already frustrated and unhappy so i am ready to try anything !!!

And i am not only looking for something kinky.

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RE: Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 10:39:17 AM

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Well, what if you get is a wife who thinks you should never be allowed to have sex with her again but instead had to watch while other men did, following which you were to lick him clean? Is that what you're looking for?

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RE: Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 10:47:49 AM

raiken

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ORIGINAL: leatherzack

Do Y/you think it is possible to stir out someone's Dominant side ?

And if it is possible what is the best way to do so and what result could be expected ?

Thank Y/you in advance.

Maybe it would help if you were more clear in explaining about the specifics of what you hope to find by bringing out someone's dominance.

LA and Celeste bring up some valid points to consider. If the chemistry is there and the person has a dominant side, it will become apparant. You and the other person need to click, and find out if you are each other's complements in the balance. Do you and the other person have the same goals and desires, and are you both on the same page in this?

My first thought is to remind you to be careful what you wish for when tinkering with energy in such ways.

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RE: Stiring out someone's Dominant side - 11/13/2006 8:10:21 PM

AlexAussieSub

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I would say that any woman is capable of becoming a Domme, but there are so few male Subs around (I know there seem to be a lot on collarme, but in terms of the general population the percentage is miniscule) that most will never become one.

The most vital thing you need to do is be comfortable with being a Sub. If you want other people to be happy with the way you are you need to be happy with it yourself, visiting a pro-Domme once or twice might help with this. Then what you want to do is seek value in her that doesn't originate from her being submissive, like where you can stick it in plain language. Women are desperate for this, look how many female friends gay guys have. Another thing you should do is make friends with other Dommes and introduce her to them.

I haven't got any fetishes but I'm guessing it wouldn't be too hard to get her into that. Your average woman spends a vast amount of time trying to work out what makes her look beautiful. If you don't believe me go to a department store and have a look around. Look at how many women buy lingerie. Your profile says your into leather, latex and PVC. If you mention a couple of times that she would look hot in leather for example, you've got a 99% chance that she will go out and buy some.

Good luck