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ProtagonistLily -> RE: did being a police officer make me sub?? (2/8/2005 9:42:34 AM)
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Do others find that their profession restricts their activities. I live away from big cities where being one of the crowd may be easier. I tend not to go to public events incase I am seen...
My profession totally limits me to some degree on how 'out' I can be about kink in my entire life. I live 2 lives, though I don't feel particularly stunted by this at all. I have brought some of my 'kink' friends into my vanilla life and they have crossed over quite nicely, though it's been on the rarer occasion that I've crossed my vanilla friends into kink. Discression being the better part of valor and all, I have been able to keep the 'hot side hot' and the 'cool side cool' so to speak.
The BDSM circle I travel in (and have travelled in for quite some time) has a high premium on confidentiality. Many know that I am very sensitive about my private life staying private. Because my 'vanilla' life currently is much higher profile than usual, I have stopped going to 'public' events such a munches and socials, and stick strictly to private, member only events or to private parties in friend's homes. Playing out of town has also become a viable option as well.
But these are all choices that I have made, not ones that society has forced me to make. I enjoy both sides of my life, and I'm not willing to give up one for the other. To me, that would mean that I was no longer a whole person. I'm much less likely to give up the vanilla things that I'm involved in for BDSM; BDSM is a part of me that makes up the entire person I am.
I think, on one level or another, we have all had to make sacrifices in order to balance out our lives, and that sacrifice on some level isn't unusual.
Good luck,
Lily
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