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RE: After your first play session - 11/15/2006 3:13:01 AM

BohemianSub

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ORIGINAL: leatherzack

Well, my first session is a very bad souvenir.

It was with a so-called Dom who needed to break up the sub to reassure himself.

At least, as even after such a bad experience i still wanted to learn more about the lifestyle, it showed me that i was made for that.

i agree with this...a negative experience with positive results. But it did confirm that i was a sub and my second experience with a lifestle master and not a player, was wonderful. my head was spinning a bit but it was good - i also felt a bit naughty about it in my vanilla life which seemed to keep me aroused all the time....

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RE: After your first play session - 11/15/2006 7:57:22 AM

gemy

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ORIGINAL: Samwhiplash

Wondering if subs wld be so kind as to share their thoughts after their first play experience. Did it leave you confused, head spinning (in a good or bad way), questioning all that you have thought you are, or confirming everything you have always fantasised about?

Ty in advance.

Hi there *smiles* my first session was a public scene with two Dominants, a husband and wife - it was the most awesome experience of my life, and has brought me to do it again, and again, and again ~~

the night it happened, which was a saturday night, i was floating and happE - but also found myself aftwards to be EXTREMELY horny ,,,,, so almost totally overwhelming it was amazing ,,,,, but i was in DC at a hotel and no one was with me, so went to sleep and the next day felt fine ~~

i drove home sunday, feelling ok ,,,,, but monday OMG i was crying and depressed, wondering what i was doing by myself in this lifestyle, and just sooooo kinda down! but i shared with F/friends, found out it was not uncommon since, although i did receive some aftercare, i was thereafter alone and it had been such an overwhelming "up" that some kind of "down" should have been expected

but my first time was a true highlight in my long life, and i hope for more and more, both play-wise and intimacy and D/s wise, as time goes by ~~

Miss Sam

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RE: After your first play session - 11/15/2006 7:59:29 AM

gemy

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oops, didn't mean to put my response in the box *blushes* sorry

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RE: After your first play session - 11/15/2006 9:27:17 AM

princessrn

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like many my first time was a life changing experience i could of slept for a week afterwards yet with a big smile on my face ...
im sorry leatherzack yours wasnt and glad you went on from there ...

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RE: After your first play session - 11/15/2006 9:52:10 AM

slavemaia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Samwhiplash

Wondering if subs wld be so kind as to share their thoughts after their first play experience. Did it leave you confused, head spinning (in a good or bad way), questioning all that you have thought you are, or confirming everything you have always fantasised about?

Ty in advance.

Miss Sam

There's a major difference between my first "play" session and my first real surrender. Both had incredible effects on me. In "playing" with Doms i was not owned by, the physical sensations were more of the focus and submission was pretty superficial. i knew there was more but it took finding my Master to help me understand what it was that was missing. Yes, Master still "plays" with me, but it's a completely different experience now since my focus is on Him and not myself. Personally in a power exchange relationship i couldn't truly feel that exchange until i cared enough and trusted enough to give myself over to another.

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RE: After your first play session - 7/6/2007 5:49:18 PM

SirGordonslil

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemaia

quote:

ORIGINAL: Samwhiplash

Wondering if subs wld be so kind as to share their thoughts after their first play experience. Did it leave you confused, head spinning (in a good or bad way), questioning all that you have thought you are, or confirming everything you have always fantasised about?

Ty in advance.

Miss Sam

There's a major difference between my first "play" session and my first real surrender. Both had incredible effects on me. In "playing" with Doms i was not owned by, the physical sensations were more of the focus and submission was pretty superficial. i knew there was more but it took finding my Master to help me understand what it was that was missing. Yes, Master still "plays" with me, but it's a completely different experience now since my focus is on Him and not myself. Personally in a power exchange relationship i couldn't truly feel that exchange until i cared enough and trusted enough to give myself over to another.

well said slavemaia

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RE: After your first play session - 7/6/2007 6:48:12 PM

slaveofKaos

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My first experience was an awakening for me, it was extreamly intense and I was very nervous. It was 8 hours of play all types and when it was over I was left exhausted and very happy. I had a hard time thinking, there ws so much going on in my head. I am still in the lifestyle and love every minute of it.

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RE: After your first play session - 7/6/2007 9:11:33 PM

slaverosebeauty

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Samwhiplash
Wondering if subs wld be so kind as to share their thoughts after their first play experience. Did it leave you confused, head spinning (in a good or bad way), questioning all that you have thought you are, or confirming everything you have always fantasised about?

My FIRST 'official' play session was years ago {'uinofficially' I was in my teens, I remember those times very well, I won't share them on here since I was underage. What I remember of it was that it was new and things went slowly, I was so emersed in what was going on that I don't remember much about it.

My first play session with other partners has been fun. I have learned a LOT, some things that I liked and some that I didn't.

With MJ, it was great; my head was spinning, I was floating, He wanted verbal confirmation that I was ok, so I didn't go into subspace very far, but, it was incredible {purrrrs}. Those who read my lj blog know what went on, well, what I shared that is. With MJ, it confirmed what I thought of Him in a good way, it also brought those years of fantasizing about Him into reality; being friend helped a lot, but now, I have a newfound level of trust for Him among other things.

As for anything bad, nope, I know that I changed the rules for Him, He has had to up His game and change how we interact, He knows me well, and now that we have been together in an M/s dynamic, He has seen a side of me that few have seen; I am extreamly submissive and tame when I feel safe, and with MJ, I do. What peopel see on the baords is one side of me, what MJ saw was the 'real' me, He brought out that slave side of me, that I keep under close wraps.

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RE: After your first play session - 7/6/2007 9:25:30 PM

slaveluci

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It was more than I ever dreamed of. It was the most freeing, cathartic experience I've ever had in my life. It cemented the bond I already had with Master and it's a beautiful experience that we often think back on and talk about. I had never been so open with and connected to another person in my life. Wow, what a memory

!!!!...........luci

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RE: After your first play session - 7/6/2007 9:34:21 PM

mistoferin

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My first play experience was nearly 30 years ago. It was also my first sexual experience. It didn't really confuse or confirm anything, it just simply seemed natural.

edited to add that it really wasn't until a few years later that I realized that other people weren't all doing it the same way we were.

< Message edited by mistoferin -- 7/6/2007 9:36:08 PM >

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RE: After your first play session - 8/12/2007 6:40:21 PM

colocandy

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a trip down memory lane, of memories that were not so long ago, but seem so far away...

i died that night, and this life is much much better!
i was confused. and terrified. and thrilled. and alive!
i questioned myself, i doubted my abilities. i cried myself to sleep.

the next day i woke up stronger, and vibrant, and me.
i owe that Man so much for opening my eyes.

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RE: After your first play session - 8/12/2007 7:30:55 PM

charlotte12

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The first time someone ever put cuffs on me it felt like my entire body breathed a huge sigh of relief, like i was finally home. I won't talk about the rest of the "session" but that part was nice

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RE: After your first play session - 8/12/2007 8:09:10 PM

junecleaver

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I had broken my arm a couple months before the first time I ever did any 'real' s&m-ish type of activities. The doctor prescribed me vicadin for the pain. I just remember hitting this point during the session that felt very similar to vicadin and thinking that was really awesome.

The first time I was ever tied up for the sake of being tied up, I remember being very, 'Aw, it's over?' when he started untying me.

My first power exchange sort of thing...I just felt loved. :)

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RE: After your first play session - 8/12/2007 8:33:31 PM

denika

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I felt like I had found the missing peice of the puzzle.

denika

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RE: After your first play session - 8/13/2007 10:04:16 AM

SubJordanTyler

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It felt like I had found myself. I was naked and exposed in front of another woman and being whipped on the ass...........and loving it. While I had done anal play before, it was the first time I had been taken with a strap-on and couldn't believe how wonderful it felt. I had an orgasm that way and it was so powerful, I thought I was going to pass out. I knew this was where I belonged and I have loved every minute of it.

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RE: After your first play session - 8/13/2007 11:09:53 AM

Babybass

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Ater my first session i felt like i knew who i really was - i felt accepted, loved and respected. Our first session was an all night play session - so we got through a lot, and when it was over i fell asleep in his arms - completely contented. I felt stronger and more confident in the days after - as only being true to yourself can make you feel!!

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RE: After your first play session - 8/13/2007 11:21:28 AM

breatheasone

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I knew i wanted more...and i knew i wanted this as a life style not just a "play date" every now and then...

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RE: After your first play session - 8/13/2007 11:29:47 AM

SweetSarijane

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I was flying. I felt fantastic and definitely wanted more. Wanted to try so many things. Loved it.

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RE: After your first play session - 8/14/2007 1:52:15 AM

becca333

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I was purely on top of the world. It was different to what I expected, better, marvellous, totally amazing. I was high on the delight of having done such amazing things for real.

After more sessions together, I looked back and realised how carefully and lightly he'd played with me that first time. He was a perfect Dom for a beginner, taking me a little further each time. But that first time was a wonderful beginning.

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RE: After your first play session - 8/14/2007 3:50:46 PM

SayaNereida

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Miss Sam,

My first time was only 2 months ago, or so.

I felt floaty, at peace, calm, more myself than I’d ever been, understood, accepted, loved, cherished, sensual, sexy, desired, beautiful, emotionally open, confident, and so much more.

I felt a connection within myself as well as a connection to Ryu I had never felt before.

I felt like I had found ‘the thing’ that was missing; in me, previous relationship and even in the relationship with Ryu (although I didn’t really feel anything was truly missing before…if that makes sense).

I had never really given this type of relationship much thought, sure passing fantasies of being handcuffed or taken roughly, but nothing to the extent that we ‘played’ that night.

The few very mild fantasies I had before have been met and far exceeded.

When we went outside to smoke a cigarette, the colors seemed brighter and things looked surreal.

Ryu tried to question me as to how I enjoyed myself, I tried but I couldn’t really get the words in my head to come out of my mouth; and those that did, just sounded lacking.

I smiled a great deal, I reached out and touched him many times, I told him I loved him, I thanked him and I told him that no words I could come up with, no matter how long I tried, could adequately explain how I felt during or after.

It didn't cause me to question, it didn't answer any existing question and it didn't confirm anything for me or of me. It released ME.

I’m not sure exactly how, Ryu would need to explain, but he said he saw me change; I looked different, my energy felt different, I spoke differently and I behaved differently; with more of a sense of self.

You know, when I read the OP I thought, "Ohhh I get to talk about it, tell someone besides Ryu what it felt like".

Then I started writing and realized that I no more had the words today, than I did 2 months ago, but I certainly wanted to try.

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