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Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Dominant... - 11/16/2006 10:04:40 AM

dvart

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Perhaps those with more experience can help me out.

I have noticed quite a few woman who claim to be enslaved to a Master but their profiles say that they are still actively seeking dominant men. In some cases the profile says "property of x" but the rest of the profile indicates that they are still looking. In other cases they pop up in Forums describing themselves as "enslaved to y" and yet there is no mention of this in the profile.

Of course the obvious explanation is that people are lazy/forgetful and just don't get around to updating their profile and of course it could be as simple as this, end of discussion.

But I have the feeling that something more complicated is going on. I have no personal experience of slavery, but I had always thought of it as an extremely serious commitment. Surely if you enter into that commitment, you would find the time to update your profile and tell the world about your new status not least because leaving the profile as it is shows serious disrespect to your Master.

(By the way I am not talking of situations where a Master allows his slave to play with other people).

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:12:48 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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They could be poly.

But you're right- most likely it's because they just haven't gotten around to changing the profilel.

Second most likely- they are playing the field. Happens all the time.

People in Ms are just like everyone else, how many married people can you find seeking elsewhere for pleasure?

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:16:22 AM

dvart

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Second most likely- they are playing the field. Happens all the time.
People in Ms are just like everyone else, how many married people can you find seeking elsewhere for pleasure?

This makes sense for a subbie, but surely not for a slave ?
Doesn't being a slave imply an exclusive commitment?

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:17:54 AM

redpetals

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Untill Master found he could trust me I was not allowed to talk to other Doms.
There was a line..I could say.thank you very much for your interest but no thanks..
something like that..
Now I will talk to someone if I have the time, if they have something to discuss
that is of mutual interest.
Unfortunatly there is no short cut..
You must ask someone if they want to talk or you will not know.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:23:52 AM

Kalira

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I am owned. Yet, I see no reason to put in bold letters a fact that is alluded to all throughout my profile.

It does not show any disrespect to my owner at all. Nor does it lead others to believe that I am still playing the field; since in my journal I make it plain that I am not interested in others.

My active searches are the still the same also; they state friends, dominants, dommes, etc etc. I am open to talking with anyone. Just because I am owned does not mean that my communication skills with others suddenly goes away. Those that email me and get angry when they find I am owned; well, they should have read the whole profile, and taken the time to comprehend what is written there.

When I asked Master about this once, he said that he liked the way my profile was worded. So, I saw no reason to change it just because someone else thinks I should

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:25:45 AM

BitaTruble

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dvart

Perhaps those with more experience can help me out.

I have noticed quite a few woman who claim to be enslaved to a Master but their profiles say that they are still actively seeking dominant men. In some cases the profile says "property of x" but the rest of the profile indicates that they are still looking. In other cases they pop up in Forums describing themselves as "enslaved to y" and yet there is no mention of this in the profile.

But I have the feeling that something more complicated is going on. I have no personal experience of slavery, but I had always thought of it as an extremely serious commitment. Surely if you enter into that commitment, you would find the time to update your profile and tell the world about your new status not least because leaving the profile as it is shows serious disrespect to your Master.

I'm not sure, exactly, what sort of help you are looking for here. If someone has 'actively' seeking but their profile proclaims something different, I'd go with the profile as many just forget to uncheck boxes when their status changes. In addition, one can be actively seeking dominants for friends, munches, poly etc and still be enslaved to someone else. There are many reasons one might have it on their profile and under the 'actively' section especially if they have also checked they seek friendships. The main thing is, though, if you don't want to get involved with these people, just pass them by. No biggie.

Celeste

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:28:01 AM

mnottertail

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quote:

gotten around to changing the profilel.

Hahahahahaha,

LA made a spelling error.

It is a sad day when I can't find anything humorous to post on, and I have to dog LA's ass and look for something that isn't picture perfect in her posts.

Will the madness never end?

Ron

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:35:36 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dvart
This makes sense for a subbie, but surely not for a slave ?
Doesn't being a slave imply an exclusive commitment?

People are people. "Slaves" don't get some special slave fairy dust that makes them somehow magically more serious, or how you define "serious" and "respectful."

And no, slave does not imply an exclusive commitment at all.

I'll let you off this time for the use of the "s" word though.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 10:37:35 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail
It is a sad day when I can't find anything humorous to post on, and I have to dog LA's ass and look for something that isn't picture perfect in her posts.

Will the madness never end?

Ron

LOL will your internet connection ever go down? :) It's mostly funny because I know I've made plenty of other errors in the past day.

And I don't do anal with dogs.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 11:15:45 AM

KatyLied

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I want some special sub fairy dust....

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 11:38:47 AM

Squeakers

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LA I didn't consider it a spelling error just that your left hand types quicker than your right. Maybe it's the other way around, I have never been good at left and right---I point it's safer especially when giving directions to a driver. Smiles.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 12:00:33 PM

littleone35

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Well i know after Master and i got together i saw he still had he was seeking submissive women and i asked him about it. He was not sure how to change it,i had changed mine so i had figured it out and showed him so he changed it and all was well. I think some people just do not know how to change it once they find a Master/ Mistress.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 12:57:43 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Squeakers
LA I didn't consider it a spelling error just that your left hand types quicker than your right. Maybe it's the other way around, I have never been good at left and right---I point it's safer especially when giving directions to a driver. Smiles.

*ding* Duh light goes on...I've been having increasing trouble with my typing lately in that my fingers get ahead of my words and letters become jumbled together. I touch type so I figured maybe I was just getting lazy...but this actually makes a lot of sense.

Or I really am just getting lazy with my typing.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 3:42:21 PM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dvart

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Second most likely- they are playing the field. Happens all the time.
People in Ms are just like everyone else, how many married people can you find seeking elsewhere for pleasure?

This makes sense for a subbie, but surely not for a slave ?
Doesn't being a slave imply an exclusive commitment?

No more then a wedding ring does. A cheater is a cheater regardless of the level of commitment they profess.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 3:43:47 PM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I want some special sub fairy dust....

Would it give you wings? I'm not a slave but that could really help in cleaning the house.

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 4:03:47 PM

MasterFireMaam

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dvart

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Second most likely- they are playing the field. Happens all the time.
People in Ms are just like everyone else, how many married people can you find seeking elsewhere for pleasure?

This makes sense for a subbie, but surely not for a slave ?
Doesn't being a slave imply an exclusive commitment?

No, it doesn't. My girl is my slave. However, she also has a husband, a male sexual Dominant and a female SM Dominant. We all know one another. What commitment means and the degree of poly varies from relationship to relationship.

Master Fire

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 4:05:53 PM

MasterFireMaam

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dvart

Perhaps those with more experience can help me out.

I have noticed quite a few woman who claim to be enslaved to a Master but their profiles say that they are still actively seeking dominant men. In some cases the profile says "property of x" but the rest of the profile indicates that they are still looking. In other cases they pop up in Forums describing themselves as "enslaved to y" and yet there is no mention of this in the profile.

Of course the obvious explanation is that people are lazy/forgetful and just don't get around to updating their profile and of course it could be as simple as this, end of discussion.

But I have the feeling that something more complicated is going on. I have no personal experience of slavery, but I had always thought of it as an extremely serious commitment. Surely if you enter into that commitment, you would find the time to update your profile and tell the world about your new status not least because leaving the profile as it is shows serious disrespect to your Master.

(By the way I am not talking of situations where a Master allows his slave to play with other people).

Some people may be doing this legit: they have a Master who has given them a collar of protection, or some such. If you're interested in someone, ask who their Master is and contact them for the info.

Master Fire

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/16/2006 5:59:50 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
Would it give you wings? I'm not a slave but that could really help in cleaning the house.

No wings, but I'll give you a special Fairy Dust Number you can put anywhere online to show everyone that you have been deemed Worthy of Slave Fairy Dusting and feel all special about it.

Oh wait...

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/17/2006 8:22:43 AM

Arpig

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And I don't do anal with dogs.

Damn!!!
One more fantasy involving LA that will have to go unfulfilled!!!

Grumble, grumble, complain...down Rover!, down!

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RE: Enslaved to "y" but actively seeking Domi... - 11/17/2006 8:24:28 AM

mnottertail

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But I bet she can link the shit outta that.

LOL,
Ron

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