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lookng4u6565 -> Question about Relationship... (11/14/2006 9:34:05 PM)

I have been in an on-line D/s relationship for about 8 months now.  What started out as a fun experience on-line, has now become more.  We haven't met yet (live a few states away) but are planning to soon.  What are the odds of a romantic relationship developing with a Dom I have on-line?  I have definitely noticed a change in how he acts towards me, saying things like honey and sweetie and darling more and more. Is this behavior something most Doms/Dommes do?  Can I take it as my Dom has similar romantic feelings?  Any advice on this one?



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 5:56:12 AM)

It can work, but I don't think you can really know about actual chemistry until you meet in person.  Many former online Dom/mes and subs are in loving, long-term relationships, so it is possible.  Have you spoken on the phone?  Why don't you just ask your Dom about how he feels?



FLsubmalecd -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 6:32:01 AM)

I wish I could answer this for you based on what little information you shared with us. His merely saying words of endearment, like Honey, sweetheart etc. is not much to go on. What does he know about you? What do you know about him? How does he feel about a committed relationship? Do you trust him? How intimate have your talks with him been? And no, I do not mean intimate about just sex. Have you shared your inter-most, deepest desires, wishes and dreams with him, has he shared his deep thoughts with you? Does he call? Can you call him on the phone when you want to?

Now, assuming you can answer yes to all, or most of these things, then I'd say that yes, it is possible. I am living proof. Of course, I am a submissive male and don't know the mind of a Dom male. But a loving relationship is just that... be it D/s or not.   
I am in love with the Domme I met right here. We have met and have grown closer from that point on. In fact, it is Her wish and plan to move here. I can't wait! I wish you luck and love should he be the one.



canupleaseme -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 7:05:01 AM)

i met my boy online off bondage.com and what started out as merely friends talking developed over time to meeting up and then realsing n a big way how we felt about each other. I think it can work, sometimes i think you can learn more about each otehr by talkin online becasue you feel able to say more than you prehaps would face to face , having said that i didnt take much as gospel untill i had met him several times and knewhw wasnttalkin bulshit .But i do think it can work [:D]



MisPandora -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 7:16:41 AM)

Interesting that you're posting this in the Ask a Mistress section.  Perhaps addressing other female submissives or the male doms who've had this experience in your similar dynamic might give you different insight.



windchymes -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 7:22:15 AM)

It can work IF both parties want it to.  On the surface, it sounds as though he may be having romantic feelings.

On the flip side, unfortunately, there is always the chance that he's just enjoying the online fantasy and will back out at the last minute.  That happens too.

Just take it slowly, meet in real life first, and give out your heart in bits and pieces, not all at once.  And make sure you've been to HIS real life....make sure there are no hidden significant others lurking in the background.



pixelslave -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 8:25:25 AM)

quote:


Great minds discuss concepts. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss other people.


windchymes,
Great tag-line and so very true!  Is there an original source behind that or can you be quoted? [;)]

- pixel
*edited to fix formatting & typos*



windchymes -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 8:35:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

quote:


Great minds discuss concepts. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss other people.


windchymes,
Great tag-line and so very true!  Is there an original source behind that or can you be quoted? [;)]

- pixel
*edited to fix formatting & typos*



Well thank you! I wish I did know the author so I could give him the credit he deserves.  All my life I've collected little profound quotations and sayings, kind of a hobby.  This one is probably my favorite.  Feel free to use it![:)]



Celeste43 -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 8:50:42 AM)

We met online and did not meet until we had been talking several times a day for some weeks. We both had developed strong feelings for each other while at the same time knowing that we might be lacking that elusive chemistry. We were fortunate and found the real life connection to be very strong also. And yes we're very much in love.

We're still together and it's been over three years now. However for everyone who has a positive story, there will be one with a negative outcome. All you can do is meet and hope for the best.



MistressDolly -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 6:52:51 PM)


Hi looking4u6565, yes a romantic relationship can develop on-line- -anything is possible.  I'm not sure how you should interprete his change in behavior; again- - anything is possible. Some people use words of endearment often and it really doesn't mean much, and there are some who don't use those terms of endearment too frequently so when they do--it could be saying something.  Don't jump to conclusions.  Be open minded.  Eventually time will tell- -it always does.   (If you happen to be consumed with knowing, bring up the subject.  Talk about your feelings and inquire about his.  It's not a big deal.) Good luck.



UtopianRanger -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 7:51:03 PM)

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  What are the odds of a romantic relationship developing with a Dom I have on-line?  I have definitely noticed a change in how he acts towards me, saying things like honey and sweetie and darling more and more. Is this behavior something most Doms/Dommes do?  Can I take it as my Dom has similar romantic feelings?  Any advice on this one?



I wouldn't have it any other way. Try to forget how the status-quo has defined ''said'' behavior in terms of protocol, and just go with it if you like this guy.



JMHO


 - R



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 7:56:44 PM)

Angel and I met here. We were online without any interest in one another for a long while, then met face to face.  The romantic part started well after my first visit. It is completely possible to start those romantic feelings before you meet face to face, but they may change once you do meet.  Be prepared for that, face to face romance doesnt alwas perfectly mirror what you feel online.

DV



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Question about Relationship... (11/15/2006 10:44:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lookng4u6565
Any advice on this one?


Ask HIM if he has romantic feelings and share that you do.

Master Fire



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