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When I was searching I wrote a profile that scared a lot of people off, and that worked really well for me.

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ORIGINAL: ladychatterley

When I was searching I wrote a profile that scared a lot of people off, and that worked really well for me.  Back in vanilla world, I had tried not to intimidate people, but once I got here, I figured--what the hell--if 'quotidian,' 'PhD' and 'deconstruct' scare them, it wouldn't be a good match.  Looking at your profile, I might suggest you consider talking more about your interests in psychology and earth-based faith.  You might also consider, if there are things you want in the relationship, to be clearer about what you want from it.  It will turn off the men that aren't worth it and give the men that are worth it an easy way to strike up a conversation.

I also didn't have a picture (but mostly because I'm super protective of my privacy for professional, personal and what-I-want-to-do in 20 years reasons). 

Now I have deactivated my profile--I can use the message boards and send e-mail, but no one can e-mail me unless I e-mail them.  There are times I'd like another option (submissive women can e-mail me, or something like that), but I met a few people as friends that I liked and would like to keep that, but it just isn't worth it.

Finally, I would add, you do not owe anyone anything.  Don't feel like you need to reply to any message that isn't good for you.