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FLsubmalecd -> RE: Does being a Sub/Slave make you a stronger person? (11/15/2006 3:57:02 AM)
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I don't think so. I have other opinions as to why I am a submissive. Once I discovered this part of me, it became clear to me that I had always had the tendencies to submit, but never acted upon them until about 10 years ago. It explained to me why I have always put friend's needs before my own. What I mean is, I would take the time to help a friend, especially females, and let things I should be doing for myself go. I have always had a hard time saying "NO" to a friend that needed my help or time for whatever reason. I look at that as being a bad trait, not a good one. But still, it was service to another. Yes, I admit, some friends and acquaintances took advantage of my abilities and eagerness to help out.
Being stronger or more confident does not even enter into how I have changed since embracing my desire, need and participation in a loving D/s relationship. I have always considered myself strong and confident; complete with a healthy ego. OK, maybe some things in my life made me feel less confident or weaker. Like the fact that I am a cross dresser. That makes you question your strength as a man for sure. And my confidence was always zapped when it came to simply buying feminine clothes for myself for fear of discovery. Odd, had no problem shopping for those things at Christmas time or Valentines day....So confidence was it's normal high. lol But that is another story.
As for inner toughness...I have had to be tough since being orphaned at age 16 and thrust out in the world to fend for myself. My inner toughness came to me through my mother; A woman that raised 5 kids on a very limited income after my Dad died when I was 10. What she did, how she did it is also perhaps why I feel women are superior to men in many ways. She was one tough, strong lady. One so full of love and devotion even through the hard times. So maybe it is what I saw my mother accomplish and what she did to keep us kids clothed, housed and fed that makes me want to serve one deserving woman. It might also be part of the reason that I became a cross dresser at age 10-11. I so admired my mother and other women in my life that I wanted to be more like them.
So here I am at age 57, a proud male, so honored and thankful, to be in service to one beautiful strong confident woman, I am strong enough, tough enough, and confident enough to be proud to do all I can to please her and put Her wants, needs and desires before my own. If I can accomplish those things, i will remain one very happy proud submissive man for the rest of my life.
I hope this long response answered your questions. Or at least gave you some insight as to why some of us males so revere, admire, adore and respect women that we want to serve them.
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